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Intentions And Effects, by Gary Zukav

FaceBook  On Oct 15, 2018 david doane wrote:

 I think nonlocal correlation is a more accurate term than non physical law of cause and effect.  Intentions, if they are chosen consciously or unconsciously, are factors in non local correlation of energy and life, and there are many additional factors, conscious and unconscious, that contribute to outcome.  We don't operate by mechanical cause and effect at any level, even when we think we do.  We aren't "entirely free" to create what we want no matter what law we are aware of or believe in.  Moving forward, consciously choosing our causes or intentions means choosing them with awareness and intentionality.  My intentions have a limiting effect on my experience, so I'd better consciously choose intentions that open and not close my experience.  My primary intention is to grow and blossom, become all that I can, and that intention seems to leave me open to broad experience and not put blinders on my seeing.  What helps me be aware of the intentions I choose is remembering that my purpose is to grow and remembering that my intentions move me toward or away from fulfilling my purpose, so I better be aware of my intentions and choose intentions that move me toward fulfiing my purpose.

 

You Must Shout From The Heart, by Ken Wilber

FaceBook  On Oct 6, 2018 david doane wrote:

 I love this powerful and poetic shout from Ken Wilber.  It took me a long time to share my truth, initially timidly and then with less and less timidity, and eventually occasionally shouting.  And I have slowly developed a disciplined sharing grounded in compassion, and when I do such I feel full and happy.  I remind myself daily that I have the right, responsibility, and privilege to express my truth, and lately it's also become my pleasure.  I am part of this world, part of one whole, and how I am affects the whole and vice versa.  This is my truth, it has been transformative, and at times it expresses as a transformative shout roared from my heart.  What helps me proceed carefully is knowing that there are dangers in this beautiful world, and I want to proceed in a way that contributes to healing and transformation and not be reckless or stupid and cut my own throat or cause hurt to anyone.

 

​Perspective, by Aaron Zehah

FaceBook  On Sep 30, 2018 david doane wrote:

 I see the effects of our experience and perspective being circular, shaping one another, the circular process starting with experience which to me is basic and primary.  Oscar Wilde said, "Nothing worth knowing can be taught."  That is, it's learned by experience which shapes our perspective which shapes our experience.  That's what happened in Aaron Zehah's story.  Once the man experienced the increased crowding in his little home, his perspective changed.  And with a different perspective his experience in his home changed.  In all matters, my experiences have ongoingly shaped my perspective whch has shaped my experience.

 

The World Mirrors The Soul And The Soul Mirrors The World, by Alan Watts

FaceBook  On Sep 23, 2018 david doane wrote:

 I've come to know that I am in the world and the world is in me, the forces that operate in the world are the same as the forces that operate in me, and I and the world are made of the same stuff.  More than the world mirrors the soul and the soul mirrors the world, the soul and the world are one.  At this point, I know always that each of us has in us every aspect of human life, including the good, the bad, and the ugly.  I have it in me to be a saint and a sinner, a nurturer and a killer, a giver and a taker, a helper and an abuser, compassionate and hostile.  What I am has to do with my choices, and my choices have to do with a multitude of factors most of which are beyond my comprehension.  I've been fortunate -- I have enjoyed many positive circumstances.  As for any and every option, "there but for the grace of God go I."

 

The Work Of Love Is To Love, by Mark Nepo

FaceBook  On Sep 16, 2018 david doane wrote:

 I agree that the work of love is to love.  Love without action is theoretical and meaningless.  Love put into action enhances the other and the person expressing the love.  Love put into action grows and spreads.  In holding another and listening deeply, I wasn't conscious of hearing the mystery of all life and the ocean of my own blood, which phrases I love, but that is what happened.  I know that all that is is one and we are one, and holding and listening are a natural expression of that.  In the process of holding and listening to another, I am holding and listening to myself, I am being how I am meant to be and doing what I am meant to do.  When I do dare to hold close those forced to the ground, it's knowing all this that helps me dare.  I know that in such moments I am vulnerable, and the satisfaction of love in action is worth the risk.

 

The Question Of Being, by Adyashanti

FaceBook  On Sep 8, 2018 david doane wrote:

 We're all asleep and in denial in some ways and to some extent.  The essence of me is my soul, which isn't really mine and it's more accurate to say I belong to it rather than it belongs to me.  This soul that I call mine is the extension of Soul or Being and is the essence of me.  Busyness more than anything gets in my way of focusing more on my soul.  I'm too often busy doing instead of being.  A baby is simply and purely being.  Little children are good at being.  I believe that's why Jesus said unless you become like little children you won't enter heaven, which is here and now to the extent we are being.  Being is most important and whatever helps one awaken to Being is important to do.  I was in a state of unconscious sleep walking through my teens, unconsciously abiding by the rules and beliefs about life that I had learned, and in my early twenties I began to what I believe was to see what is, see beyond the shoulds and illusions, and begin to open my eyes to spiritual enlightenment.  It's been a slow and unsteady process since then.  Now I know, as wise others have said, I am a spiritual being having a human experience, not a human being having an occasional spiritual experience.  What helps me bring forth what is deepest in me is the process of doing it, with the help of tools like reading, reflection, meditation, discussion.  More leads to more.

 

Sense Of Self Is An Essential Skill Of Mind, by Paul Fleischman

FaceBook  On Sep 1, 2018 david doane wrote:

 My sense of self definitely is a creation -- however, it is a creation of much more than my mind -- it is a creation of consciousness of which I am a part.  And my mind is also a creation of that same consciousness.  I began becoming aware of myself as an "integrative psychological system," not that I ever knew or used that term, more than 40 years ago and have been developing as an "integrative psychological system" ever since, and probably long before.  I am a system that is part of larger and larger systems, and I am in the process, three steps forward and two steps backward, of becoming more and more whole with self, others, and all that is.  For me, that is what life is about.  Knowing that I am a unique expression of Creation, with the opportunity, responsibility and privilege to be that, helps me respect myself.  Of course I don't dismiss myself because I am a creation -- everything is a creation -- I value myself as a creation.  The thing to dismiss is the false or illusory self that thinks it is separate and all that is.

 

Bedrock On Which We All Stand, by J. Krishnamurti

FaceBook  On Sep 1, 2018 david doane wrote:

 Congratulations, Chris, on doing what you did.  Seems to me it took courage for you to get involved as you did, and apparently some good came from it.  Your story is inspiring for me.  Thanks for sharing.

 

Bedrock On Which We All Stand, by J. Krishnamurti

FaceBook  On Aug 25, 2018 David Doane wrote:

I love what Krisnamurti wrote in this essay.  Religion and politics have gotten very caught up in dualistic separatist thinking, so we need to get beyond where they are to get to unitive thinking, to realize that everything is related and we really are cocreators in our own conditioning, and until we realize that the best we’ll get to is to blame religion and politics and paint ourselves to be victims of them.  I was full of certitude and arrogance regarding the religion I was born into, and I guess I had enough open mindedness to I hope see what is.  Openness and good fortune help me see beyond.  Wholeness and truth are satisfying and are their own reward.

 

Fueled By Love, by Timber Hawkeye

FaceBook  On Aug 20, 2018 David Doane wrote:

Parents and anyone of us who resort to violence to protect their kids and loved ones are being violent.  There is no justified violence  — violence is unnecessary.  When I’m violent, I’m violent just like any other violent person.  A person’s violence may be partially fueled by love, but is likely primarily fueled primarily by ignorance and underlying violence.  People who are hateful, racist, homophobic or prejudiced aren’t simply defending what they hold dear, they are responding from underlying anger and violence and from their reptilian brain and choosing fight and violence instead of flight.  A person being violent may be seen as a freedom fighter, but he’ being a fighter of freedom and not a fighter for freedom.  Seeing violence through the eyes of love may decrease the violence but it doesn’t make the violence an act of love.  As Thich Naat Hahn said, when we hate the hater we become a hater.  Likewise, when we are violent to a violent person we are are violent ourselves.  Yes, it is possible to a person who is violent.  That shift in my heart isn’t subtle, it’s major.  What helps me make the shift is reminding myself that violence fosters violence and nonviolence reduces violence in the hater and in me.

 

The Practice Of Soft Eyes, by Parker Palmer

FaceBook  On Aug 11, 2018 david doane wrote:

 For me, having soft eyes means being open to hopefully see what is, not just see my thinking or prejudices or expectations or preconceived judgments.  Having soft eyes means being open and welcoming, not closed and defensive.  A personal example is that I went from narrow religous beliefs that I defended as a child to widening my spiritual periphery as I got older.  I think I became open to truth wherever it was to be found. I opened my eyes and learned from various traditions and disciplines.  What helps me develop soft eyes is openness to learn, having an attitude of searching, openness to my mind changing and evolving rather than being rigidly set, and valuing the truth.

 

Stopping The War, by Jack Kornfield

FaceBook  On Aug 5, 2018 david doane wrote:

 Jack Kornfield's words remind me of Gandhi's exhortation to be the change you want to see in the world, and  Buddhism's emphasis on detachment.  I hear Kornfield's exhortation as one to let go of our hectic runing, our addictions and our denial, and stop, look inward, listen, find our self, be open and real and vulnerable with ourself and with one another.  This is the way to stop the war within and without.  Running from self, anger and war are not necessary.  We can be the peace we want to see in the world, and being the peace is probably the only way to get to peace in the world.  My stepping out of the battle, at least somewhat and sometimes, has been a long process, and really a wonderful one that brings me increased peace and contentment.  I think the essential ingredient is looking inward and seeing that my primary war is within me, and accomplishing peace within is the most I can do for peace without.  What helps me look at  what's realy within me is honesty with myself, openness to input from others, and the growth and peace that result from it.

 

Live Like The Roar In A Lion's Throat, by Pavithra Mehta

FaceBook  On Jul 30, 2018 david doane wrote:

 When expressed, the lion's roar is powerful, heeded, respected, and even feared.  When held in the cave of the lion's throat, there is no roar to be heard.  I'm much more fulfilled when I live like the lion's roar, which means embracing and expressing my real self, rather than keeping me in my cave, unheard and unknown.  When I live like the lion's roar, I explode my flavor into everyting, and I make a difference.  I have done that many times, which is satisfying.  I have also imploded or held me in or toned me down many times which is frustrating and dissatisfying.  What helps me be like the wick in a candle, on fire and alive, is accepting and expressing my self, which sometimes takes courage and usually is rewarding..

 

Communication As Mutual Entrainment, by Ursula LeGuin

FaceBook  On Jul 23, 2018 david doane wrote:

What I say may be for the other a seed that blossoms into a breathtaking flower or it may reduce me in the other's mind to a withering weed.  I hope for the former, and know that I don't control how the other responds.  There is always unpredictability in communication.  What I do control and what is my resonsibility is to compassionately express my truth.  The control and choice we have is in what and how we communicate.  Hopefully we communicate in a way that is entrainment, which the author says physicists call mutual phase locking.  It's mutual heart to heart and even soul to soul interconnection, intervibration, synchrony.  I felt such entrainment recently as I was with a group of long time close friends.  It's entrainment being enlivening and fulfilling that helps me stay committed to it.  We are most healthy and happy when there is entrainment.  Like it or not, we are intersubjective, we do communicate, and with effort we can entrain. 

 

We Want Relief. Cure Is Painful, by Anthony de Mello

FaceBook  On Jul 14, 2018 david doane wrote:

 I don't agree with the aulthor that people don't want to be cured.  People do want to be cured.  Cure feels good.  And being cured is passive, and people do want to passively be cured and feel good.  What people don't want is to change, and cure requires change.  Cure can be painful, but not necessarily; temporary relief can be pain free, but not necessarily.  I've done some curing in speaking my truth, which has been change for me.  Relief would have been to keep my truth to myself, which I found out was not a relief at all.  Many times we want relief and cure without change.  In our culture, we often seek relief and cure through drugs, legal and illegal ones.  Drug use is usually an example of seeking relief and cure through an alternative to change.  Alternatives to change at best provide relief, not cure, and the relief is typically temporary and often make matters worse.  Learning such lessons helps me prefer change that cures to alternatives to change that at best provide temporary relief.

 

Perception Is A Mirror, by Edited by Frances Vaughan and Roger Walsh

FaceBook  On Jul 6, 2018 david doane wrote:

 I don't believe whatever I want -- I believe what I believe.  I don't directly or willfully change what I believe.  I can have new experiences and learn, and my beliefs change with new experiences and learning.  My beliefs definitely shape what I see, and what I see shapes my beliefs.  As my beliefs have changed over time, my perceptions of myself, of others, of the world, of life have changed.  What helps me be aware of the beliefs that are shaping my perception is taking my beliefs seriously, paying attention to my beliefs and to changes in my beliefs, thinking about what my beliefs are, questioning and examining my beliefs, and being open. 

 

Where's Your Umbrella?, by Nazeer Ahmed

FaceBook  On Jun 30, 2018 david doane wrote:

 I think the siblings' strong commitment was to their faith, not to the unknown.  Being present to the unknown is being present to not knowing.  The siblings were certain that their prayer would be answered and it would rain -- they were being present to their faith that it would rain.  My commitment to being present to the unknown has grown over the years.  We don't know.  There is no certainty.  An action that emerged from my commitment to being present to the unknown is simply speaking my truth, letting go of trying to make a certain outcome happen, and trusting the process.  What helps me develop that commitment is experiencing the spontaneous, alive, creative good that comes from it.

 

Action Without Desire Of Outcomes, by Vinoba Bhave

FaceBook  On Jun 25, 2018 david doane wrote:

 The desire to impress others is a problem and can be ugly because it's a desire to do something that I don't have the power to do.  I can't make anyone be impressed or unimpressed.  I can't make anyone do or feel anything.  I can perform right action, which is my responsibility.  Right action is constructive expression of my experience in the moment.  Right action does not involve trying to control outcome.  Right action is love.  Work is action, and work that is the right action is love made visible.  When I trust my truth and put it into right action without being goal directed and without trying to control outcome, I am trusting the process and I am loving and my love is made visible.  I can give up trying to control outcome without giving up right action, and knowing that helps me avoid attachment to outcome without giving up work. 

 

Don't Side With Yourself , by Joseph Goldstein

FaceBook  On Jun 17, 2018 david doane wrote:

 I think 'don't side with yourself' means to not cling to a judgment, and instead stay open to what is and side with truth.  As the Buddhists say, "Always have the beginner's mind."  The author says wisdom opens us to the experience of selflessness.  I put the emphasis the other way around, ie, selflessness opens us to wisdom.  An example of my seeing through my own conditioning is when I saw through my conditioned anger and realized that anger is not a necessary emotion.  I can disagree, object, assert, refuse without becoming angry.  My feelings of self-rightousness sneak up on me, and transcending such feelings is more difficult.  What helps me see my feelings with mindfulness is learning to be mindful, that is, learning to pay attention, be aware, be present, be open, not attach to any one feeling, and stay away from trying to control outcome.

 

Somehow I'm Always Held, by Jeff Foster

FaceBook  On Jun 9, 2018 david doane wrote:

 As I am part of life, I am held in life.  As the author says, there is no plan, there is only life, and when I cooperate with life rather than fight against it or try to manipulate it or try to make it fit my plan, I am held by it. When I engage in right action and right process, I am doing my part, and I am held in life, including under trying circumstances. The satisfaction and good outcome that come from engaging in right action and right process, rather than trying to control outcome, help me remember that I am held in life. 

 

Three Types Of Leadership, by Marty Krasney

FaceBook  On Jun 3, 2018 david doane wrote:

 I agree with the author's description of force leadership.  I see trade as trade, not as a form of leadership.  In love leadership, I see the leader being the union of the participants as they bilaterally establish a respectful, compassionate, loving cooperative effort.  My marriage is often love leadership as we have become a loving, respectful, working together team.  What helps me elevate leadership to love leadership is seeing us who are in some joint project as in it together, being respectful and kind to one another, expressing and valuing one another's contributions, and seeing us as peers.  A full love leadership necessitates peership.  In any hierarchical or older generation-younger generation situation (such as parent-child, boss-employee, teacher-student), love is important and makes the situation more enjoyable and perhaps more productive, but the parent or boss or teacher is the in charge leader so it's not a love leadership in the fullest sense. 

 

Keeping Quiet, by Pablo Neruda

FaceBook  On May 26, 2018 david doane wrote:

 In reading this passage, some of my favorite quotes come to mind.  Rumi said, "Silence is the language of God, all else is a poor translation."  According to Pascal, "All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone."  And Lin Yutang's "If you can spend a perfectly useless afternoon in a perfectly useless manner, you have learned how to live."  'Do nothing' means to me to do no thing, and simply be mindfully present.  I allowed life to interrupt sadness when I paused to sit in my back yard, took in the beauty of nature, settled into it, felt together with it, and felt soothed and nurtured by it.  Such moments are an example of 'keep on moving' by being goallessly present in the flow of life which is very different than keeping our lives moving by determined goal-direct effort.

 

Exhausting Quest For Perfection, by Brene Brown

FaceBook  On May 19, 2018 david doane wrote:

 The quest for perfection is exhausting because it's unnecessary goal-directed hard work.  Perfection has much more to do with allowing rather than seeking.  I haven't completely let go of what others think of me, but I have loosened my grip.  I have gotten positive feedback when I say what is true for me rather than hold back or be inauthentic out of concern about what they might think.  It helps me to remind myself that I have the right and responsibility to be me and express my truth.  It helps me to have felt more regret when I don't express my authentic self than when I do.  It helps me to get support and appreciation for what I have to say.  I like to be known, and it helps me to know that in being authentic I become known.

 

Death Connects Us To Life, by Somik Raha

FaceBook  On May 11, 2018 david doane wrote:

 Yes, the soul is eternal and continues to be present, and death of the body and loss of the physical presence is still a significant death and loss.  It is my experience that grieving creates a space for safely connecting to one's feelings.  When my father died, I sobbed like I hadn't sobbed since I was a child or maybe ever.  I was aware as I was sobbing that I was sobbing, that I was letting myself sob, that it was coming from a deep place within me, that it felt good, and that I was sobbing not ony about my father's death but also about a lot of things for which I had never let my self sob.  My sobbing was emptying and cleansing.  It was an expression of my grieving fully and authentically, and in it I did find wholeness and joy.  I didn't feel wrecked by my grief and sobbing but felt wide open and more together and whole as I was accepting and allowing and feeling my grief and sobbing.  My father died 23 years ago and the experience is still  clear and present in me. 

 

Who Do We Choose To Be?, by Margaret Wheatley

FaceBook  On May 5, 2018 david doane wrote:

 I don't agree with Ms. Wheatley that large-scale change is not possible.  Anything is possible, including large-scale change, and there have been many examples of large-scale change throughout history.  I've been with a few extraordinary people who were leaders by the power of their personhood and wisdom and created islands of sanity.  The group of us that were part of such an island were raised to a higher level of personal and interpersonal functioning by the presence of the leader, and it was a joy to be part of the experience.  What helps me commit to creating my own island of sanity is knowing it is possible, knowing I have the wisdom to do it whether it is an island of just me or of a group of people, and knowing that the primary ingredient is to be myself.

 

Dropping Out, Like The Buddha, by Jane Brunette

FaceBook  On Apr 28, 2018 david doane wrote:

 Martin Luther King advocated nonviolence.  Speaking truth doesn't mean violence or even anger.  We can object and speak truth nonviolently.  The Buddha didn't face the reality of suffering -- he faced the reality of pain.  The point isn't to end suffering; the point is to end suffering that is ineffective and creates unnecessary pain.  He learned, possibly precipitated by the milkmaid, how to suffer pain efficiently, in a way that is in harmony with life rather than fighting life.  We never know anything for sure.  We definitely can do the best with what we have --  we can do right action.  Dropping out is action, it's not doing nothing.  Dropping out can mean accepting one's truth, not accepting the given story.  I have dropped out of the company line and dropped into my line, and found my peace.  Life is made of opposites or dialectics, such as life and death, individuality and belonging, right brain and left brain, role and personhood, and an important part of my truth is finding balance in the dialectics, not by rule but by discovery.

 

Recycling Karmic Trash, by Shinzen Young

FaceBook  On Apr 23, 2018 david doane wrote:

 We are constantly interconnected with all that is, so we are constantly affected by and affecting all that is, living and not living, human and not human.  Life provides pain.  Pain is part of life, and we are constantly affecting and affected by pain.  We provide suffering.  Suffering is how we carry and deal with pain.  Experiencing the sensory arising can be suffering of pain, be it endogenous or exogenous, in a way that doesn't add to or create unnecessary pain.  We are individual and one -- not one, not two, one and two.  It is important to know what is my responsibility and what is not, as the serenity prayer points out so well.  Knowing that is a valuable part of my spirituality and doesn't detract from it. 

 

Seven Stages Of The Ego, by Rumi, as told by Elif Shafak

FaceBook  On Apr 15, 2018 david doane wrote:

 The seven stages of the self make sense to me.  I think I became aware of being in a stage when I was in stage 3, Inspired Nafs, as I felt some sense of surrender to life and some sense that further growth was to come.  In this stage, I was aware that new awareness was happening for me, and I was aware of many questions and had a sense that more understanding was coming.  I think I have had experience in stage 4, some brief experience in stage 5, and at least gotten my toe occasionally into stage 6.  What helps me remain aware of the stage I am experiencing and supports my journey of evolution is times that I become aware that my awareness has deepened which is accompanied by a sense of satisfaction and gratitude.  Based on my own experience, I agree with the author that the journey is definitely not linear, as I have had brief experiences in a stage that was mostly beyond me, then tumbled back, and then sometimes have experiences of longer duration in a more advanced stage. 

 

Everything Is Waiting For You, by David Whyte

FaceBook  On Apr 8, 2018 david doane wrote:

 Feeling alone is a mistake, and an illusion, because we're really not alone.  No one is an island.  I don't think everyone or everything is waiting for me, but they are with me as part of this world, and I can reach out and connect rather than be alone.  It's not necessary to be alone.  I've been in groups in which I felt close connection with the others, and felt listened to, cared about and known.  Such experiences are grand, loving, and intimate.  When my aloneness is lonely, heavy, miserable for me, I put down the weight of my aloneness and reach out, or at least I can, and make an effort to connect with another.  For me, it often hasn't been easing into connection and often has felt difficult but it is preferable and holds more possibility than remaining in an aloneness that is miserable.  Usually I know that my aloneness is my own creation, and I know that my ending my aloneness and reaching out is also up to me.

 

Listening As An Act Of Transformation, by Doug Lipman

FaceBook  On Apr 1, 2018 david doane wrote:

 This essay by Doug Lipman is for me a beautiful and powerful story.  It expresses a lesson that I am still learning.  I know that listening allows and facilitates transformation.  We heal and transform from inside out, and what we need is a chance to let our inside out, and someone listening nonjudgmentally makes that easier.  Feeling deeply listened to facilitated my opening up, expressing me, and learning more about myself.  Feeling deeply listened to I felt accepted which enhanced my self-acceptance and self-confidence and being myself, all of which were significant transformation in  my life.  What helps me have the patience and commitment to listen deeply is knowing the transformative power and satisfaction of deep listening both for the one being listened to and for me as the listener.

 

What Happens When We Wonder?, by Katie Steedly

FaceBook  On Mar 25, 2018 david doane wrote:

 For me, wonder is a sense of awe -- feeling washed over by and caught up in a wave of awe.  It's a peak experience.  It's a feeling of overwhelmed in a positive way by something much bigger than me.  Wonder is a positive and profound experience during which I feel very alive, aware, excited and peaceful all at once.  I felt wonder when I learned that my body is made up of a hundred trillion cells all working together while I am simultaneously a cell in a much larger body called the cosmos.  I felt wonder one night outside Zion National Park looking out at a huge and beautiful star filled sky.  I felt wonder in being present at birth.  What helps me stay in wonder is being in the here and now, seeing and appreciating what is rather than being preoccupied, and being aware that all that is, living and not living, is an awesome miracle that I am part of.

 

The Difficult People In Your Life, by Sally Kempton

FaceBook  On Mar 16, 2018 david doane wrote:

 There's something about that guy I just can't stand in myself.  I look across the room and see me.  Seeing what I don't like in the other as being in some way also part of me is an opening to my being more aware of self and improving self.  And as the author says, I can't change the other and I can do some changing of me, so I might as well focus on me, which will have ain impact on the other.  Becoming aware of self is becoming aware of one's own energy.  As I would jump in, rather than be a scared hiding spectator, I became aware of my energy.  Sometimes others liked what I said or did, which felt good.  Sometimes others didn't like what I said or did.  The important thing is that I became aware that I have energy, which is power, I have a right and responsibility to own my energy and power, my energy and power make a difference, and I want to use my energy and power to make a positive difference.  My being aware of all that does help me remain aware of my energy and how I use it.

 

What You Do Afterwards, by Keith Sawyer

FaceBook  On Mar 11, 2018 david doane wrote:

 There are times when my action is my right action, simply an expression of what feels right to me in that moment.  In so doing, my action is meaningful to me because I'm being true to myself.  I never know what my action means to the other.  I don't let go of my ownership of my action -- I do let go of its meaning to the other, which is outside my control.  What helps me stay mindful of how I can open up possibility with my action is to keep as my mantra 'process, not outcome,' which promotes a kind of improvising because I have no script or agenda in mind.  When my action is my truth and independent of what it means to the other, I'm integrated, free and creative, and possibilities for growth open.

 

Do A Nice Thing For Your Future Self, by Elizabeth Gilbert

FaceBook  On Mar 4, 2018 david doane wrote:

 I am the best friend my future self has.  To a great extent, I'm a present oriented person with the firm belief that taking good care of my self physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually in the present is also best for my future self.  For example, I eat healthily and exercise, I do some letting go of things which clutter my life, I continuing to learn, I have relationships and make an effort to relate well, I do some relaxing and meditating, and I enhance my spirituality, all of which are good for my present self and my future self.  I also make some financial savings for my future self.  My belief that a happy and healthy present self is best for my future self helps me stay rooted in affection for my future self.  Sympathy for my future self doesn't feel right to me, but my belief helps me stay rooted in care for my future self.

 

Wisdom Of Grieving, by Terry Patten

FaceBook  On Feb 25, 2018 david doane wrote:

 People arrive at maturity in all kinds of ways.  When dealing with a loss, passing through all 5 stages of grieving is a way to arrive at maturity, but it's not a have to.  Not everyone responds to loss by going through the stages.  Our response to grief depends on where we're at in life and in maturity.  Many people live in acceptance and respond with acceptance.  They're already mature in that way.  A significant loss for me that I'm thinking about resulted in deep sadness, internal anguish, grief, a lot of confusion, some bargaining, and acceptance, pretty much in that order; I don't think I was angry or depressed.  Knowing that change -- birth and death, beginning and ending, gains and losses -- is always happening, and growing in acceptance of that, helps me stay in motion and find some equanimity.

 

Living In The Freshest Chamber Of The Heart, by Mark Nepo

FaceBook  On Feb 17, 2018 david doane wrote:

 We each have many 'chambers' filled with experiences from over the years.  Sometimes I live in the freshest chamber and learn from the experience of past chambers, which helps me stay afloat.  Sometimes I hold onto the unhappy experiences of old chambers in a way that sinks me, such as when I become negative and self-torturing.  In any case, all the chambers are me -- what I've done and experienced stays part of me -- there is no delete button.  Time alone doesn't put anything in perspective -- my perspective changes with what I do and what happens in time regarding past experiences.  I can grow from past experience and use what I've gained as I live in the freshest chamber,and that may make the past feel lighter and help me live and love wiser and fuller.  Nothing helps me to love again for the first time -- I can love again and love better, but there is only one first time.

 

Deep Ecological Awareness Is Spiritual Awareness, by Fritjof Capra and Pier Luigi Luisi

FaceBook  On Feb 9, 2018 david doane wrote:

 Shallow ecological awareness is the dualistic view that sees us as separate from nature and supports exploiting nature.  It is shallow, and harmful.  Deep ecological awareness means to me that there is one
activity/process/network/web called the universe that we are inseparably part of, in which all that is including us humans is  fundamentally and totally interrelated and interconnected.  As Thich Nhat Hanh says, we are interbeings that interarise in interisness.  I have had this awareness for a long time, and it helps me see that all is one, which is the foundation of my spirituality.  It feels very right for me and I allow and nurture the ongoing growth and deepening of such ecological awareness.

 

What Breaks Your Heart?, by Maria Shriver

FaceBook  On Feb 3, 2018 david doane wrote:

 What breaks my heart is our lack of compassion and cooperation with one another and with our environment, which is the result of our lack of awareness that we are all one, we are part of one whole that we call the universe, and all that is is sacred.  Evidence of this lack of awareness is the disintegration of our society, the us vs them divisive attitude that is so prevalent, the anger and violence that erupt so easily, the lack of purpose and meaning that so many suffer, the emptiness with which so many live.  I feel sad about all that, even heart broken, which seems to fill me and fuel me to live more compassionately, and I feel pleased and grateful when I do.  Often I'm busy with whatever and don't notice my broken heart, but it's always there.  Paying attention to the state of our world and to my own feelings makes it easy for me to feel and acknowledge my broken heart -- it becomes unignorable.  Namaste

 

Spiritual Activism, by Michael Singer

FaceBook  On Jan 27, 2018 david doane wrote:

 Michael Singer sure likes talking in extremes.  In relation to his essay, spiritual activism means staying centered, knowing that I can control (at least to some degree) no one but myself.  As AA says, you can drive only one car.  Our President offers me plenty of opportunities to let go of the personal part of me that reacts to the personal part of him.  I have gotten angry at him, called him names, gotten myself all agitated, and then am upset at myself for indulging in all that.  What helps me stay connected to myself and not fall into destructive reactive patterns is to remind myself that anger is not a necessary emotion, remind myself that I am independent of how the other is, remind myself that how he is I've been or can be, remind myself that there's something about that guy I just can't stand in me, and remind myself that my responsibility is to be the way I believe and not get hung up on how he is.  When I do all that, I sleep well.

 

Does Life Have A Purpose?, by J. Krishnamurti

FaceBook  On Jan 19, 2018 david doane wrote:

 To fulfill oneself in perfection means to fulfill myself in being all of what I am, being total and whole, being all of me present and manifesting.  I think I never felt life in all things, unless it was somewhere between conception and about age two.  I have come to think that there is life in all things, and that awareness has been enlivening for me and has helped me feel more one with all resulting in increased compassion for and with all.  What helps me include the negative in my conception of the positive is considering and believing that there is no negative and positive in nature, they are only in my perception.  There is one nature/reality that I am part of -- some of it I like and some I don't, some I agree with and some I don't, some of which I embrace and some of which I fear, but I know I and it are really all part of the one.

 

You Are Saved By Your Love, by Michael Damian

FaceBook  On Jan 13, 2018 david doane wrote:

 Love is oneness.  In experiencing and realizing oneness with all that is, living and not living, I experience love.  In love I am saved from disconnection, isolation, and fear that accompany lack of love.  Each of us is a unique individual, which we begin to learn at a young age.  It is when we realize that we also are simultaneously part of every other and part of all that is that we experience the oneness that is love.  My love saved me since I came to realize this, and it is a realization and love that keeps deepening.  Becoming experientially married, which happened for me slowly and long after getting legally married, helped me realize oneness that includes individuality, which is love that saves me.  Love or oneness helps me shed surface layers like image, ego, and false self, and get to know my real self that has always been.

 

Becoming Master Artists, by Eknath Easwaran

FaceBook  On Jan 9, 2018 David Doane wrote:

 We do and can challenge our conditioning and affect what we become.  Conditioning influences us, it doesn’t determine us.  Each of us has the capacity to choose and grow and remake ourselves significantly, but not completely.  We can change within human limits.  We can’t do whatever we want or choose — we can only do what we can do, which is a great deal.  Trusting myself including to swim upstream helps me find joy and satisfaction in challenging my conditioning.

 

Universality Is Not An Idea, It Is Reality, by Sadhguru Jaggi Vasudev

FaceBook  On Jan 4, 2018 David Doane wrote:

 While universality as an experience is a tremendous and life changing  experience, universality as  an intellectual idea is no more damaging than any other intellectual idea.  An intellectual idea can be an alternative to experiential reality, and it can be an entry point.  You never know.  In those times that I experience universality as my reality, I feel the universality/oneness/union in my being, and I feel a harmony with all that is.  That experience and reminding myself of universality help me move toward and stay in the experience of universality.

 

Where We Are Is Our Temple, by Jack Kornfield

FaceBook  On Dec 22, 2017 david doane wrote:

Jack Kornfield's essay and Chief Seattle's statement are beautiful.  Wherever you are is your temple, out of which and with which you can express the love from which the temple arises.  The challenge is for us to do that.  At those times that I live with awareness that we are one, when I see the other as myself, I am compassionate rather than competitive, and I am living my practice.  At those times that I live with awareness that all that is is one, I am aware that what I do to this planet and universe I do to everyone and everything including myself, and I am living my practice.  What helps me have an undivided heart is reminding myself through thought, reading, discussion, reflection, meditation that I have an undivided heart that is part of an undivided universe.  Such awareness brings me peace, joy, and satisfaction.

 

The Gift Of Threshold Moments, by Sam Keen

FaceBook  On Dec 16, 2017 david doane wrote:

 I appreciate Sam Keen's essay.  A threshold moment is a crossover moment, a moment of transformation.  It's the point when the water reaches 212 degrees and transforms to steam, or when the caterpillar breaks through the cocoon and emerges a butterfly.  The threshold moment is the moment of entering a new reality.  Moving around during a group therapy, I was tiptoeing and someone asked me, "Do you tiptoe through all of life?"  That was a moment of awakening for me, an aha moment, a threshold moment.  My taking in a therapists's words that I have a right to be powerful was a threshold moment for me.  What helped me open up to the immense mystery was feeling safe, seen and encouraged, and once I had a personal threshold moment, I wanted more.  The first one was the critical one.  They're addicting.

 

What You Missed That Day You Were Absent From Fourth Grade, by Brad Aaron Modlin

FaceBook  On Dec 9, 2017 david doane wrote:

 Mrs. Nelson taught kids important things about living.  We could use more teachers like Mrs. Nelson.  As for 'I am', not only is 'I am' a complete sentence, it may be the most important sentence we say.  'I am' is a person's essence and foundation, and it is from 'I am' that all the rest of one's life takes shape.  The only any one else and any thing else that I know is me.  I feel wholeness in my experience when I read essays like this one, and when I think and write like I am now.  What helps me remember that I have enough is realizing that I really need very little -- water, air, some food -- even though I have and enjoy much more than what I need.  I remind myself to keep it simple and appreciate the simple.  Having more than I need is a slippery slope to unnecessary suffering.  While I'm not self sufficient, I have and can get what I need.  I'm just me and I am enough.  As Rumi said, I'm not just the wave in the ocean, I'm also the ocean in the wave.  And remembering Mary Poppins words, "Enough is as good as a feast," also helps me.        

 

Small Graces, by Kent Neburn

FaceBook  On Dec 3, 2017 david doane wrote:

 All that is, living and not living, is God incarnate, and is a gift and a grace.  The gifts or graces are everything, including this day, my every breath, my every heart beat, my hand, the ability to move and think and feel, the ability to see, hear, taste, smell, and touch, other people, a glass of water, a butterfly, my cat, a tree, a rock, a lifetime, the entire world in which I live.  It is difficult for me to differentiate between small and great graces.  I think all graces are both small and great.  What helps me value and treasure the graces in my life is knowing how precarious and temporary they are and how little control I have.  What helps me feel complete with the graces in my life is being aware of and grateful for them.

 

The Messiah Is One Of Us , by Megan McKenna

FaceBook  On Nov 25, 2017 david doane wrote:

I like the story that Megan McKenna tells.  It's what happens.  Gandhi said, "If you don't see God in the next person you meet, it's a waste of time to look further."  If we see God in each other, and realize that God is infinite possibility and love, how could we not feel hope and kindness?  There were times,especially when I was younger, that a teacher or elder saw profound possibility in me and told me so, profoundly raising my self-esteem and self-confidence.  Those statements still remain with me and are part of my undergirding.  Knowing and reminding myself that God incarnates into each of us helps me see the profound and divine in everyone.

 

Laziness As Our Personal Teacher, by Pema Chodron

FaceBook  On Nov 18, 2017 david doane wrote:

 To unite with laziness means to me to let it happen, accept it, be open to it, not fight it, and go with it.  It will occur and subside, like any other feeling or experience, and I can unite with it and find out where it takes me.  I've been lazy at times, not in the mood to do a task at hand, and at times I have united with the laziness and put the task aside, which felt good and freeing, and took a nap or did nothing or got into some activity that I did feel like doing.  What helps me lean into my laziness, which I do too seldom, is understanding that laziness is what I feel when I don't want to do something that I am supposed to do, as determined by someone else or myself, and my laziness has something to offer.  Laziness can open me to new possibilities and to finding what I do want to do.  It can be an opening to finding my excitement.  It can be my personal teacher.  After a period of uniting with laziness I may even have renewed energy with which to complete the task I didn't want to do.

 

The Sun Is The Perfect Example, by Vinoba Bhave

FaceBook  On Nov 11, 2017 david doane wrote:

 Actually, the sun never stays still -- it is constantly moving and changing.  It doesn't make cows graze or birds sing.  It's simply being what it is and doing what it does, giving heat and light from which many living beings and nonliving things benefit, and it does all this with no desire or intent.  The sun is neutral and detached.  Being and doing can be natural and authentic, not goal directed or manipulative.  When I am being or doing in a natural and authentic way, I am without intent, not trying to control or make anything happen, simply being and doing because it is my right action.  When I am this way I am neutral, detached from purpose or outcome, and I am moved by love since that way of being is love.

 

Space To Heal, by Thuy Nguyen

FaceBook  On Nov 5, 2017 david doane wrote:

 My conception is that in this realm in which we live there is space and time that we clutter with things, and clutter mainly by attaching to things.  Even space and time can be a cluttering of nothingness as we in part live as expressions in space and time and in part live in nothingness.  I don't create space -- it just is, and how much I clutter it is up to me.  Healing takes place in space.  The less I clutter space such as with things to do, shoulds and have tos, worries and regrets, judgments and blames, plans and goals, the more space I have in which to be whole and to heal.  I've gotten better at not cluttering space and time and definitely have a long way to go.

 

Welcoming Fear As A Friend, by Gerald G. May

FaceBook  On Oct 28, 2017 david doane wrote:

 I experience fear when I feel in danger, in regards to whatever that may be.  My fear often is of the unknown, even though I know that the unknown is full of opportunity.  Feeling fear is for me an indication that I am alive, and the feeling of fear can be exciting, but fear doesn't make sane responsiveness possible.  It's my being alive makes responsiveness possible, and I can respond with courageous action or fearful avoidance.  I am often afraid, maybe more so than many people, and I have often leaned into my fear such as by taking action even though I am afraid, and usually I'm glad I did because whatever I feared usually turned out well and I grew from the experience.  What helps me stay present to fear without dismissing it is knowing that I feel fear when on the verge of something new and challenging, and staying with fear is staying with the opportunity at hand.

 

Seeing Is Not Thinking, by Jeanne de Salzmann

FaceBook  On Oct 22, 2017 david doane wrote:

Freedom in the act of seeing means to me the freedom that comes from seeing what is, free of judgments, preconceptions, and expectations, free of simply seeing my thinking, which happens so easily.  It means being free of conditioning be it my own or my culture's or whatever.  It means lifting the veil, removing the psychological cataracts, and seeing clearly.  I often experience "I don't know" and am open, searching, and receptive, all of which I value, and yet I don't know if I am ever totally free of seeking an answer.  I think of seeking as goal-directed.  I usually don't actively seek because it gets in the way of seeing, which I treasure.  I think the bible says something about the problem of having eyes and not seeing.  Knowing the value of non-judgmental non-goal directed seeing helps me see clearly.

 

Planting Twin Trees, by Robin Wall Kimmerer

FaceBook  On Oct 14, 2017 david doane wrote:

 All life is connected -- as a river of life that has been flowing on earth for a couple billion years.  We are the leading edge of all life that has come before us, and we will be part of life that comes after us.  We do leave gifts behind far beyond our lifetime -- the only choice we have is in what gifts we leave.  I like the story of the old man who is happily planting a tree that others will enjoy.  A personal story is that my house was built by a man in 1930, he lived in it until he died in 1968, and I and my family have lived in and enjoyed it for the past 40 years.  I never met him and am grateful to him.  We've made changes and improvements to the house and property that will someday benefit the next owner.  More significantly, mentors have given me life changing wisdom, some of which I've in turn passed on to others.  Knowing that we are all connected in one river of life, and knowing that I have benefited from those who came before me, inspires me to pay my gifts forward.

 

One Has No Self To Love, by Alan Watts

FaceBook  On Oct 7, 2017 david doane wrote:

Alan Watts can be deep.  "Nothing is really more inhuman than human relations based on morals" means to me that nothing is more inhuman than human relations based on rules.  A good deed coming from rule or obligation or agenda is manipulative.  It's using the other as a thing.  It's selfish.  Ironically, it may do some good and be appreciated, which is even worse.  Speaking personally, I have many times felt authentic love, that is, times when someone has done something for me out of love for me.  I've been fortunate.  My understanding is that there is my ego self and there is my real or essential self.  So, I have no ego self to love because my ego self isn't really concerned with love -- it's concerned with my own selfish manipulative agendas.  However, loving from my essential self is agendaless and pure, and it is from essential self that authentic human love comes.  Wisdom teachings ask you to practice loving your essential self.

 

Habits Of The Heart, by Parker Palmer

FaceBook  On Sep 30, 2017 david doane wrote:

 I agree with habit one, our seeing that we are all in this together, which I see as a fact and not an "impossible dream."  As for habit two, having an appreciation of the values of otherness, I don't have it.  I value uniqueness.  Otherness is an illusion.  I agree with the author that us and them doesn't equal us versus them, but us and them is a dualistic and separation perspective rather than a unitive and differentiation perspective and it leads to us versus them.  Regarding habit three, our living in the midst of a multitude of tensions is our lot in this life and is our ongoing challenge, like it or not.  As for habit four, it is the right and privilege and responsibility of each of us to find, trust, and express our truth and voice for our own life and for the life of the community.  With regards to habit five, individualness-community is one of those tensions we live in.  Individual and community appear separate but are really two sides of one coin.  There is no individual without community and no community without individual.  These beliefs foster compassion for me.  The fact that these beliefs make sense to me and foster compassion helps me inculcate them.

 

Advice From A Tree, by Ilan Shamir

FaceBook  On Sep 23, 2017 david doane wrote:

 We can learn much from a tree.  It does its thing.  It lives in the present, responsive to what is happening as it is happening.  It grows, with no second guessing, no self-doubt, no self consciousness.  It plays no games, has no hidden agendas.  It takes no more than what it needs.  It gives in simply being itself.  When used, it is used without guilt giving or bargaining.  When misused or injured, it adjusts and heals and continues living as best it can.  It lives as fully as it can until it dies.  We can learn much from a tree.  I drew wisdom just now in reflecting on the tree.  What helps me enjoy the view while living is knowing enjoyment and purpose are in the process or journey and not in trying to make a particular outcome happen.  Time spent being like a tree, present and responsive, is alive and satisfying.

 

Beyond Content Of Thought, by Ram Dass

FaceBook  On Sep 17, 2017 david doane wrote:

 You can go to a so called psychotherapist who gives poor advice, and you can go to a so called spiritual leader who gives poor advice.  Ram Dass sure has his anti therapist biases.  My suggestion is consult with others, listen to self.  The language I prefer is focus on process rather than focus on mechanics -- what they each are referring to is probably much the same.  The point is to get back to healthy process, engage in healthy mechanics of living, be in the present, let go of content/problems/agendas, and trust that good will happen.  Focus on problem content tends to reinforce it and gets me spinning my wheels going no where.  Dong the right action, as the eight fold path suggests, and not occupying myself with trying to control outcome, works best.  I am happiest and the most good happens when I live that way.  When I am solidly grounded in healthy process and mechanics, the content issue falls into place and sort of takes care of itself and is ripe for the picking.

 

Emptiness And Compassion Go Hand In Hand, by Norman Fischer

FaceBook  On Sep 11, 2017 David Doane wrote:

 Emptiness of preconceived judgments and agendas fosters feeling compassion and human warmth.  Being rooted in emptiness helps me stay truly engaged with the other rather than with my thinking or goals regarding the other.

 

Happy Birthday, Dear Sister, by Parag Shah

FaceBook  On Sep 3, 2017 david doane wrote:

 Nothingness means no thingness, that is, pure being, pure process. pre-form, pre-manifest.  The closest I've come to Nothingness is brief moments of being very much in the present with no attachment to thoughts, agendas, goals, or tasks.  Such brief times have been experiences of intimacy such as while alone in meditation or in relationship with another.  Such moments also occur when I am fully in the process of living and relating and not focused on outcome.  Such moments are very alive.  We are all rooted in Nothingness, though often not aware of it or respectful of it.  Awareness of Nothingness, awareness of our rootedness in Nothingness, and brief experiences in Nothingness make for being in this world but not of it, and that awareness at least helps me stay rooted in awareness of Nothingness.

 

Loving Your Enemy, by Brother David Steindl-Rast

FaceBook  On Aug 26, 2017 david doane wrote:

Loving your enemy means to me that I firmly, honestly, and directly express my disagreement or objection in a way that is kind and compassionate, devoid of anger, hostility, and violence.  Dealing with Trump and many others in our society is a challenge for me.  I'll catch myself saying or thinking that I hate him or them, and I stop myself from going there and instead say or think that I strongly disagree.  I haven't prayed for him or them, but I will, though probably for their enlightenment -- thanks for the reminder.  What helps me practice 'love your enemy' is knowing that we are one and knowing that anger, violence, and hostility are not necessary and are destructive.  People like Gandhi and Martin Luther King were correct that light, not darkness, overcomes darkness, and love, not hate, undoes hate.  Forgiveness, not revenge, heals.  Compassionate objection and dialogue, not war, is loving your enemy and brings peace.  Namaste, that is, I recognize the one divine in you and me, is loving your enemy.

 

Heart And Soul Bonds, by Michelle

FaceBook  On Aug 19, 2017 david doane wrote:

 Heart and especially soul connections go beyond the material boundaries of space and time.  Our unconscious or spirit or soul or essence is beyond space and time, and it is at that level that our most significant connections with one another occur.  At that level, real me meets real you.  I have experienced "heart and soul bonds" in intimate -- and I don't mean sexual -- relating.  Such relating is personal, open, and honest.  In such relating, we are vulnerable and trusting.  In such relating, we are outside space and time.  All connections with others stay part of us forever, some only to a very minor extent, and the heart and soul bonds stay profoundly with us.  What helps me grow in "heart and soul bonds" is that they are fulfilling and enlivening, they feed a hunger in me, and they make life worthwhile.  I'm addicted.

 

Each Thing's Way, by Ray Grigg

FaceBook  On Aug 12, 2017 david doane wrote:

 Trouble is not necessarily caused by people who think they are smart enough to improve things.  Resolution, peace, and happiness are also caused by people who think they are smart enough to improve things.  Being smart enough isn't necessarily a problem.  The author has a limited definition of people who think they are smart enough and of what they will do.  He also says that cunning and ingenuity make things worse -- they may make things better -- you never know.  Understanding can be a problem when the need for it dominates the process and gets in the way of being open to see and learn.  Realizing that the vast majority of all that is is not known, and most of it is not even knowable, gives me perspective on the smallness of what we know, and I feel awe in reflecting on that.  Staying in the box of the fragmentary and superficial is trying to catch the unlimited in the limited, and that is foolishness.  Going outside the box of the fragmentary and superficial and exploring the mystery of totality opens the possibility of getting a glimpse of the unlimited, which we are capable of as human beings and helps us realize what it is to be fully human.

 

To Know Your Mind, Pay Close Attention To It, by Sam Harris

FaceBook  On Aug 6, 2017 david doane wrote:

 My ego is just another transitory appearance in consciousness.  My true self, my essence, is eternal consciousness expressed as me.  I've had some moments in meditation when I felt amorphous, part of all that is, bigger than my usual sense of self -- that was my real self and I relish that state of awareness.  For me, turning consciousness upon itself means being conscious of my consciousness which happens for moments at a time as thoughts do constantly intrude.  What helps me turn consciousness upon itself is practice -- practice putting aside or letting go of my thoughts and being conscious without content.

 

From Being Driven To Being Drawn, by Richard Rohr

FaceBook  On Jul 30, 2017 david doane wrote:

Life is a mixed bag, full of contradictions and dialectics that we live in the midst of and deal with.  That's life.  I certainly can be negative, and have become more positive as I have become more compassionate through realizing that we are one, we are in this together, and everyone has problems and struggles.  The positive source within me is life itself, my knowing that growth in life is inexorable, and my gratitude for the miracle of being alive and my being part of it all.  Negativity and anger are just plain not necessary, and are harmful.  I've come to be more positive oriented, focused on what is, and focused on doing something constructive rather than focused on what isn't and what is wrong and tearing things down.  For me, being positive is healing and I believe more healing for others around me.

 

The Boss And The Attendants, by TKV Desikachar

FaceBook  On Jul 23, 2017 david doane wrote:

 A boss is in charge, and an attendant serves.  Thinking makes a fine attendant and a terrible boss.  I like Chesterton's statement that "The madman is not the one who has lost his reason, it is the one who has lost everything but his reason."  I've learned to be suspicious of reason.  And I believe what Oscar Wilde said, that nothing worth knowing can be taught.  It must be learned, probably through experience.  My learning through experience involves my heart and head, making for personal and deeper learning.  One's head and heart are naturally integrated, and the problem is when they become separated, like so often happens in school.  That's what makes learning in school so inefficient.  I now know that all of me thinks, not just my head.  'Heart thinking' is different than head thinking -- both are useful and knowing that helps me listen to both, with heart getting priority.  And the top dog is the soul, the source of both head and heart, but that's a different story.

 

The Grandest Vision For Humanity, by Riva Melissa Taz

FaceBook  On Jul 16, 2017 david doane wrote:

We're not unimportant in the sequence of the eternal everything.  Each and every atom, cell, and being is important.  As the author says, each dot and microdot in a painting is part of an intricate scene.  Likewise, each of us is important, and the universe would be different without any one of us.  The universe is expressing and evolving through each of us.  As we know who we are, the universe knows who we are.  I know life and the whole universe are fragile and existence is precarious.  I know the earth and humanity could destruct or could go on and grow further.  Still I have a grand vision for humanity.  I learned long ago that growth is inexorable, that we are here to blossom and become all that we are, not just sustain and survive, and that learning stays with me.  P.S.  The bio says the author is an enthusiast of cognitive psychology.  That's so narrow.  Psyche is life, much more than cognitive.  I recommend life psychology.

 

The False Duality Between "Job" And "Service", by Zilong Wang

FaceBook  On Jul 10, 2017 david doane wrote:

 Many actions can be of service.  I define service fundamentalism as service done by obligation or rule, that is, it is based on should, have to, can't, must, and got to, all of which are positions or attitudes of obligation and are ways of telling ourselves that we are powerless and victims, which is likely to result in feeling resentment and depression.  What makes service virtuous is it being done freely, done out of choice.  Obligation is toxic.  The setting doesn't matter.  That is, it doesn't matter whether a person is on the job or unemployed or what kind of job a person has.  What matters is where the service is coming from.  Service out of obligation or rule lacks virtue and may even be toxic, and service out of free choice is virtuous and healthy.  For me, sacredness is wholeness, and wholeness involves freedom, so service that is in harmony with wholeness and done freely, is sacred service.  Knowing this helps me to avoid the trap of service fundamentalism.

 

Force of Love is the Force of Total Revolution, by Vimala Thakar

FaceBook  On Jul 4, 2017 david doane wrote:

The love that is the force of total revolution is the awareness and realization that we are one -- one with one another and with all that is -- and that what we do to any being, living and not living, and to this planet that we are part of we do to ourselves.  With such love we live in I-Thou rather than us-and-them, we live in compassion rather than indifference or worse, we live in cooperation rather than competition, we live in peace rather than war.  My realization that I am intimately and profoundly related to all that is began long ago and deepened as I discovered wisdom of the Far East and particularly wisdom of the Vedanta tradition.  I don't know what is impossible.  I know that what is possible is much greater than what we think is possible.  Our capacity is much greater than our thinking.

 

Attachments Are Not Set in Stone, by Robina Courtin

FaceBook  On Jun 24, 2017 david doane wrote:

 "Set in stone" means unchangeable.  Nothing is unchangeable or permanent, including our attachments.  As a child I learned a lot that I thought was the truth, set in stone, that I was very attached to.  It was in my twenties that I began to consider other viewpoints, began to question and detach from old 'truths' and began to attach to new 'truths.'  And the process goes on.  I've come to believe that attachments are unhealthy and the source of unnecessary pain, and as far as I know, my present attachments are not set in stone -- they are more like stepping stones, and they and I are evolving.  I don't have any set in stone attachments.  As for therapy, therapy means to heal.  Actually no one can heal me but me, and in that sense I am my own therapist -- others can facilitate, and such persons are therapists for me.  I suppose the person who has no one but himself or herself as therapist has a fool for a patient.  My own psychotherapy helps me be my own therapist.  Various people and experiences in my life are therapeutic for me and help me be my own therapist.  Now I can allow many people to be therapeutic for me, usually without their even knowing, and that capacity helps me be my own therapist.

 

Enlightenment is Intimacy with All Things, by Michael Damian

FaceBook  On Jun 17, 2017 david doane wrote:

 Enlightenment means filled with light and abiding in light.  Enlightenment typically begins with being open to allow light with which to see what is, see truth, not see my own thinking or conditioning or preconceived beliefs and prejudices, not try to control or manufacture or manipulate what is, but truly see and accept what is, all of which is a process of intimacy with all things.  I fairly recently came to see that all that is, living and not living, is an expression of and part of one field, and with that realization I appreciate the wholeness of what we call reality more than ever before.  I don't know about the benevolence of reality -- I simply see that reality is, and what we make of it is our doing.  I am part of existence, so openness to existence includes openness to myself, which of course is a challenge that I sometimes embrace and sometimes side step.  Over time I gain a little enlightenment.

 

Be Alight with Who We Are, by Mark Nepo

FaceBook  On Jun 12, 2017 david doane wrote:

 There is always purpose in being, but not always being in purpose.  So true.  I agree with Hegedus that our purpose is to passionately be who we are and let go of trying to accomplish some purpose.  Pursuit of a purpose often compromises our self.  In passionately being who we are, we are not competing, not comparing, not goal directed, and we are being true to ourselves and performing action that is right action in the moment.  I have had moments when my speech or action has been fully in synchrony with my real self, not purpose oriented, and I am alight with who I am at my core.  What helps me live fully and be alight with who I am is knowing that I am happiest when I engage in my right process and action and let go of concern about outcome.  It is the opposite extreme of being political.

 

Big Enough to Take It All In, by Margaret Wheatley

FaceBook  On Jun 3, 2017 david doane wrote:

 For me, to want to see clearly is not scary -- to do it, to actually open my eyes and see clearly is sometimes scary.  We are big enough to be open to what life offers, and if we think we're not it's time  we learn that we are.  Our preconceived attitudes, predictions, expectations, and prejudices hinder us from seeing what is.  Being open to what is and dealing with it is satisfying and growthful, and doing it reveals that and helps me to commit to doing it more.  Being open to what is and dealing with what is is to be dealing with the truth, and truth may at times be scary and difficult to accept, but it is the truth that sets us free. 

 

Is There Righteous Anger Ever?, by J. Krishnamurti

FaceBook  On May 27, 2017 david doane wrote:

 I have looked at my anger.  I can't remember a time that I became angry that I am proud of or after which I felt good or believed my anger was good for myself or the other person.  At some point I came to the conclusion that anger is an unnecessary emotion.  I don't need to become angry and work myself into a lather.  As far as I'm concerned, there is no righteous anger, and to call some anger righteous is only a way to try to justify it.  I still do at times become angry, but less often than I used to and I can nip it in the bud much more than I used to.  For me, anger is an indication that I have plenty of growing to still do.  It is possible to disagree, object, have my own opinion, assert myself, and even defend myself without being angry.  I do have a right and a responsibility to have my voice, express and stand up for myself, and I don't have to be angry to do so.  When I do speak up without indulging in anger, I feel satisfied rather than regretful, and I have achieved some freedom from the compulsion to be angry.

 

Live Intentionally, In Freedom, by Eknath Easwaran

FaceBook  On May 20, 2017 david doane wrote:

 By definition, the part of us that we are unaware of is the unconscious.  What I become aware of is no longer unconscious.  I may think of the unconscious as full of nothing but wild beasts and other evil -- Freud called it a seething cauldron, Jung called it the shadow -- but it's all me.  When I was a kid, I was convinced there was a boogeyman that I desperately feared in the attic of our house, and sometimes I could see him through the attic window.  One day I went into the attic, with the protection of my mother of course, and saw that my boogeyman was a dressmaker's form, really harmless and something that had its use.  What we fear as wild beasts are the inner treasures.  The wild beasts are the unknown, and the more I fear and separate them from myself the more they become wild beasts.  As I meet and become aware of what I fear and keep unconscious, I can incorporate in ways that are healthy and constructive.  I never become aware of all of the unconscious any more than I become aware of all of the universe, but the more of me I become aware of the more of me I become, and I gain freedom from compulsions, cravings and fits of emotions that had control because I feared them and lacked awareness.  The only exile I'm in from my unconscious is the exile I (with help from family, cultural and religious conditioning) keep me in.  What helps me live in freedom is ongoingly being open about myself, becoming more aware of myself, owning and becoming more of myself.  My freedom is limited because I never become aware of all of my unconscious and become all of me, but the more of me I become the more freedom I enjoy.

 

Knowledge can be Conveyed, but not Wisdom, by Herman Hesse

FaceBook  On May 13, 2017 david doane wrote:

 We live in a reality that is dualistic.  Our thoughts and words are part of that dualistic reality and we think and talk in terms of either-or, this or that, which is one-sided.  We don't live in a unitive reality in which we would think and talk wholistically.  Multi-sided full reality is experienced wholistically, which is more than thought with thoughts and said with words.  A wise man once told me that the opposite of a truth was also just as true, and I've been growing into that truth ever since.  I've learned to look in the opposite direction, which is the other side or the rest of the whole, and when I do it opens up more of the truth to me.  I also remind myself of Oscar Wilde's wisdom that nothing worth knowing can be taught.  Wisdom is learned, and it's learned through lived experience, not through intellectual instruction.  Knowing that helps me value wisdom through living over knowledge through cognitive transfer. 

 

True Humility: Selfless Respect for Reality, by Costica Bradatan

FaceBook  On May 7, 2017 david doane wrote:

The word humility is derived from humous, suggesting that we are part of this earth and not apart from it.  I am truly humble when I am being myself simply because I am and not for any ego driven agenda.  As the author said, humility is selfless respect for reality.  Being someone who tends to downplay myself, which is a form of false humility, I have experienced true humility when I am honestly owning up to who and what I am. The sun shines for no purpose -- it shines because that is its nature, it's being humble in human terms, and in so doing all sorts of benefits occur.  When I accept and be myself because that is my nature, I am humble like the sun, and in the process I am more integrated and whole, which is healing or therapeutic, and do the most good for others.  As has been said, humility isn't thinking less of oneself but thinking of one's self less.  Being humble isn't a form of therapy, but it is always therapeutic.

 

The Sacred Art of Pausing, by Tara Brach

FaceBook  On Apr 29, 2017 david doane wrote:

 In fact, we have so little control.  I very much value letting go of trying to control and taking hold of trusting my inner experience.  In general, we do far too much trying to control self, others, and situations and too little noticing, trusting, and expressing our inner experience.  There have been times in relationships when I don't try to control direction or outcome and trust my inner experience, being present, open, and true to my inner experience, and it invariably is a positive experience.  A good mantra would be inner experience, not control.  I like the author's phrase "sacred pause." To me, what makes it sacred is when in it my inner experience and outer expression are in harmony and I am integrated rather than fragmented or duplicitous.

 

Wonder of the Universe is Wondering In Us, by Paul Fleischman

FaceBook  On Apr 22, 2017 david doane wrote:

 How else could it be except that our wondering minds are products of the universe?  Everything is part of the universe, including our wondering minds.  When the notion began to sink in for me that all that is is one interconnected interrelated whole, I began to realize that the universe is a wonder and the wonder of the universe is wondering in and through us.  We are the universe in wonder of itself.  It is a wonder to me that I and every living and not living entity exists and is constantly interacting, evolving and expressing in different forms.  What helps me connect with wonder and inquire into it is my awe about it which results in my continuing to expand my awareness about the interconnectedness and unity of the universe.

 

Touching the Earth, by Tracy Cochran

FaceBook  On Apr 15, 2017 david doane wrote:

To me, touching the earth means staying grounded, present, humble, and not going off into ego-driven grandiose desires and goals.  I experience touching the earth when I stay in the present, responding to what is happening in me, in the other, and in the situation at hand, and staying true to myself.  What helps me remember to be rooted, when I do remember, is trusting the process and not be hypnotized by an ambition or outcome I want to accomplish.  Attachments unroot me.

 

We Were Made for These Times, by Clarissa Pinkola Estes

FaceBook  On Apr 8, 2017 david doane wrote:

 Rage is rage.  There is no righteous rage, like there is no just war.  I don't think we have been learning, practicing, training for and waiting for this plain of engagement.  We have been living and learning and have whatever skills and wisdom we have to deal with what's happening.  I agree there are a lot of awakened souls that are sea worthy and may hold their own.  I appreciate the author's optimism -- I hope she's right.  Submitting to a voice greater doesn't mean necessarily that we'll mend anything or reach an enduring good or bring justice and peace.  I fully believe that we are to get out into the open sea, and I'm all for standing up on deck and showing one's soul and shining like gold, and doing what is within our reach, all of which is our right and responsibility and may be an act of immense bravery and greatest necessity, and may inspire other souls.  Maybe we will hit critical mass and tip toward enduring good.  I also full believe there is no guaranteed outcome.  We may withstand storms and flourish -- I hope we do.  I also know the ship may sink.  That's not at all reason to despair -- it's simply being realistic.

 

The Way of the Water, by Ursula LeGuin

FaceBook  On Apr 2, 2017 david doane wrote:

 The way of water means being present, spontaneous, responsive to circumstances, adjusting in every moment, taking the path of least resistance, staying within one's own abilities, doing one's own thing, being nongoal-directed, and being persistent.  This way can wear down obstacles, just as water does, but that's not water's intent or purpose.  I've at times lived some qualities of the way of water, but have never fully lived that way, which is very difficult to accomplish.  What helps me flow like a river is being in the present, focusing on process and not on outcome.  It would be wonderful for us to stop glamorizing the way of the warrior and begin to value the way of water.

 

We Are Swimming in Miracles, by Peter Kalmus

FaceBook  On Mar 25, 2017 david doane wrote:

 It's said the last one to notice water is a fish.  Like the fish in water, we're swimming in miracles and may take them for granted.  Everything is a miracle.  Creation is a miracle.  Life is a miracle.  Every moment, every breath is a miracle  It's a miracle that the 100 trillion cells of a human body work together simultaneously performing millions of processes each second for decades.  My recognition of this began a long time ago and continues to grow.  Waking up, using my eyes to see and my ears to hear, developing compassion, slowing down, becoming free help me recognize the miracles in every day life.  Recognizing the miracles increases my awe and gratitude.

 

Returning the Gift, by Robin Wall Kimmerer

FaceBook  On Mar 18, 2017 david doane wrote:

 Gratitude means being thankful for everything including my own existence, based on the realization that this whole interconnected interacting Earth and beyond including my existence is a gift.  Living that awareness is medicine, that is, is wholeness and health for the living Earth and for me.  In becoming aware of that I begin to feel the healing power from gratitude to the living Earth.  I practice gratitude for my immediate small part of the living Earth by taking care of it, not polluting and exploiting and destroying it, and by advocating for environmentally healthy practices and policies on a planet level.

 

I-It and I-Thou, by David Brooks

FaceBook  On Mar 11, 2017 david doane wrote:

I-it moments are utilitarian, goal- and future-directed.  I-thou moments are purposeless or goal-less and present.  Both kinds of moments are part of life.  In I-thou moments there are two individuals meeting, being open and honest in the moment.  In I-thou moments the individuals are personally present and vulnerable, simply being together.  In I-it moments there is an agenda, some thing or some function is being sought, and I relate to the other as being there to serve a purpose.  I-it moments can be fine when the agenda is out in the open, and are a problem when there is a hidden agenda.  I've had some I-thou moments in which I and another are being soul to soul in a spiritual agape love, and such moments are precious and few, as Sonny Geraci sang.  I-it and I-thou moments are easy to tell apart.  When I'm out to get something from the other I'm in an I-it moment.  When I'm simply meeting and being met, being open in the present and without purpose or agenda, I'm in an I-thou moment.

 

Moved by Love, by Sri M

FaceBook  On Mar 4, 2017 david doane wrote:

 I believe meeting violent intentions with love is the only way to go, if it results in no violence or in violence, if it results in peaceful resolution or death.  I don't know if I would live up to that belief in a situation of facing violence or death but I hope I would.  Love disarms violence and will prevail, even if injury or death occurs before the love replaces violence.  Love begets love, and eventually love prevails.  Violence begets more violence, and never prevails.  I've learned about violence being diffused by love by what Mohandas Gandhi and Martin Luther King accomplished.  I've seen potential violence dissolve in the presence of acceptance and love.  I've defused potential arguments by being calm and kind rather than fostering argument and violence by hostile reaction.  I don't always stay rooted in love.  What helps me sometimes stay rooted in love is knowing that only love dissipates violence, just as only light dissipates darkness.  It was said in the 60s that dropping bombs for peace is like screwing for virginity.  It just won't ever work.

 

A Scheme to Change the World?, by Hazrat Inayat Khan

FaceBook  On Feb 25, 2017 david doane wrote:

I don't equate everyone having the same share economically to tuning a piano such that it has only one note.  I equate everyone having the same share economically to everyone having a piano, that is, leveling the playing field so everyone has the same opportunities.  What someone does with their opportunities, such as the music someone creates with their piano, is up to the individual.  Now we have a world of haves and have nots.  Ten percent of people controlling eighty percent of the wealth isn't good economy.  A portion of the world having too much and throwing food away while another portion is starving to death isn't good economy.  The same opportunities available to everyone would be economical, that is, efficient, and would be fair, and would be good will in action and an applied spirituality that would change the world.  The good will of others has been inspiring and infectious for me, resulting in more good will from me.  Knowing good will in and of itself is right sometimes keeps me focused on kind behavior rather than on ramifications or outcome.  Gandhi's famous 'Be the change you want to see in the world' has helped me to at least sometimes do good rather than wait or be concerned about others' reactions.

 

You Play the Piano, by Alan Watts

FaceBook  On Feb 19, 2017 david doane wrote:

The best and happiest of living is like playing music in a way that is enjoying each note, not playing to get to the end of the piece.  I suppose improvisational music or jamming is the ultimate playing music to enjoy the process of playing.  I remember a book called Finite and Infinite Games, out of which I got that it's important to live life as an infinite game played for the joy of playing, not a finite game played to win.  Life is an infinite game, at least for most creatures except for us screwed up humans.  As an experiential psychotherapist, I have opportunities every day to experience time with others as playing music, responding to what is happening as it happens, being spontaneous, focusing on process and not outcome, operating out of my guts as well as and sometimes more than out of my head.  What helps me avoid living a deferred life plan for future success and enjoy the music is my knowing that happiness is in the way of living, learning to keep process ahead of progress or product, and knowing that life is what happens in between plans.  My happiest times are times I play life rather than work life.

 

Praise Song for Wide Open Space, by Omid Safi

FaceBook  On Feb 10, 2017 david doane wrote:

I love the wide open spaces.  I just came in from outside looking at the enormous starless sky with a giant full moon -- I felt awe and gratitude.  I spontaneously thanked God.  I remember being in Montana a year or so ago and looking out over an enormous terrain and a big sky that seemed endless (and maybe is), and again felt awe.  In both situations, I forgot about the microdramas of life and appreciated the cosmos and my being part of it.  I felt alive and had a sense of being part of a huge interconnected miracle.  I breathed deep and took it in and didn't want the moment to end.  For me, it was a spiritual moment beyond space and time.  Those kind of glorious experiences of taking in and feeling part of a miraculous cosmos help me remember to be open to more such glorious moments.

 

Why Meditate, by Suzanne Toro

FaceBook  On Feb 4, 2017 david doane wrote:

Stillness grants the opportunity to be in touch with one's soul, which is the real self.  And since my soul is an extension of God, in being in touch with my soul, I am in union with God.  And since God incarnates into all that is, in stillness I am in union with the cosmos.  My saying that is a ripple effect in part of meditation, which is a ripple effect that I carry with me throughout my living and enhances my living.  The experience of being in touch with my soul and beyond, which occurs in meditation, is sumptuous and has persuaded me to incorporate meditation into my life. 

 

Letting Meaning Flow Into Purpose, by Brother David Steindl-Rast

FaceBook  On Jan 31, 2017 david doane wrote:

 Actually, Amy, we may never be apart spiritually from others, but bodily is one way we are often apart from others. 

 

Letting Meaning Flow Into Purpose, by Brother David Steindl-Rast

FaceBook  On Jan 28, 2017 david doane wrote:

As Steindl-Rast says, purposeful and meaningful are different and can be united.  Purposeful means goal-directed, having a goal that I want to accomplish.  Meaningful means something has significance to me.  I can be purposeful about something that is meaningless to me.  Something can be meaningful to me and I do nothing about it.  Meaningful and purposeful are united when I am purposeful or goal-directed about something that is meaningful or significant to me.  I don't know of a personal near death experience, other than everyday living, but my wife was very near death, and my responsiveness was probably greatly selfish as I was sad and scared as I wanted her to continue to be bodily with me, and worried about my being without her.  She lived, is well, and we go on, I am happy to say.  For me, death precipitates thinking about what is meaningful to me, what it is I want to do, and stirs some urgency to be more purposeful about what is meaningful to me as I am more sharply aware that the big death is coming closer every day.

 

My Misgivings About Advice, by Parker Palmer

FaceBook  On Jan 21, 2017 david doane wrote:

 I think of things like "the nature cure" ie "Why don't you go outside and enjoy the sunshine?" and "self-image sprucing" ie "Why so down on yourself?  You've helped so many people?" as friendly well-intentioned advice and encouragement that  typically are just pablum, minimally nourishing or helpful.  Witnessing as being fully with the other, present, attentive and actively listening, is important for the soul, providing the space to become.  We are born, heal, evolve, grow, transform from inside out.  No one does it to us or for us.  We have the resources within, and witnessing can support and allow the process.  Sometimes witnessing is more than enough, and sometimes additional skillful intervention is very helpful or necessary.  I've seen both situations.  What helps me stay rooted in being a witness in the face of intense suffering is knowing that witnessing in and of itself is powerful medicine, is nurturing and healing, and if more is needed, witnessing can be the container in which additional skillful intervention is tolerable and successful.  Witnessing and the right intervention can be a valuable combination.

 

Theory and Practice, by Vincent Horn

FaceBook  On Jan 14, 2017 david doane wrote:

A theory is an idea, a possibility, a speculation.  Practice is action.  Theory encourages action to try out or test the theory, and practice provides action to support or dispute the theory.  They work together well.  My theory was that I could play basketball adequately well at 70 -- not as well as at 30, but still well.  Long story short, I got into a basketball game with some guys in their 20s.  After clumsily moving around on the court, missing passes and shots, falling over myself and injuring and probably breaking my big toe which still isn't completely healed after 6 months, data indicated clearly that my theory was inaccurate.  Theory got me out on the court and got me playing.  Practice put the theory to the test and woke me up to the reality that I'm not 30.  I don't know whether my theories are true or false until I take action to test them.  I can hear what others believe or learned, but I don't know for myself until I test the validity of my theories for myself.  There is no teacher like personal experience/practice/action, even, maybe especially, when it hurts.

 

Shaped by a Silky Attention, by Jane Hirshfield

FaceBook  On Jan 7, 2017 david doane wrote:

Great art comes out of passion -- passion that includes love of and commitment to an endeavor.  Passion that overrides tiredness, pain, and hunger.  Passion that dominates and carries one.  Passion that focuses attention and energy.  Passion that becomes timeless and effortless.  Passion that is beyond the self.  Passion that is a labor of love.  To be taken over by such passion is ecstasy and can be also agony.  It's the best and fullest of living.  As for a personal story, in my early twenties I was unhappy, felt lost, and lacked direction.  I went to a psychotherapist and learned about me and life.  I decided I wanted to become a psychotherapist, threw myself into it and spent the next 40 years in psychotherapy, receiving and providing, learning about people dynamics and growth, learning the craft.  My early unhappiness and confusion became a path toward concentration culminating in my labor of love, psychotherapy.  I got into it big time, am still in it and still excited with it.  Finding my passion, or my bliss as Joseph Campbell would say, turning on to what was alive and fulfilling for me, helped me develop my "true concentration."  

 

Medicine for the Earth, by Sandra Ingerman

FaceBook  On Jan 2, 2017 david doane wrote:

I very much appreciate Sandra Ingerman's message.  As she says, everything that manifests in the physical world starts in the invisible realm of spirit.  Inside is our being, and outside is our doing.  Doing is an expression of our being.  Real and lasting change in doing is accomplished through change in being.  Substantial change is from inside out.  In learning this, my world view changed.  A major part of the change for me was in regards to responsibility.  I am responsible for my happiness and unhappiness, which are the result of my way of being and not of what befalls me from outside.  I learned if I'm not happy and want to be happy, I need to change me within and not just my outside.  Change in my external behavior may facilitate change within, but it's only when I change from within that I really change.  Knowing that my doing is the manifestation of my inner being helps me be mindful of the being in the doing.

 

Five Prayers, by Thich Nhat Hanh

FaceBook  On Dec 31, 2016 david doane wrote:

 Thank you, FJ, for sharing that piece of your personal story.  I was touched by what you wrote.  DD

 

Five Prayers, by Thich Nhat Hanh

FaceBook  On Dec 24, 2016 david doane wrote:

 The five prayers bring up for me that I am not a separate entity but part of a much bigger system.  It is said we stand on the shoulders of all who came before us -- that's true and it's more than that -- we are connected to all who ever lived, are living and will live.  We are all one -- past, present, and future, interrelated, interdependent, interaffecting.  Many prayers have touched me over the years.  Some prayers that touched me years ago no longer touch me as I have changed and grown.  A prayer that touches me very much today is one that I have created and say often.  The 'Five Prayers' of Thich Nhat Hanh touches me deeply.  I think what helps me cultivate gratitude toward all is learning that at a most basic level I and others are one, that we are much more alike than different, that we are in this project, this body, this journey, this cosmos together, that all that is is whole and sacred.  I am grateful to be part of it all.  

 

Inner World of Moods, by Patty de Llosa

FaceBook  On Dec 19, 2016 david doane wrote:

The author is right.  It is easier to stay out of negative emotions than to get out of them once you are in, or to leave a stream of negative emotion when it's small before it becomes a raging river.  It is possible to leverage your inner world out of its momentary negative hell (which is dis-ease and dis-content) and go to ease and contentment.  I used to be angry and judgmental often, and now I become angry and judgmental much less often, which has occurred by knowing that such negative emotions are not necessary, though I sometimes indulge in them anyway, by being more understanding and compassionate as a result of knowing that everything is temporary and will pass, by learning to be less attached to anything including to what I want, and by learning that we are one.  Reminding myself of those truths helps me exercise the psychic musculature to move away from negative emotions.

 

How to Live If You're Going to Die, by Blanche Hartman

FaceBook  On Dec 10, 2016 david doane wrote:

 In reading the essay, I thought of Mary Oliver asking in The Summer Day, "What do you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?"  For me, the five daily recollections are true and profound, and I plan to make a copy of them and keep it nearby to reread.  I became aware of death in a personal and intimate way when my father died, when my best friend died instantly and unexpectedly of a brain hemorrhage, when other friends have died, and when relatives have died, each of which deaths shook me to various depths.  The deaths of other people my age heighten my awareness of death.  Reminding myself of the five daily recollections -- that I am growing old, that sickness is part of my life, that I will die (drop this body as I've come to think of it), that everything is temporary, and my actions very much define me -- help me to remember to pay attention to my actions, to love and enjoy, and to not waste any of this precious and brief life.