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Planting Twin Trees, by Robin Wall Kimmerer

FaceBook  On Oct 14, 2017 david doane wrote:

 All life is connected -- as a river of life that has been flowing on earth for a couple billion years.  We are the leading edge of all life that has come before us, and we will be part of life that comes after us.  We do leave gifts behind far beyond our lifetime -- the only choice we have is in what gifts we leave.  I like the story of the old man who is happily planting a tree that others will enjoy.  A personal story is that my house was built by a man in 1930, he lived in it until he died in 1968, and I and my family have lived in and enjoyed it for the past 40 years.  I never met him and am grateful to him.  We've made changes and improvements to the house and property that will someday benefit the next owner.  More significantly, mentors have given me life changing wisdom, some of which I've in turn passed on to others.  Knowing that we are all connected in one river of life, and knowing that I have benefited from those who came before me, inspires me to pay my gifts forward.

 

One Has No Self To Love, by Alan Watts

FaceBook  On Oct 7, 2017 david doane wrote:

Alan Watts can be deep.  "Nothing is really more inhuman than human relations based on morals" means to me that nothing is more inhuman than human relations based on rules.  A good deed coming from rule or obligation or agenda is manipulative.  It's using the other as a thing.  It's selfish.  Ironically, it may do some good and be appreciated, which is even worse.  Speaking personally, I have many times felt authentic love, that is, times when someone has done something for me out of love for me.  I've been fortunate.  My understanding is that there is my ego self and there is my real or essential self.  So, I have no ego self to love because my ego self isn't really concerned with love -- it's concerned with my own selfish manipulative agendas.  However, loving from my essential self is agendaless and pure, and it is from essential self that authentic human love comes.  Wisdom teachings ask you to practice loving your essential self.

 

Habits Of The Heart, by Parker Palmer

FaceBook  On Sep 30, 2017 david doane wrote:

 I agree with habit one, our seeing that we are all in this together, which I see as a fact and not an "impossible dream."  As for habit two, having an appreciation of the values of otherness, I don't have it.  I value uniqueness.  Otherness is an illusion.  I agree with the author that us and them doesn't equal us versus them, but us and them is a dualistic and separation perspective rather than a unitive and differentiation perspective and it leads to us versus them.  Regarding habit three, our living in the midst of a multitude of tensions is our lot in this life and is our ongoing challenge, like it or not.  As for habit four, it is the right and privilege and responsibility of each of us to find, trust, and express our truth and voice for our own life and for the life of the community.  With regards to habit five, individualness-community is one of those tensions we live in.  Individual and community appear separate but are really two sides of one coin.  There is no individual without community and no community without individual.  These beliefs foster compassion for me.  The fact that these beliefs make sense to me and foster compassion helps me inculcate them.

 

Advice From A Tree, by Ilan Shamir

FaceBook  On Sep 23, 2017 david doane wrote:

 We can learn much from a tree.  It does its thing.  It lives in the present, responsive to what is happening as it is happening.  It grows, with no second guessing, no self-doubt, no self consciousness.  It plays no games, has no hidden agendas.  It takes no more than what it needs.  It gives in simply being itself.  When used, it is used without guilt giving or bargaining.  When misused or injured, it adjusts and heals and continues living as best it can.  It lives as fully as it can until it dies.  We can learn much from a tree.  I drew wisdom just now in reflecting on the tree.  What helps me enjoy the view while living is knowing enjoyment and purpose are in the process or journey and not in trying to make a particular outcome happen.  Time spent being like a tree, present and responsive, is alive and satisfying.

 

Beyond Content Of Thought, by Ram Dass

FaceBook  On Sep 17, 2017 david doane wrote:

 You can go to a so called psychotherapist who gives poor advice, and you can go to a so called spiritual leader who gives poor advice.  Ram Dass sure has his anti therapist biases.  My suggestion is consult with others, listen to self.  The language I prefer is focus on process rather than focus on mechanics -- what they each are referring to is probably much the same.  The point is to get back to healthy process, engage in healthy mechanics of living, be in the present, let go of content/problems/agendas, and trust that good will happen.  Focus on problem content tends to reinforce it and gets me spinning my wheels going no where.  Dong the right action, as the eight fold path suggests, and not occupying myself with trying to control outcome, works best.  I am happiest and the most good happens when I live that way.  When I am solidly grounded in healthy process and mechanics, the content issue falls into place and sort of takes care of itself and is ripe for the picking.

 

Emptiness And Compassion Go Hand In Hand, by Norman Fischer

FaceBook  On Sep 11, 2017 David Doane wrote:

 Emptiness of preconceived judgments and agendas fosters feeling compassion and human warmth.  Being rooted in emptiness helps me stay truly engaged with the other rather than with my thinking or goals regarding the other.

 

Happy Birthday, Dear Sister, by Parag Shah

FaceBook  On Sep 3, 2017 david doane wrote:

 Nothingness means no thingness, that is, pure being, pure process. pre-form, pre-manifest.  The closest I've come to Nothingness is brief moments of being very much in the present with no attachment to thoughts, agendas, goals, or tasks.  Such brief times have been experiences of intimacy such as while alone in meditation or in relationship with another.  Such moments also occur when I am fully in the process of living and relating and not focused on outcome.  Such moments are very alive.  We are all rooted in Nothingness, though often not aware of it or respectful of it.  Awareness of Nothingness, awareness of our rootedness in Nothingness, and brief experiences in Nothingness make for being in this world but not of it, and that awareness at least helps me stay rooted in awareness of Nothingness.

 

Loving Your Enemy, by Brother David Steindl-Rast

FaceBook  On Aug 26, 2017 david doane wrote:

Loving your enemy means to me that I firmly, honestly, and directly express my disagreement or objection in a way that is kind and compassionate, devoid of anger, hostility, and violence.  Dealing with Trump and many others in our society is a challenge for me.  I'll catch myself saying or thinking that I hate him or them, and I stop myself from going there and instead say or think that I strongly disagree.  I haven't prayed for him or them, but I will, though probably for their enlightenment -- thanks for the reminder.  What helps me practice 'love your enemy' is knowing that we are one and knowing that anger, violence, and hostility are not necessary and are destructive.  People like Gandhi and Martin Luther King were correct that light, not darkness, overcomes darkness, and love, not hate, undoes hate.  Forgiveness, not revenge, heals.  Compassionate objection and dialogue, not war, is loving your enemy and brings peace.  Namaste, that is, I recognize the one divine in you and me, is loving your enemy.

 

Heart And Soul Bonds, by Michelle

FaceBook  On Aug 19, 2017 david doane wrote:

 Heart and especially soul connections go beyond the material boundaries of space and time.  Our unconscious or spirit or soul or essence is beyond space and time, and it is at that level that our most significant connections with one another occur.  At that level, real me meets real you.  I have experienced "heart and soul bonds" in intimate -- and I don't mean sexual -- relating.  Such relating is personal, open, and honest.  In such relating, we are vulnerable and trusting.  In such relating, we are outside space and time.  All connections with others stay part of us forever, some only to a very minor extent, and the heart and soul bonds stay profoundly with us.  What helps me grow in "heart and soul bonds" is that they are fulfilling and enlivening, they feed a hunger in me, and they make life worthwhile.  I'm addicted.

 

Each Thing's Way, by Ray Grigg

FaceBook  On Aug 12, 2017 david doane wrote:

 Trouble is not necessarily caused by people who think they are smart enough to improve things.  Resolution, peace, and happiness are also caused by people who think they are smart enough to improve things.  Being smart enough isn't necessarily a problem.  The author has a limited definition of people who think they are smart enough and of what they will do.  He also says that cunning and ingenuity make things worse -- they may make things better -- you never know.  Understanding can be a problem when the need for it dominates the process and gets in the way of being open to see and learn.  Realizing that the vast majority of all that is is not known, and most of it is not even knowable, gives me perspective on the smallness of what we know, and I feel awe in reflecting on that.  Staying in the box of the fragmentary and superficial is trying to catch the unlimited in the limited, and that is foolishness.  Going outside the box of the fragmentary and superficial and exploring the mystery of totality opens the possibility of getting a glimpse of the unlimited, which we are capable of as human beings and helps us realize what it is to be fully human.

 

To Know Your Mind, Pay Close Attention To It, by Sam Harris

FaceBook  On Aug 6, 2017 david doane wrote:

 My ego is just another transitory appearance in consciousness.  My true self, my essence, is eternal consciousness expressed as me.  I've had some moments in meditation when I felt amorphous, part of all that is, bigger than my usual sense of self -- that was my real self and I relish that state of awareness.  For me, turning consciousness upon itself means being conscious of my consciousness which happens for moments at a time as thoughts do constantly intrude.  What helps me turn consciousness upon itself is practice -- practice putting aside or letting go of my thoughts and being conscious without content.

 

From Being Driven To Being Drawn, by Richard Rohr

FaceBook  On Jul 30, 2017 david doane wrote:

Life is a mixed bag, full of contradictions and dialectics that we live in the midst of and deal with.  That's life.  I certainly can be negative, and have become more positive as I have become more compassionate through realizing that we are one, we are in this together, and everyone has problems and struggles.  The positive source within me is life itself, my knowing that growth in life is inexorable, and my gratitude for the miracle of being alive and my being part of it all.  Negativity and anger are just plain not necessary, and are harmful.  I've come to be more positive oriented, focused on what is, and focused on doing something constructive rather than focused on what isn't and what is wrong and tearing things down.  For me, being positive is healing and I believe more healing for others around me.

 

The Boss And The Attendants, by TKV Desikachar

FaceBook  On Jul 23, 2017 david doane wrote:

 A boss is in charge, and an attendant serves.  Thinking makes a fine attendant and a terrible boss.  I like Chesterton's statement that "The madman is not the one who has lost his reason, it is the one who has lost everything but his reason."  I've learned to be suspicious of reason.  And I believe what Oscar Wilde said, that nothing worth knowing can be taught.  It must be learned, probably through experience.  My learning through experience involves my heart and head, making for personal and deeper learning.  One's head and heart are naturally integrated, and the problem is when they become separated, like so often happens in school.  That's what makes learning in school so inefficient.  I now know that all of me thinks, not just my head.  'Heart thinking' is different than head thinking -- both are useful and knowing that helps me listen to both, with heart getting priority.  And the top dog is the soul, the source of both head and heart, but that's a different story.

 

The Grandest Vision For Humanity, by Riva Melissa Taz

FaceBook  On Jul 16, 2017 david doane wrote:

We're not unimportant in the sequence of the eternal everything.  Each and every atom, cell, and being is important.  As the author says, each dot and microdot in a painting is part of an intricate scene.  Likewise, each of us is important, and the universe would be different without any one of us.  The universe is expressing and evolving through each of us.  As we know who we are, the universe knows who we are.  I know life and the whole universe are fragile and existence is precarious.  I know the earth and humanity could destruct or could go on and grow further.  Still I have a grand vision for humanity.  I learned long ago that growth is inexorable, that we are here to blossom and become all that we are, not just sustain and survive, and that learning stays with me.  P.S.  The bio says the author is an enthusiast of cognitive psychology.  That's so narrow.  Psyche is life, much more than cognitive.  I recommend life psychology.

 

The False Duality Between "Job" And "Service", by Zilong Wang

FaceBook  On Jul 10, 2017 david doane wrote:

 Many actions can be of service.  I define service fundamentalism as service done by obligation or rule, that is, it is based on should, have to, can't, must, and got to, all of which are positions or attitudes of obligation and are ways of telling ourselves that we are powerless and victims, which is likely to result in feeling resentment and depression.  What makes service virtuous is it being done freely, done out of choice.  Obligation is toxic.  The setting doesn't matter.  That is, it doesn't matter whether a person is on the job or unemployed or what kind of job a person has.  What matters is where the service is coming from.  Service out of obligation or rule lacks virtue and may even be toxic, and service out of free choice is virtuous and healthy.  For me, sacredness is wholeness, and wholeness involves freedom, so service that is in harmony with wholeness and done freely, is sacred service.  Knowing this helps me to avoid the trap of service fundamentalism.

 

Force of Love is the Force of Total Revolution, by Vimala Thakar

FaceBook  On Jul 4, 2017 david doane wrote:

The love that is the force of total revolution is the awareness and realization that we are one -- one with one another and with all that is -- and that what we do to any being, living and not living, and to this planet that we are part of we do to ourselves.  With such love we live in I-Thou rather than us-and-them, we live in compassion rather than indifference or worse, we live in cooperation rather than competition, we live in peace rather than war.  My realization that I am intimately and profoundly related to all that is began long ago and deepened as I discovered wisdom of the Far East and particularly wisdom of the Vedanta tradition.  I don't know what is impossible.  I know that what is possible is much greater than what we think is possible.  Our capacity is much greater than our thinking.

 

Attachments Are Not Set in Stone, by Robina Courtin

FaceBook  On Jun 24, 2017 david doane wrote:

 "Set in stone" means unchangeable.  Nothing is unchangeable or permanent, including our attachments.  As a child I learned a lot that I thought was the truth, set in stone, that I was very attached to.  It was in my twenties that I began to consider other viewpoints, began to question and detach from old 'truths' and began to attach to new 'truths.'  And the process goes on.  I've come to believe that attachments are unhealthy and the source of unnecessary pain, and as far as I know, my present attachments are not set in stone -- they are more like stepping stones, and they and I are evolving.  I don't have any set in stone attachments.  As for therapy, therapy means to heal.  Actually no one can heal me but me, and in that sense I am my own therapist -- others can facilitate, and such persons are therapists for me.  I suppose the person who has no one but himself or herself as therapist has a fool for a patient.  My own psychotherapy helps me be my own therapist.  Various people and experiences in my life are therapeutic for me and help me be my own therapist.  Now I can allow many people to be therapeutic for me, usually without their even knowing, and that capacity helps me be my own therapist.

 

Enlightenment is Intimacy with All Things, by Michael Damian

FaceBook  On Jun 17, 2017 david doane wrote:

 Enlightenment means filled with light and abiding in light.  Enlightenment typically begins with being open to allow light with which to see what is, see truth, not see my own thinking or conditioning or preconceived beliefs and prejudices, not try to control or manufacture or manipulate what is, but truly see and accept what is, all of which is a process of intimacy with all things.  I fairly recently came to see that all that is, living and not living, is an expression of and part of one field, and with that realization I appreciate the wholeness of what we call reality more than ever before.  I don't know about the benevolence of reality -- I simply see that reality is, and what we make of it is our doing.  I am part of existence, so openness to existence includes openness to myself, which of course is a challenge that I sometimes embrace and sometimes side step.  Over time I gain a little enlightenment.

 

Be Alight with Who We Are, by Mark Nepo

FaceBook  On Jun 12, 2017 david doane wrote:

 There is always purpose in being, but not always being in purpose.  So true.  I agree with Hegedus that our purpose is to passionately be who we are and let go of trying to accomplish some purpose.  Pursuit of a purpose often compromises our self.  In passionately being who we are, we are not competing, not comparing, not goal directed, and we are being true to ourselves and performing action that is right action in the moment.  I have had moments when my speech or action has been fully in synchrony with my real self, not purpose oriented, and I am alight with who I am at my core.  What helps me live fully and be alight with who I am is knowing that I am happiest when I engage in my right process and action and let go of concern about outcome.  It is the opposite extreme of being political.

 

Big Enough to Take It All In, by Margaret Wheatley

FaceBook  On Jun 3, 2017 david doane wrote:

 For me, to want to see clearly is not scary -- to do it, to actually open my eyes and see clearly is sometimes scary.  We are big enough to be open to what life offers, and if we think we're not it's time  we learn that we are.  Our preconceived attitudes, predictions, expectations, and prejudices hinder us from seeing what is.  Being open to what is and dealing with it is satisfying and growthful, and doing it reveals that and helps me to commit to doing it more.  Being open to what is and dealing with what is is to be dealing with the truth, and truth may at times be scary and difficult to accept, but it is the truth that sets us free. 

 

Is There Righteous Anger Ever?, by J. Krishnamurti

FaceBook  On May 27, 2017 david doane wrote:

 I have looked at my anger.  I can't remember a time that I became angry that I am proud of or after which I felt good or believed my anger was good for myself or the other person.  At some point I came to the conclusion that anger is an unnecessary emotion.  I don't need to become angry and work myself into a lather.  As far as I'm concerned, there is no righteous anger, and to call some anger righteous is only a way to try to justify it.  I still do at times become angry, but less often than I used to and I can nip it in the bud much more than I used to.  For me, anger is an indication that I have plenty of growing to still do.  It is possible to disagree, object, have my own opinion, assert myself, and even defend myself without being angry.  I do have a right and a responsibility to have my voice, express and stand up for myself, and I don't have to be angry to do so.  When I do speak up without indulging in anger, I feel satisfied rather than regretful, and I have achieved some freedom from the compulsion to be angry.

 

Live Intentionally, In Freedom, by Eknath Easwaran

FaceBook  On May 20, 2017 david doane wrote:

 By definition, the part of us that we are unaware of is the unconscious.  What I become aware of is no longer unconscious.  I may think of the unconscious as full of nothing but wild beasts and other evil -- Freud called it a seething cauldron, Jung called it the shadow -- but it's all me.  When I was a kid, I was convinced there was a boogeyman that I desperately feared in the attic of our house, and sometimes I could see him through the attic window.  One day I went into the attic, with the protection of my mother of course, and saw that my boogeyman was a dressmaker's form, really harmless and something that had its use.  What we fear as wild beasts are the inner treasures.  The wild beasts are the unknown, and the more I fear and separate them from myself the more they become wild beasts.  As I meet and become aware of what I fear and keep unconscious, I can incorporate in ways that are healthy and constructive.  I never become aware of all of the unconscious any more than I become aware of all of the universe, but the more of me I become aware of the more of me I become, and I gain freedom from compulsions, cravings and fits of emotions that had control because I feared them and lacked awareness.  The only exile I'm in from my unconscious is the exile I (with help from family, cultural and religious conditioning) keep me in.  What helps me live in freedom is ongoingly being open about myself, becoming more aware of myself, owning and becoming more of myself.  My freedom is limited because I never become aware of all of my unconscious and become all of me, but the more of me I become the more freedom I enjoy.

 

Knowledge can be Conveyed, but not Wisdom, by Herman Hesse

FaceBook  On May 13, 2017 david doane wrote:

 We live in a reality that is dualistic.  Our thoughts and words are part of that dualistic reality and we think and talk in terms of either-or, this or that, which is one-sided.  We don't live in a unitive reality in which we would think and talk wholistically.  Multi-sided full reality is experienced wholistically, which is more than thought with thoughts and said with words.  A wise man once told me that the opposite of a truth was also just as true, and I've been growing into that truth ever since.  I've learned to look in the opposite direction, which is the other side or the rest of the whole, and when I do it opens up more of the truth to me.  I also remind myself of Oscar Wilde's wisdom that nothing worth knowing can be taught.  Wisdom is learned, and it's learned through lived experience, not through intellectual instruction.  Knowing that helps me value wisdom through living over knowledge through cognitive transfer. 

 

True Humility: Selfless Respect for Reality, by Costica Bradatan

FaceBook  On May 7, 2017 david doane wrote:

The word humility is derived from humous, suggesting that we are part of this earth and not apart from it.  I am truly humble when I am being myself simply because I am and not for any ego driven agenda.  As the author said, humility is selfless respect for reality.  Being someone who tends to downplay myself, which is a form of false humility, I have experienced true humility when I am honestly owning up to who and what I am. The sun shines for no purpose -- it shines because that is its nature, it's being humble in human terms, and in so doing all sorts of benefits occur.  When I accept and be myself because that is my nature, I am humble like the sun, and in the process I am more integrated and whole, which is healing or therapeutic, and do the most good for others.  As has been said, humility isn't thinking less of oneself but thinking of one's self less.  Being humble isn't a form of therapy, but it is always therapeutic.

 

The Sacred Art of Pausing, by Tara Brach

FaceBook  On Apr 29, 2017 david doane wrote:

 In fact, we have so little control.  I very much value letting go of trying to control and taking hold of trusting my inner experience.  In general, we do far too much trying to control self, others, and situations and too little noticing, trusting, and expressing our inner experience.  There have been times in relationships when I don't try to control direction or outcome and trust my inner experience, being present, open, and true to my inner experience, and it invariably is a positive experience.  A good mantra would be inner experience, not control.  I like the author's phrase "sacred pause." To me, what makes it sacred is when in it my inner experience and outer expression are in harmony and I am integrated rather than fragmented or duplicitous.

 

Wonder of the Universe is Wondering In Us, by Paul Fleischman

FaceBook  On Apr 22, 2017 david doane wrote:

 How else could it be except that our wondering minds are products of the universe?  Everything is part of the universe, including our wondering minds.  When the notion began to sink in for me that all that is is one interconnected interrelated whole, I began to realize that the universe is a wonder and the wonder of the universe is wondering in and through us.  We are the universe in wonder of itself.  It is a wonder to me that I and every living and not living entity exists and is constantly interacting, evolving and expressing in different forms.  What helps me connect with wonder and inquire into it is my awe about it which results in my continuing to expand my awareness about the interconnectedness and unity of the universe.

 

Touching the Earth, by Tracy Cochran

FaceBook  On Apr 15, 2017 david doane wrote:

To me, touching the earth means staying grounded, present, humble, and not going off into ego-driven grandiose desires and goals.  I experience touching the earth when I stay in the present, responding to what is happening in me, in the other, and in the situation at hand, and staying true to myself.  What helps me remember to be rooted, when I do remember, is trusting the process and not be hypnotized by an ambition or outcome I want to accomplish.  Attachments unroot me.

 

We Were Made for These Times, by Clarissa Pinkola Estes

FaceBook  On Apr 8, 2017 david doane wrote:

 Rage is rage.  There is no righteous rage, like there is no just war.  I don't think we have been learning, practicing, training for and waiting for this plain of engagement.  We have been living and learning and have whatever skills and wisdom we have to deal with what's happening.  I agree there are a lot of awakened souls that are sea worthy and may hold their own.  I appreciate the author's optimism -- I hope she's right.  Submitting to a voice greater doesn't mean necessarily that we'll mend anything or reach an enduring good or bring justice and peace.  I fully believe that we are to get out into the open sea, and I'm all for standing up on deck and showing one's soul and shining like gold, and doing what is within our reach, all of which is our right and responsibility and may be an act of immense bravery and greatest necessity, and may inspire other souls.  Maybe we will hit critical mass and tip toward enduring good.  I also full believe there is no guaranteed outcome.  We may withstand storms and flourish -- I hope we do.  I also know the ship may sink.  That's not at all reason to despair -- it's simply being realistic.

 

The Way of the Water, by Ursula LeGuin

FaceBook  On Apr 2, 2017 david doane wrote:

 The way of water means being present, spontaneous, responsive to circumstances, adjusting in every moment, taking the path of least resistance, staying within one's own abilities, doing one's own thing, being nongoal-directed, and being persistent.  This way can wear down obstacles, just as water does, but that's not water's intent or purpose.  I've at times lived some qualities of the way of water, but have never fully lived that way, which is very difficult to accomplish.  What helps me flow like a river is being in the present, focusing on process and not on outcome.  It would be wonderful for us to stop glamorizing the way of the warrior and begin to value the way of water.

 

We Are Swimming in Miracles, by Peter Kalmus

FaceBook  On Mar 25, 2017 david doane wrote:

 It's said the last one to notice water is a fish.  Like the fish in water, we're swimming in miracles and may take them for granted.  Everything is a miracle.  Creation is a miracle.  Life is a miracle.  Every moment, every breath is a miracle  It's a miracle that the 100 trillion cells of a human body work together simultaneously performing millions of processes each second for decades.  My recognition of this began a long time ago and continues to grow.  Waking up, using my eyes to see and my ears to hear, developing compassion, slowing down, becoming free help me recognize the miracles in every day life.  Recognizing the miracles increases my awe and gratitude.

 

Returning the Gift, by Robin Wall Kimmerer

FaceBook  On Mar 18, 2017 david doane wrote:

 Gratitude means being thankful for everything including my own existence, based on the realization that this whole interconnected interacting Earth and beyond including my existence is a gift.  Living that awareness is medicine, that is, is wholeness and health for the living Earth and for me.  In becoming aware of that I begin to feel the healing power from gratitude to the living Earth.  I practice gratitude for my immediate small part of the living Earth by taking care of it, not polluting and exploiting and destroying it, and by advocating for environmentally healthy practices and policies on a planet level.

 

I-It and I-Thou, by David Brooks

FaceBook  On Mar 11, 2017 david doane wrote:

I-it moments are utilitarian, goal- and future-directed.  I-thou moments are purposeless or goal-less and present.  Both kinds of moments are part of life.  In I-thou moments there are two individuals meeting, being open and honest in the moment.  In I-thou moments the individuals are personally present and vulnerable, simply being together.  In I-it moments there is an agenda, some thing or some function is being sought, and I relate to the other as being there to serve a purpose.  I-it moments can be fine when the agenda is out in the open, and are a problem when there is a hidden agenda.  I've had some I-thou moments in which I and another are being soul to soul in a spiritual agape love, and such moments are precious and few, as Sonny Geraci sang.  I-it and I-thou moments are easy to tell apart.  When I'm out to get something from the other I'm in an I-it moment.  When I'm simply meeting and being met, being open in the present and without purpose or agenda, I'm in an I-thou moment.

 

Moved by Love, by Sri M

FaceBook  On Mar 4, 2017 david doane wrote:

 I believe meeting violent intentions with love is the only way to go, if it results in no violence or in violence, if it results in peaceful resolution or death.  I don't know if I would live up to that belief in a situation of facing violence or death but I hope I would.  Love disarms violence and will prevail, even if injury or death occurs before the love replaces violence.  Love begets love, and eventually love prevails.  Violence begets more violence, and never prevails.  I've learned about violence being diffused by love by what Mohandas Gandhi and Martin Luther King accomplished.  I've seen potential violence dissolve in the presence of acceptance and love.  I've defused potential arguments by being calm and kind rather than fostering argument and violence by hostile reaction.  I don't always stay rooted in love.  What helps me sometimes stay rooted in love is knowing that only love dissipates violence, just as only light dissipates darkness.  It was said in the 60s that dropping bombs for peace is like screwing for virginity.  It just won't ever work.

 

A Scheme to Change the World?, by Hazrat Inayat Khan

FaceBook  On Feb 25, 2017 david doane wrote:

I don't equate everyone having the same share economically to tuning a piano such that it has only one note.  I equate everyone having the same share economically to everyone having a piano, that is, leveling the playing field so everyone has the same opportunities.  What someone does with their opportunities, such as the music someone creates with their piano, is up to the individual.  Now we have a world of haves and have nots.  Ten percent of people controlling eighty percent of the wealth isn't good economy.  A portion of the world having too much and throwing food away while another portion is starving to death isn't good economy.  The same opportunities available to everyone would be economical, that is, efficient, and would be fair, and would be good will in action and an applied spirituality that would change the world.  The good will of others has been inspiring and infectious for me, resulting in more good will from me.  Knowing good will in and of itself is right sometimes keeps me focused on kind behavior rather than on ramifications or outcome.  Gandhi's famous 'Be the change you want to see in the world' has helped me to at least sometimes do good rather than wait or be concerned about others' reactions.

 

You Play the Piano, by Alan Watts

FaceBook  On Feb 19, 2017 david doane wrote:

The best and happiest of living is like playing music in a way that is enjoying each note, not playing to get to the end of the piece.  I suppose improvisational music or jamming is the ultimate playing music to enjoy the process of playing.  I remember a book called Finite and Infinite Games, out of which I got that it's important to live life as an infinite game played for the joy of playing, not a finite game played to win.  Life is an infinite game, at least for most creatures except for us screwed up humans.  As an experiential psychotherapist, I have opportunities every day to experience time with others as playing music, responding to what is happening as it happens, being spontaneous, focusing on process and not outcome, operating out of my guts as well as and sometimes more than out of my head.  What helps me avoid living a deferred life plan for future success and enjoy the music is my knowing that happiness is in the way of living, learning to keep process ahead of progress or product, and knowing that life is what happens in between plans.  My happiest times are times I play life rather than work life.

 

Praise Song for Wide Open Space, by Omid Safi

FaceBook  On Feb 10, 2017 david doane wrote:

I love the wide open spaces.  I just came in from outside looking at the enormous starless sky with a giant full moon -- I felt awe and gratitude.  I spontaneously thanked God.  I remember being in Montana a year or so ago and looking out over an enormous terrain and a big sky that seemed endless (and maybe is), and again felt awe.  In both situations, I forgot about the microdramas of life and appreciated the cosmos and my being part of it.  I felt alive and had a sense of being part of a huge interconnected miracle.  I breathed deep and took it in and didn't want the moment to end.  For me, it was a spiritual moment beyond space and time.  Those kind of glorious experiences of taking in and feeling part of a miraculous cosmos help me remember to be open to more such glorious moments.

 

Why Meditate, by Suzanne Toro

FaceBook  On Feb 4, 2017 david doane wrote:

Stillness grants the opportunity to be in touch with one's soul, which is the real self.  And since my soul is an extension of God, in being in touch with my soul, I am in union with God.  And since God incarnates into all that is, in stillness I am in union with the cosmos.  My saying that is a ripple effect in part of meditation, which is a ripple effect that I carry with me throughout my living and enhances my living.  The experience of being in touch with my soul and beyond, which occurs in meditation, is sumptuous and has persuaded me to incorporate meditation into my life. 

 

Letting Meaning Flow Into Purpose, by Brother David Steindl-Rast

FaceBook  On Jan 31, 2017 david doane wrote:

 Actually, Amy, we may never be apart spiritually from others, but bodily is one way we are often apart from others. 

 

Letting Meaning Flow Into Purpose, by Brother David Steindl-Rast

FaceBook  On Jan 28, 2017 david doane wrote:

As Steindl-Rast says, purposeful and meaningful are different and can be united.  Purposeful means goal-directed, having a goal that I want to accomplish.  Meaningful means something has significance to me.  I can be purposeful about something that is meaningless to me.  Something can be meaningful to me and I do nothing about it.  Meaningful and purposeful are united when I am purposeful or goal-directed about something that is meaningful or significant to me.  I don't know of a personal near death experience, other than everyday living, but my wife was very near death, and my responsiveness was probably greatly selfish as I was sad and scared as I wanted her to continue to be bodily with me, and worried about my being without her.  She lived, is well, and we go on, I am happy to say.  For me, death precipitates thinking about what is meaningful to me, what it is I want to do, and stirs some urgency to be more purposeful about what is meaningful to me as I am more sharply aware that the big death is coming closer every day.

 

My Misgivings About Advice, by Parker Palmer

FaceBook  On Jan 21, 2017 david doane wrote:

 I think of things like "the nature cure" ie "Why don't you go outside and enjoy the sunshine?" and "self-image sprucing" ie "Why so down on yourself?  You've helped so many people?" as friendly well-intentioned advice and encouragement that  typically are just pablum, minimally nourishing or helpful.  Witnessing as being fully with the other, present, attentive and actively listening, is important for the soul, providing the space to become.  We are born, heal, evolve, grow, transform from inside out.  No one does it to us or for us.  We have the resources within, and witnessing can support and allow the process.  Sometimes witnessing is more than enough, and sometimes additional skillful intervention is very helpful or necessary.  I've seen both situations.  What helps me stay rooted in being a witness in the face of intense suffering is knowing that witnessing in and of itself is powerful medicine, is nurturing and healing, and if more is needed, witnessing can be the container in which additional skillful intervention is tolerable and successful.  Witnessing and the right intervention can be a valuable combination.

 

Theory and Practice, by Vincent Horn

FaceBook  On Jan 14, 2017 david doane wrote:

A theory is an idea, a possibility, a speculation.  Practice is action.  Theory encourages action to try out or test the theory, and practice provides action to support or dispute the theory.  They work together well.  My theory was that I could play basketball adequately well at 70 -- not as well as at 30, but still well.  Long story short, I got into a basketball game with some guys in their 20s.  After clumsily moving around on the court, missing passes and shots, falling over myself and injuring and probably breaking my big toe which still isn't completely healed after 6 months, data indicated clearly that my theory was inaccurate.  Theory got me out on the court and got me playing.  Practice put the theory to the test and woke me up to the reality that I'm not 30.  I don't know whether my theories are true or false until I take action to test them.  I can hear what others believe or learned, but I don't know for myself until I test the validity of my theories for myself.  There is no teacher like personal experience/practice/action, even, maybe especially, when it hurts.

 

Shaped by a Silky Attention, by Jane Hirshfield

FaceBook  On Jan 7, 2017 david doane wrote:

Great art comes out of passion -- passion that includes love of and commitment to an endeavor.  Passion that overrides tiredness, pain, and hunger.  Passion that dominates and carries one.  Passion that focuses attention and energy.  Passion that becomes timeless and effortless.  Passion that is beyond the self.  Passion that is a labor of love.  To be taken over by such passion is ecstasy and can be also agony.  It's the best and fullest of living.  As for a personal story, in my early twenties I was unhappy, felt lost, and lacked direction.  I went to a psychotherapist and learned about me and life.  I decided I wanted to become a psychotherapist, threw myself into it and spent the next 40 years in psychotherapy, receiving and providing, learning about people dynamics and growth, learning the craft.  My early unhappiness and confusion became a path toward concentration culminating in my labor of love, psychotherapy.  I got into it big time, am still in it and still excited with it.  Finding my passion, or my bliss as Joseph Campbell would say, turning on to what was alive and fulfilling for me, helped me develop my "true concentration."  

 

Medicine for the Earth, by Sandra Ingerman

FaceBook  On Jan 2, 2017 david doane wrote:

I very much appreciate Sandra Ingerman's message.  As she says, everything that manifests in the physical world starts in the invisible realm of spirit.  Inside is our being, and outside is our doing.  Doing is an expression of our being.  Real and lasting change in doing is accomplished through change in being.  Substantial change is from inside out.  In learning this, my world view changed.  A major part of the change for me was in regards to responsibility.  I am responsible for my happiness and unhappiness, which are the result of my way of being and not of what befalls me from outside.  I learned if I'm not happy and want to be happy, I need to change me within and not just my outside.  Change in my external behavior may facilitate change within, but it's only when I change from within that I really change.  Knowing that my doing is the manifestation of my inner being helps me be mindful of the being in the doing.

 

Five Prayers, by Thich Nhat Hanh

FaceBook  On Dec 31, 2016 david doane wrote:

 Thank you, FJ, for sharing that piece of your personal story.  I was touched by what you wrote.  DD

 

Five Prayers, by Thich Nhat Hanh

FaceBook  On Dec 24, 2016 david doane wrote:

 The five prayers bring up for me that I am not a separate entity but part of a much bigger system.  It is said we stand on the shoulders of all who came before us -- that's true and it's more than that -- we are connected to all who ever lived, are living and will live.  We are all one -- past, present, and future, interrelated, interdependent, interaffecting.  Many prayers have touched me over the years.  Some prayers that touched me years ago no longer touch me as I have changed and grown.  A prayer that touches me very much today is one that I have created and say often.  The 'Five Prayers' of Thich Nhat Hanh touches me deeply.  I think what helps me cultivate gratitude toward all is learning that at a most basic level I and others are one, that we are much more alike than different, that we are in this project, this body, this journey, this cosmos together, that all that is is whole and sacred.  I am grateful to be part of it all.  

 

Inner World of Moods, by Patty de Llosa

FaceBook  On Dec 19, 2016 david doane wrote:

The author is right.  It is easier to stay out of negative emotions than to get out of them once you are in, or to leave a stream of negative emotion when it's small before it becomes a raging river.  It is possible to leverage your inner world out of its momentary negative hell (which is dis-ease and dis-content) and go to ease and contentment.  I used to be angry and judgmental often, and now I become angry and judgmental much less often, which has occurred by knowing that such negative emotions are not necessary, though I sometimes indulge in them anyway, by being more understanding and compassionate as a result of knowing that everything is temporary and will pass, by learning to be less attached to anything including to what I want, and by learning that we are one.  Reminding myself of those truths helps me exercise the psychic musculature to move away from negative emotions.

 

How to Live If You're Going to Die, by Blanche Hartman

FaceBook  On Dec 10, 2016 david doane wrote:

 In reading the essay, I thought of Mary Oliver asking in The Summer Day, "What do you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?"  For me, the five daily recollections are true and profound, and I plan to make a copy of them and keep it nearby to reread.  I became aware of death in a personal and intimate way when my father died, when my best friend died instantly and unexpectedly of a brain hemorrhage, when other friends have died, and when relatives have died, each of which deaths shook me to various depths.  The deaths of other people my age heighten my awareness of death.  Reminding myself of the five daily recollections -- that I am growing old, that sickness is part of my life, that I will die (drop this body as I've come to think of it), that everything is temporary, and my actions very much define me -- help me to remember to pay attention to my actions, to love and enjoy, and to not waste any of this precious and brief life.

 

For the Traveler, by John O'Donohue

FaceBook  On Dec 3, 2016 david doane wrote:

 A journey is sacred that proceeds by following one's inner voice or spirit, that engenders learning, growth, and becoming more whole, and likely takes one where he or she doesn't know he or she is going.  When I do that kind of journeying, mostly for brief durations during some days, I don't have external goals and I block out external distractions which creates a silence to the outside world that helps me hear and be guided by my inside world.  Such journeying is alive for me and helps me be more attentive to my inner self.  Such journeying is its own reward.

 

Every Piece is Meant For You, by Virgil Kalyana Mittata Iordache

FaceBook  On Nov 26, 2016 david doane wrote:

 Every piece of the whole is important.  I am part of the whole, every part is part of me, so in a sense every piece is meant for me and for the whole.  That we are all one, that the incarnate God is all creation, that all that is is sacred, are pieces that came together and fit together for me, resulting in insights and in me seeing life differently, all of which has been very important for me.  The practice of process not outcome helps me.  That is, I believe my responsibility is to focus on and trust process, engage in action and interaction that is in line with my truth, not try to manipulate or control outcome, and hope for the best.  I believe the practice of living process not outcome increases the chance that things will work out as I wish in the end, but I don't know.  We never know.  I trust the end will occur and it will be what it will be.

 

Love Needs to be Constantly Cleansed, by Ajahn Jayasaro

FaceBook  On Nov 19, 2016 david doane wrote:

Emotions like worry and jealously aren't proof of love but are likely to be evidence of insecurity, control, and possessiveness.  Love is positive for the lover and for the one loved, and trying to control and possess is not positive for either.  Healthy love sets you free, not binds you down.  Healthy love involves intimacy that allows freedom, individuality, and growth.  I've had experiences of wanting to possess who I loved, and it didn't work -- that kind of love hurt the relationship rather than nurture it.  Unfortunately I didn't become aware of the need to cleanse the way I was loving until far into the relationship and much damage had already been done.  Such painful experiences have resulted in my being aware of the need to cleanse my love.  As the saying goes, good judgment comes from experience, experience comes from bad judgment.

 

Restoring Balance and Meaning in Ourselves, by Alan Briskin

FaceBook  On Nov 13, 2016 david doane wrote:

I think of us as participating in the meaning of life, not as translating meaning into life.  The meaning of life is whatever it is.  Our translating meaning into life is our interpretation.  We can be in harmony with our selves which puts us in harmony with Nature though not necessarily in harmony with the outer world of people and activities around us.  When in harmony with Nature, we are in harmony with the meaning of life.  In becoming more accepting and valuing of my real self, I allowed more synchronicity with my self and became more in balance with my self which resulted in others becoming more accepting and valuing of me -- what a coincidence.  What helps me stay focused on inner balance is knowing that my real self is my essence and foundation that I need to stay faithful to even when noticing disharmony in the outer world.  I've learned that faithfulness to my inner self is primary and independent of the outer world and keeps me in balance with my inner self. 

 

Why I Make Movies, by Mickey Lemle

FaceBook  On Nov 5, 2016 david doane wrote:

Picasso supposedly said, "Art is a lie that tells the truth."  And Marcus Borg's statement that "The bible is true and some of it actually happened."  For me, I have my truth, which is relative truth, and don't know absolute truth -- maybe my relative truth coincides with absolute truth a little or a lot, but who knows.  I like the author's comment that half the time in a movie the screen is actually black.  The honest witness deep inside me tingled when I realized I had a right to express my truth, and when I realized that I have some power, and when I realized I'm loveable, and when I began appreciating us human beings as being manifestations in form of One Sacred Source and we are all one.  Those realizations had deep internal reverberations for me.  Manipulating reality and accepting reality are both part of living.  Some reality can be manipulated beneficially, such as a field can be tilled and a broken bone can be put back in place, and when it is done above board and honestly, not out of a hidden agenda or deceit, it is a positive action.  I also think there is reality to accept, such as that my feelings and behavior are mine and my responsibility, no one else's -- that is reality as far as I know -- and to accept it saves a lot of trouble, and to manipulate it creates a lot of problems.

 

The Glass is Already Broken, by Stephen and Ondrea Levine

FaceBook  On Oct 29, 2016 david doane wrote:

I don't like the notion of living as though we were already dead.  We aren't dead.  We are living and dying at the same time.  Living and dying aren't dead.  Living and dying are the life we have.  I appreciate the impermanence of all that is, which means everything is always changing and nothing lasts, but impermanence doesn't mean we are already dead.  I don' live as though already dead.  I like to live alive.  Seeing life for how it is helps me see the impermanence of things.  Awareness that change is constant doesn't  result in indifference but results in passion for living.  I believe we are to live alive, with awareness that nothing is permanent and we are living and dying simultaneously which results in neither attachment to nor squandering of what is but in being present to and with what is.

 

Three Millimeters of the Universe, by Daniel Gottlieb

FaceBook  On Oct 22, 2016 david doane wrote:

My three millimeters is the little bit that I occupy in time and space.  On the one hand it seem insignificant.  On the other hand, my three millimeters affects all the other millimeters in the universe in either a positive or negative way.  The universe is different based on my care for the three millimeters entrusted to me.  When I became truly aware that all that is is one,that I am part of the all that is, and when I learned a little about karma, my way of looking at the universe and others changed.  In a word, I became more compassionate.  What helps me to stay rooted in caring for my three millimeters is awareness that we are all in this together and what I do affects all.  

 

Destiny is Within Us, by Hawah Kasat

FaceBook  On Oct 16, 2016 david doane wrote:

The word destiny means a predetermined fate or outcome, and I don't believe any of us have predetermined fate.  We are here to grow and blossom, which is a quality of human being, not a predetermined outcome.  External circumstances are real and contribute to the outcome of my life, but don't make me the person I am or will be.  I also believe good and bad fortune happens to each of us, the evolution of which is karmic and usually too complex to understand, and I don't think of that as destiny or predetermined fate either.  My response to external circumstances is my choice, and my choices author and create the person I am and will be.  I've known that for a long time.  We live in an age of blaming and not taking responsibility, and we frequently use external circumstances to blame and not take responsibility.  My personal mantra is process, not outcome, which supports keeping my awareness on my process and on the choices I am making.

 

Destiny is Within Us, by Hawah Kasat

FaceBook  On Oct 16, 2016 david doane wrote:

The word destiny means a predetermined fate or outcome, and I don't believe any of us have predetermined fate.  We are here to grow and blossom, which is a quality of human being, not a predetermined outcome.  External circumstances are real and contribute to the outcome of my life, but don't make me the person I am or will be.  I also believe good and bad fortune happens to each of us, the evolution of which is karmic and usually too complex to understand, and I don't think of that as destiny or predetermined fate either.  My response to external circumstances is my choice, and my choices author and create the person I am and will be.  I've known that for a long time.  We live in an age of blaming and not taking responsibility, and we frequently use external circumstances to blame and not take responsibility.  My personal mantra is process, not outcome, which supports keeping my awareness on my process and on the choices I am making.

 

Reengineeing Our Patterns, by Eknath Easwaran

FaceBook  On Oct 8, 2016 david doane wrote:

For me, a spiritual path entails remaining aware that all is one and sacred and my activities are part of that big picture.  I can get so busy and stressed that I forget that.  Being selective and prioritizing regarding activities reduces the number of activities and allows me to slow me down, be in the present, and maintain awareness of the big picture.  That sounds good -- I ought to do it more often.  Taking time most every morning to physically stretch and exercise and to meditate, even when I have many activities to do and many things on my mind, is my reengineering my pattern to take time for me physically and spiritually and start the day with awareness of the big spiritual picture.  The unnecessary is always intruding, and being in the present including meditation helps me to let go of the unnecessary and focus on the essential.

 

Becoming Free of Our Substitute Life, by Ezra Bayda

FaceBook  On Oct 3, 2016 david doane wrote:

A substitute  is a stand in that serves in place of the real thing.  Personally, it's an act or role that I put on that is other than the real me, expresses something other than my truth.  A person does this out of the belief that the substitute will make a better impression or be better liked or will get further ahead or will get a particular outcome or will be safe, etc.  Attachment to these beliefs is small because it means to trust and accept and value a false self, an imitation, more than the real self.  I started becoming aware of such attachments long ago and am still in the process of letting go of them and expressing and living my real self.  What helps me avoid an escape strategy is trusting my truth, trusting what I am experiencing, and reminding myself that honesty is the best policy and the truth will set me free.  Good experiences including a sense of satisfaction when I am real help me to avoid escaping to a substitute. 

 

What is Meditation?, by Vimala Thakar

FaceBook  On Sep 25, 2016 david doane wrote:

The awareness of which the author writes I think of as mindfulness.  For me, mindfulness is a detached observance of feelings and actions as they are occurring while I am involved in a situation.  Mindfulness is a kind of being in the world but not of it.  I think of meditation as my stopping or at least slowing down my mental activity by being silently aware of my internal experience in the moment as it/I am happening, holding on to nothing.  I think of meditation as silent internal awareness, and mindfulness as silent observing of my external behavior.  Both ultimately result in more freedom.  For me, in awareness or mindfulness I am observing my behavior and reactions, and my being detached gives me the freedom to make choices about if and how I will behavior including if and how I express my internal reaction.   A personal example is when I have felt angry, in being aware or mindful of that reaction I can choose to not express it in any conscious way.  Meditation  has helped me be less angry and more compassionate overall.  The practice of meditation has helped me bring mindfulness to the vast field of consciousness.  (I assume you mean "field of consciousness" and not "fiend of consciousness," which is an interesting slip.

 

Trees are Sanctuaries, by Herman Hesse

FaceBook  On Sep 18, 2016 david doane wrote:

Trees are wiser than we are in that they are what they are, without wavering or thinking about it.  We are to be like trees, that is, not listen to others and not be distracted by anything but listen to ourselves and become all that we are.  I've become deeply aware of the sacredness of all of nature, and that includes trees.  Trees seem to be better at becoming what they are than we humans are at becoming what we are.  Trees seem to not worry or complain or try.  They are in the present, they unselfconsciously respond to what's happening, they become.  I don't listen to trees nearly as often or as attentively as I could and as would be good for me.  Hesse's essay and this reflection remind me to listen to trees and all of nature more closely. 

 

Right Away is the Opposite of Now, by Jacob Needleman

FaceBook  On Sep 9, 2016 david doane wrote:

'Right away' is rushing to get tasks done, frenetically being goal-directed and in the future, frenetically doing.   Being now is truly being in the present, goal-lessly and purposelessly, aware of and alive in the dynamic present.  They are two different states of being.  I am often aware of a need to be present and have times of being very fully present, but such times are seldom pure and are brief.  I have protected myself only partially from turning into a hungry ghost.  Awareness of now certainly helps.  I'm not fully hungry ghost and not fully now.  Hungry ghost and now are two ends of a continuum.  Sometimes I'm at one extreme or the other, and usually I'm a mix of the two, somewhere left or right of center.  Often, like right now, I'm preoccupied with 'right away' with some awareness of now while being to some degree hungry ghost, and sometimes I take a break from right away and settle into being present and being very fully human.  Being now is certainly more alive and fulfilling.  I ongoingly move along the continuum.

 

Simplicity of the Heart, by J. Krishnamurti

FaceBook  On Sep 5, 2016 david doane wrote:

I think in this passage reality is the Ground of Being, and reality is unattainable through goal-directed behavior, whatever that may be.  Goal directed behavior is a means to an end, and being attached to goal directed behavior gets in the way of pure being which unites us with the reality of the Ground of Being.  Reality is attainable in being purposeless in the moment.  I guess the closest I've come to simplicity beyond all inner and outer desires has been in moments of intimacy with nature or with another and in moments of meditation.  Attachment to desire is attachment.  'Reality' is attainable by letting go of desire and simply being.  As I see it, that is what the teachings that focus on being teach.  To attain 'reality' we must purposelessly be what the teachings are about and not be attached to any means.

 

Taking a Stand, by Lynne Twist

FaceBook  On Aug 26, 2016 david doane wrote:

Taking a stand means to firmly assert in words and/or action a position.  We are often taking a stand on small matters.  I recently took a stand on a major issue and I did it with trepidation as to the response I will get.  I wrote a couple page statement about an issue about which I have strong feeling, and for me it took courage.  I expect some agreement and a good deal of disagreement.  I debated with myself whether to do it, I even lost some sleep over it, and I did it.  My action is so new that I haven't yet received any response, but it will come.  What helped me find the courage to take the stand was my strong belief in my position, my belief that it's important that it be said, my wanting the issue to be more out there to be thought and talked about, my knowing that my position is my truth and I have a responsibility to express it, and knowing that my regret for not taking a stand would trouble me more than taking the stand. 

 

Accessing Desire As Loving Motivation, by Miki Kashtan

FaceBook  On Aug 19, 2016 david doane wrote:

It's hard for me to believe that the interaction between Inbal and her son happened, especially since he was only 3 1/2 yrs old, but I want to believe it and certainly believe it is possible.  It is so different than the kind of interacting that goes on in our violent and coercive society.  Coercion means forced, and should means obligation, both of which mean absence of free choice.  I do believe absence of coercion and should thinking provides a context for cultivating genuine desire to care for one another.  Absence of coercion and should thinking opens me to consider what I want and what is best for all involved.  It's been a long time ago that I shifted away from 'I should' thinking and moved to focus on what I am thinking, feeling, wanting, willing, choosing, refusing.  I think of 'should' thinking as a way of telling myself I'm not free, I'm powerless, and that's toxic, so I've pretty much given it up.  Instead of I 'should' get up, go to work, call my mother, pay my taxes, etc, I get up, go to work, call my mother, pay my taxes, etc.  Inserting 'should' is self-diminishing.  Knowing that we are one serves as a loving motivation t do what is best for all.  

 

My Work is Loving the World, by Mary Oliver

FaceBook  On Aug 14, 2016 david doane wrote:

Our work, responsibility, and privilege is to love the world.  Our world is Mother Earth, and we are of it.  What we do to it we do to ourselves.  We pollute it, exploit it, disease it, kill it, and we pollute, exploit, disease, and kill ourselves.  We take care of it, enjoy it, embrace it, love it, and we take care of, enjoy, embrace, and love ourselves.  Just a few days ago I saw the most beautiful sunset and sky I have ever seen.  In that experience, what mattered most was to stand still, be in the moment, and be astonished.  In and through such experiences I learn to be astonished.  The practice that helps me develop gratitude for my life is being aware that I am alive at this time in this body, reminding myself that I am part of all that is, reminding myself that all that is is sacred, and letting that awareness sink in.  With that practice, gratitude comes easily.

 

Reflections on Life from Death Row, by Moyo

FaceBook  On Aug 7, 2016 d wrote:

The prison cell of each of us is very different than that of the author, and I wouldn't want to trade places with him -- we are each in our own self created prison cell to find freedom in and become free of.  We each have a purpose which is to become all that we can become and be of help to others doing the same.  I think the author is growing and sharing, so he has that purpose and worth, which are important.  We can stay open by knowing that we are in this world but not of it. I at least sometimes stay open to the present moment with its potential and stay aware of my inner truth while at the same time dealing with the reality of this world.  I often feel in two worlds at once.  Somewhere along the way I learned that there is the inner world of my present experience and the outer world of situations.  My being aware of being in the world and not of it and living from that awareness helps me develop the ability to do it more.  Thank you, author, for your words of wisdom.

 

Stepping into the Present Is a Gift , by Carolyn Hobbs

FaceBook  On Jul 31, 2016 david doane wrote:

I like the line that ego has a phobia about the present, and I agree.  And I agree that ego's job is to keep us safe, though it often peddles an illusion of safety, steers us wrong, working to keep itself safe rather than do what is really best for us.  Ego is the connection between unconscious and conscious, between instinct and reason.  It can serve as a navigator in the world.  The ego has some power, and power often corrupts.  Just as power goes to some peoples' heads, the ego easily goes overboard with its own power and operates as though the person works for it rather than it works for the person.  Ego often becomes out of control.  There have been times that I have related from my heart, related simply, honestly, and openly, and ignored my ego's warnings that I'll look foolish or be embarrassed or be hurt, and such relating has been my happiest.  For me, learning to be in the present began in psychotherapy and many psychotherapy related experiences, and now being in the present is its own reward.  I've become more aware of the present and am quicker to go back to the present when I get away from it.

 

Blessings for Earth-Healers, by Starhawk

FaceBook  On Jul 23, 2016 david doane wrote:

To heal means to become whole.  We all need healing.  No one is fully healed or whole, including healers of the earth.  A small way in which I am a healer of the earth is by recycling, not littering and in picking up litter particularly on the road by my house.  What helps me feel gratitude for healers of the earth is knowing that we are all part of the earth, what we do to the earth we do to ourselves, the earth is ours to enjoy and take care of and not exploit and destroy, all of which healers of the earth support.

 

With Fullness in Life, Everything is Possible, by Facundo Cabral

FaceBook  On Jul 18, 2016 david doane wrote:

I think of losing something as losing track of something, not knowing where it is, being deprived of something by my own doing or someone else's doing.  Something may still be mine although I've lost track of it.  Losing something in that sense is possible.  That something was given to me doesn't mean I can't lose it.  In this world, just because I didn't make something doesn't mean I can't own it.  Second, I as well as all of us have done things for love and not obligation.  I'm writing this paragraph for love of expressing myself and not out of obligation.  I spend time with many people for love instead of obligation, at least most of the time.  I go to most happenings out of love, not obligation.  Third, as I think of it, at least a lot of depression is pressing down or denying my wants and real self instead of expressing and living my wants and real self.  Distraction is a way of losing track of self, getting away from self, and is depressing.  Having experienced depression as a result of distraction from my real self and seen others depressed as a result of getting away from real self helps me stay aware that distraction can be depressing.  I also know that distraction doesn't equal depression.  There is distraction that is not depression, and depression that is not distraction. 

 

The Power Paradox, by Dacher Keltner

FaceBook  On Jul 9, 2016 david doane wrote:

We each have our personal power that we bring to a relationship, and it is at least part of the medium through which we relate to one another.   Owning my personal power makes it easier for the other to own his or her personal power.  I can't make anyone do anything -- I can make it more or less difficult for the other to express or do whatever.  Power isn't given to us by others.  My power is mine; each person's power is their own.  It's my birthright to own my power.  I don't need to grab my power -- it's simply mine to accept or reject.  Satisfaction that I feel from using my power to be of service has helped me view power from a service perspective, and dissatisfaction from using my power in a manipulative, dishonest, coercive way has helped me reject a Machiavellian perspective.

 

Giving Up is Different From Letting Someone Down, by Brother David Steindl-Rast

FaceBook  On Jul 2, 2016 david doane wrote:

To mother is to nurture and foster the other's growth.  It's doing what is best for the other, not what is easiest or most convenient for the mother.  It's not selfish, it's not possessive, it's not controlling.  When being a healthy mother -- be it as a parent, teacher, friend, neighbor -- I encourage the other to become their own self, do their thing, develop their own interest and talent.  When I do that, I don't try to get them to be or do what I want.  They aren't me.  I give up the illusion that they are me.  I let go of trying to own them.  In so doing, I'm not letting the other down, I'm encouraging their getting up.  Leisure is time during which I let go of being goal-directed, let go of have to and should, and follow my interest and my heart.  In leisure I am free, true to me, doing what is good and healthy for me, becoming whole and holy.  Practicing such leisure helps me to experience leisure as a virtue and a privilege.

 

Keeping Nothing Between, by Eugene Gendlin

FaceBook  On Jun 25, 2016 david doane wrote:

 "Keeping nothing between" is simple and basic and we make it so difficult.  It means to keep the line of connection between me and another clear and open, free of obstructions such as thinking, expectations, prejudices, preconceptions, predictions, objectives, preoccupations.  Such obstructions get in between two people and interfere with connecting.  When nothing is between, we can meet, person to person.  Actually, I strive to keep nothing between, and am usually successful for a few seconds at a time before some obstruction slips in and I find myself talking to my thinking or expectations or some form of obstruction instead of connecting with the other.  Then I catch myself and have a few more seconds of nothing between before I again allow something between.  Being present, paying attention, being aware and mindful help me keep nothing between.

 

How Is Your Heart Doing?, by Omid Safi

FaceBook  On Jun 21, 2016 david doane wrote:

I love the question "How is your heart at this very moment, at this breath?"  That is so personal, so present.  That's so different than, "How's it going? or "Hey" or whatever other   When I share the state of my heart, I am open -- it sometimes feels risky, it often elicits a personal response from the other.  That kind of interaction is intimate and is what is most worthwhile in living.  The practice of examining the dark corners of my soul and being with another who is doing the same helps me to want it and do it all the more.  The author says he doesn't have a magical solution for our busy,doing, heart avoiding culture.  The solution is in sharing "How is your heart at this moment, at this breath?"  

 

That Friend Walking Behind Me, by Parker Palmer

FaceBook  On Jun 14, 2016 david doane wrote:

True self is authentic me, is my truth, my foundation.  True self is my friend, though I don't always treat my true self like a friend and sometimes ignore or reject my true self.  Sometimes my true self scares me because I think if I accept and identify with my true self I won't fit in, I'll be rejected or worse.  When I feel the presence of my true self, my friend, and listen to the perspective and truth of my true self, and express my true self, I am true to my true self, I feel good about doing that, and more often than not find that my true self is valued by others.  Such experiences help me have the courage to connect with my true self more often. 

 

Planetary Beings with Planetary Hearts, by Clare Dakin

FaceBook  On Jun 7, 2016 david doane wrote:

My association to "liquid fire" is my feeling passionately about something to the extent that I am compelled to speak out about it no matter what others may say or think.  Connecting to that liquid fire comes easy for me -- what is difficult is garnering the courage to stand up for what I see and believe.  When I have, I have felt good about myself.  When I haven't, I feel a deep regret that stays with me for a long time.  I think of Margaret Mead saying "Never forget that a small group of thoughtful, committed people can change the world.  Indeed it is the only thing that ever has."  And Abbie Hoffman saying there is no such thing as an innocent bystander -- if you are a bystander, you're not innocent.  My calling forth my liquid fire is fostered by reminding myself that I have a right and responsibility to express my viewpoint, my truth.  

 

Creative Living, by Elizabeth Gilbert

FaceBook  On May 28, 2016 david doane wrote:

Creative living means spontaneity and improvisation.  It means having no plan, no predetermined goal or outcome, and instead being in the present, responsive to what is happening within and without moment by moment.  It means being out of my head, especially my left brain, and operating out of my guts and right brain.  It means mining the buried treasure within and bringing it to the surface.  It means being alive.  During the moments of living that way, I am light, joyous and creative, and it's wonderful.  What initially helped me tap into creative living, other than the first year or so of life when I suppose we're all that way, was being with someone who was living creatively.  That was inspiring.  The experience lit my pilot light, which has at times been neglected but never gone out, and I sometimes turn on and allow the pilot to become a full flame.  Doing it helps me do it more often. 

 

Creative Living, by Elizabeth Gilbert

FaceBook  On May 28, 2016 david doane wrote:

Creative living means spontaneity and improvisation.  It means having no plan, no predetermined goal or outcome, and instead being in the present, responsive to what is happening within and without moment by moment.  It means being out of my head, especially my left brain, and operating out of my guts and right brain.  It means mining the buried treasure within and bringing it to the surface.  It means being alive.  During the moments of living that way, I am light, joyous and creative, and it's wonderful.  What initially helped me tap into creative living, other than the first year or so of life when I suppose we're all that way, was being with someone who was living creatively.  That was inspiring.  The experience lit my pilot light, which has at times been neglected but never gone out, and I sometimes turn on and allow the pilot to become a full flame.  Doing it helps me do it more often. 

 

Learning Not to Be Afraid of Things That Are Real, by Thanissaro Bhikkhu

FaceBook  On May 22, 2016 david doane wrote:

In this life, all that is is temporary, constantly changing, and uncertain; we are different yet one; we are of this planet and not on it.  A big part of becoming real is to learn and accept those facts of life and live accordingly.  Real people don't fight, deny, or ignore the facts.  Real people may not be in harmony with everyone but are in harmony with life.  Real people see what is rather than seeing their own thinking, expectations, prejudices.  I am able to get in touch with what is real for me when I look inside to my own feelings, my own experience, my own intuition, and not just go along with what is said to be real.  What I am seeing or feeling is my truth.  What helps me is to accept and value my truth.  What also helps me is to be open, express my truth and listen to the response of others, which process modifies my position and I learn and grow.

 

The Value of Solitude, by William Deresiewicz

FaceBook  On May 14, 2016 david doane wrote:

I think there is a lot of truth in Pascal's statement that "All men's miseries derive from not being able to sit in a quiet room alone."  Alone is a basic condition of being human.  We can run from it, but ultimately we are each alone, even while we are in community.  I can be alone in solitude, which I think is important because it's time with myself to be quiet, reflect, regroup, and get to know me better.  As the author said, solitude enables us to secure the integrity of the self as well as to explore it.  I take at least an hour and a half alone almost every morning to exercise, meditate, maybe read or write a little, and I love that time -- it's nourishing for me.  I can also enjoy community where relationship, different perspectives, agreement and disagreement are available.  I have a need for both solitude and community, though my need for community seems less than my need for solitude.  Solitude-community is one of those dialectics we live in the tension of.  After enough solitude I gravitate toward community, and after a dose of community I move back to solitude.  Solitude and community stimulate one another and I grow in the back and forth. 

 

Rediscovering the Art of Reverence, by John O'Donohue

FaceBook  On May 9, 2016 david doane wrote:

Reverence means being respectful of everyone and everything based on awareness that all is one and all is sacred.  I have deep reverence in my heart when I can look across the chasm of otherness, as Jean Houston says, and see oneness and sacredness.  In such times of reverence I care about and honor the other.  Another aspect of reverence is openness to who the other is and to what the other has to say -- truly honoring the other.  Reminding myself that we are expressions of the One and Sacred helps me live with reverence.  Living with reverence results in my living more happily and healthily.

 

Pronounce a Silent Blessing, by Barbara Brown Taylor

FaceBook  On May 1, 2016 david doane wrote:

We sometimes forget that all that is is sacred.  I believe that to bless is to remind ourselves that whatever is being blessed is sacred, that is, is an expression of God or Source.  In blessing the other, I acknowledge that the other is an expression of the Divine, just as I am, and that the other and I are one in Unity.  And blessing gives me an opportunity to be grateful to be part of Oneness and Sacredness that we are all part of.  My coming to awareness of this has gotten me to think and talk as I am and has given my life more meaning.

 

Renewability Makes Something Valuable, by Martin Prechtel

FaceBook  On Apr 25, 2016 david doane wrote:

 Kristin -- Your statement is inspiring.  Thank you.  Dave

 

Renewability Makes Something Valuable, by Martin Prechtel

FaceBook  On Apr 25, 2016 david doane wrote:

Renewability is valuable.  And that's fortunate since that's what we've got -- nothing stays the same, everything changes and renews, and everything provides opportunity for renewal.  How horrible it would be if everything was forever stagnant -- maybe that's hell.  Working together, relating, bonding are benefits of the process of renewal.  I think cultures that work together in building and renewing experience renewal of their own selves and of their community, and I think that is a great gain.  My partner and I bought an old house once upon a time and built and renewed it into our office space, and in the process further built and bonded our relationship, in addition to a very alive office, and I look back on the experience with very much fondness.  What has helped me to value impermanence is knowing with an ever deepening awareness that everything and everybody is impermanent, impermanence makes for renewal, and I trust and value the process.  Getting old helps. 

 

Relationships Make You Conscious, Not Happy, by Eckhart Tolle

FaceBook  On Apr 18, 2016 david doane wrote:

I appreciate the gentle wisdom of this article.  I believe that we do wake up, become more conscious, through relationship, which results in happiness from within.  We are related, and in relationship we have the ongoing opportunity to transform.  I used to be more angry, negative, defensive, critical than I am now, and my being in relationship with my wife who is positive, accepting, patient, encouraging has very much helped me become more aware of how I was and become more soft, less angry, more positive, and more kind.  I was held in loving embrace, and my becoming more conscious and growing occurred and is occurring over many years -- I'm a slow learner.  Knowing what happens for me, remembering that I can learn and change, helps me to grow in awareness and helps me to be more compassionate toward myself, and knowing that others are (like) me I am also more compassionate with others.

 

Reverence Protects Life, by Gary Zukav

FaceBook  On Apr 12, 2016 david doane wrote:

Reverence is deep respect.  The greeting of Namaste expresses respect and honor of the divine in the other.  If there is no respect of the sacred in others and in all that is, power of whatever kind can easily result in harming and exploiting others and our world, as it has.  When I think of a time of feeling reverence while being unempowered, I think of childhood when I had reverence for my parents while not liking some things they were doing, and had very little power as a kid to do anything about it.  So, I just held it all in and lived with it, painfully.  I lost some reverence for life and the sacred in my middle years, and then learned or relearned reverence for others and for out planet since then.  Many life experiences have helped me grow reverence.  One experience in particular is the influence of Eastern unitive thinking including Buddhist thought.  My awareness that you and I and all that is is One and is Sacred keeps growing and has helped me to grow in compassion and maintain reverence for all that is, living and nonliving.

 

Vulnerability is the Path, by Brene Brown

FaceBook  On Apr 4, 2016 david doane wrote:

The author says to feel is to be vulnerable.  I believe that to be is to be vulnerable.  Everything, living and not living, is vulnerable, that is, hurtable, woundable, damageable.  To be human is to not only to be vulnerable but also to feel vulnerable.  In addition to humans, much that is living -- I'm not sure if all that is living -- feels vulnerable.  Spirituality involves becoming more whole, more of who and what I am, and becoming more whole involves being and allowing and  risking vulnerability.  Being closed up and trying to prevent vulnerability gets in the way of my becoming more whole and thus gets in the way of my spirituality.  Much that I have learned about myself has come as a result of being vulnerable.  Some important learnings about myself that came from allowing myself to be vulnerable are that I am more okay, more  powerful, more loveable than I believed.  What helps me to allow myself to engage with vulnerability is knowing that I am vulnerable, knowing that there are growth and spiritual benefits from allowing vulnerability, knowing that to fight vulnerability is to fight life, knowing that being vulnerable helps me to connect with myself and others.

 

The Oppressor and the Oppressed Must Both be Liberated, by Nelson Mandela

FaceBook  On Mar 27, 2016 david doane wrote:

I agree with Nelson Mandela that the oppressor is a prisoner just as much as the oppressed.  I believe the arrangement is like a teeter-totter where it takes two to keep it going.  I've been with couples in abusive relationships and see both parties as oppressed and both parties as keeping it going, even though one is called victim and gets all the sympathy and the other is called violent and perpetrator and is condemned.  I have felt connected to and sympathetic with both parties, and have made an effort to get them both to get off their teeter-totter and develop a different arrangement.  Some do and some don't.  What helps me live a way that respects and enhances the freedom of others is reminding myself that we are one -- I look across the divide of me and them and see me -- we have had different circumstances, but we are basically alike, and with kindness and compassion we could get back to realizing that.  I believe we are born loving, we learn to hate, and we can relearn loving. 

 

What We Need Is Here, by Wendell Berry

FaceBook  On Mar 20, 2016 david doane wrote:

Past and future are imagination.  Only the present is alive.  Living and dying are happening right now, and what I need is here and now.  The challenge is to be present, be responsive here and now to myself, to those I am relating to, and to the world I'm in.  The only time I've come in touch with my truest reality is through being present to what was in me, in front of me, and around me, sharing and operating out of what I am experiencing.  When I've done that in relating to others, the experience is rich.  I develop the eyes to see the deepest reality by practicing being present.  Spending time with someone who is good at being in the present was of great help to me in developing the eyes to see deeper..

 

Three Kinds of Laziness, by Tenzin Palmo

FaceBook  On Mar 13, 2016 david doane wrote:

Not finding space for stillness is escape from finding what is most important, that is, the real self, the soul.  In stillness we can also connect with the Soul or Oneness of all that is, which flows into compassion and peace that we so desperately need in this world.  It all starts with finding space for stillness.  Pascal said, "All of man's troubles stem from his inability to sit quietly in a room alone."  I frequently feel the need to just be, and frequently ignore that need as I am busy with some sort of doing, though I learned long ago that being is becoming, and doing is a way to avoid being.  Some doing is worthwhile -- the challenge is to avoid doing that avoids being.  Practices that help me become genuinely centered are meditation, being present and noticing what I am feeling in the moment, and paying attention to the process of my living rather than to progress or outcome.

 

The Capacity for Successful Solitude, by Sherry Turkle

FaceBook  On Mar 5, 2016 david doane wrote:

Successful solitude means being able to be content and at peace while alone with myself.  Being able to be happily alone is a prerequisite for successful relationship.  When I can be happily alone and secure with myself, I am free to be happily alone with another, being me while relating to the other for who he or she is and not, as the author says, "using other people as spare parts" to buttress myself.  I have had experiences of successful solitude with another, and they are times of love -- not romantic love, but times of I being I with he or she being he or she.  Those are times of independence and togetherness, successful solitude with successful relationship.  What has helped me develop a successful solitude is time with myself, growth in knowing self, in valuing and liking myself, and in becoming secure with myself.  What has helped me is being in relationships with others who possessed successful solitude while with me which encouraged me to develop successful solitude for myself while with them.

 

The Day I Learned The Value of a Smile, by Maya Angelou

FaceBook  On Feb 28, 2016 david doane wrote:

Smiling is an important giving.  Others are more likely to feel happy, warm, welcome, relaxed, safe when greeted with a smile.  The good feeling in response to a smile may last only a short time, or it may stay with the person for a long time.  It may result in the person smiling or being more cheerful to the next person, so the smile becomes a gift that keeps on giving.  What I feel seems to readily show on my face, be it sadness, depression, irritation, anger, happiness, excitement.  I've had many experiences of someone responding positively to my smiling, including to smile back.  Life is difficult, and a smile can be a dose of free medicine to provide a bit of relief or make a big difference.  You never know.  Smiling is its own reward, and the practice of smiling fosters my giving more smiles and other kindnesses.

 

Beauty of the Mosaic, by Rosalina Chai

FaceBook  On Feb 22, 2016 david doane wrote:

Each of us is broken and has healing to do  That is the human condition.  Collectively we are interrelated, we interbe.  That is also what it is to be human.  We are broken together.  When I hold the awareness that we broken individuals are one and beautiful, I see that the broken collective mosaic is one and beautiful.  Someone said we can be stronger at the places that we are broken -- we can also be beautiful in the ways we are broken.  What helps me find the light shining through the space between the shards is reminding myself that as individuals and collectively we are intricate, fragile, and beautiful, just like a mosaic, and keeping my eyes open to see what is rather than see my prejudices and  expectations.

 

The Delight in Exploring Inner Territory, by Vimala Thakar

FaceBook  On Feb 13, 2016 david doane wrote:

Observing 'anger in ourselves from subtle beginnings to full explosions' means being mindful of the very beginning of anger and observing it through to its becoming full explosion.  I'm sure there aren't many people who do that -- it seems to me to be a sophisticated level of observation.  I was well into middle age before I began to do such observing.  The value of doing such observing is to be in control of the experience and what I do with it rather than it being in control of me and automatically moving into harmful behavior.  I can now sometimes notice the beginning of an emotion and make some decisions about what I want to do with it and how I want to express it -- I have and use it rather than it have and use me.  I value when I do that.  It costs me some spontaneity in the service of choosing my response, which I prefer in many situations.  The practice of being present and paying attention to process as it occurs helps me develop such attentiveness, and constructive results help me delight in it.

 

Presence: The Quality of Consciously Being Here, by Kabir Helminski

FaceBook  On Feb 7, 2016 david doane wrote:

The past houses regrets and happy memories.  The future holds worry and dreams.  Only the present is alive.  It is only here and now that I am.  I can do good or bad only in the present.  I can remember what I did or didn't do in the past, and I can imagine what I will or won't do in the future.  Only in the present can I take action, and that action can be either constructive or destructive, which may be one aspect of the double-edged nature of presence.  Another aspect of the double-edged nature of presence is that it is both a privilege and responsibility.  The present is mine to enjoy and suffer.  Becoming more deeply aware that we are one has fostered my awareness that presence extends beyond my own boundaries.  I and all that is, animate and inanimate, co-exist in the present and are my present to interact with and be responsive to.  Remembering that all that is is one fosters my compassion and helps me be present constructively.

 

Sufficiency is Not Abundance, by Lynne Twist

FaceBook  On Jan 31, 2016 david doane wrote:

Sufficiency mans to have what is needed, no more or less, and to live with and use that amount, rather than hoarding more than what is needed or going without what is needed.  Sufficiency is economical.  You can never have enough of what you don't really need -- unfortunately we don't believe that, so we accumulate and hoard much more than we need.  It is so much wiser to be generous, allocate rather than accumulate what is more than needed, and let others benefit at least from our surplus.  By sewing the more than I need so it can make a positive difference to others, I reap inner wealth and joy.  As I get older, I am much more conscious of giving and sharing what I have to hopefully benefit others, and I am more conscious of the satisfaction and joy I experience in doing so.  Experiencing the value of inner riches doesn't go away, it stays with me, and helps me to value inner riches over outer riches.

 

The Same Self Is in All of Us, by Eknath Easwaran

FaceBook  On Jan 23, 2016 david doane wrote:

All that is, including each of us, is an expression or manifestation of the Spirit or Mystery that we call God, and responding always to the Self within means responding to that God core of each of us.  There are times that I remind myself of this and go beyond the dislikes and disagreements of surface or form and focus on the changeless invisible Spirit.  I feel a sense of compassion, peace, and satisfaction when I do this.  What helped me see the same Spirit in others that I see within myself is wise mentors who knew this and I resonated to their wisdom and learned from them.  One mentor would say, "I look across the room and see me," and slowly I began to learn and sometimes live what he was talking about.

 

Absurd Heroism, by Margaret Wheatley

FaceBook  On Jan 17, 2016 david doane wrote:

Life is absurd.  It's also precious.  Most important, it's what's we've got.  I can't change the world, and yet my existence changes the world.  The world would be different if I weren't here -- hardly noticeably different, but different.  I don't have full control over anything, including myself.  I do have some limited power and control to make change in me and the world.  It's also true that life does things to me.  As I understand, Lao Tzu says we not only do, we are also being done.  The situation isn't all or nothing.  It's not a matter of I can change the world or I can futilely and hopelessly try and fail.  The problem is trying to control and take responsibility for outcome.  That is futile.  What I can do is act with integrity to my truth, act impeccably, and hope for the best.  That practice I believe in.  Over time we collectively did create what we have today.  I as an individual can't totally change it, but I can do what I can do which adds my piece to the worsening or improving of the situation.  

 

Be Cool to the Pizza Dude, by Sarah Adams

FaceBook  On Jan 9, 2016 david doane wrote:

The fickle spinning of the wheel of life means life is a mixed bag -- up and down, lucky and unlucky, win and lose, good times and bad times, success and failure, healthy and sick -- and over the course of time life is likely to involve the whole gamut.  Some of it is our own making and some of it is fickle as it happens to us.  As for going beyond thoughts of ownership, I've shared and given things, such as sharing something of mine or giving someone something of mine because they could use it, which is satisfying, and I've shared what I'm experiencing which is sharing myself and also very satisfying.  The practice I hope to live out is to treat everyone the way the author speaks of treating the pizza delivery dude, that is, be tolerant of every driver, including those driving inconsiderately, and not get myself agitated and bent out of shape over it, honor every worker in every job, be respectful of every person, and remember that I and all others are equal, no one above or below anyone else.

 

I Have Decided to Stick With Love, by Martin Luther King Jr.

FaceBook  On Jan 3, 2016 david doane wrote:

My understanding is that what Martin Luther King means by strong demanding love is love that is compassionate and genuine.  This kind of love is an expression of one's truth and integrity.  This kind of love is based on seeing myself and the other as one, no one better or worse, higher or lower than than other.  With this love the other is seen and respected as equal.  This kind of love puts the golden rule into action and I treat others as I want to be treated.  This kind of love is not a superficial and transient infatuation or passing fancy, but a life commitment and posture.  It is strong and demanding.  Emotion may be involved in this kind of love, but it is deeper than just emotion, deeper than thinking, deeper than physical -- it comes from the soul.  An experience of such love has been when I have spoken or acted with pure and total integrity independent of what others think or say.  Honestly evaluating my motives in what I say and do helps me check whether my action is filled with such love.  If I have an agenda or intention that I am trying to accomplish, it's time for me to be suspicious of what I am up to as the pureness of my love is likely diminished.  

 

Why Are We Running Out of Time?, by Jacob Needleman

FaceBook  On Dec 26, 2015 david doane wrote:

I think what Needleman says is profound.  To be truly present is to be consciously bodily attentive to what is happening.  To be is to be consciously present, aware in the here and now.  I think it is the same as mindfulness, being aware of my thoughts, feelings, actions as I am doing them.  Consciously attentive being, or being with awareness, is being in the fullest sense.  The less consciously attentive and aware I am, the less is my being.  There have been times in meditation that I have been consciously present and attentive  to breathing, my body, and my being.  There have been times in relationship with another that I have been consciously attentive to what I am experiencing in the moment and processing and utilizing at least some of that in relating to the other.  The practice of conscious attention to myself brings a fullness of being that is special.  Being without conscious attention is diminished being.