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Monet Refuses The Operation, by Lisel Mueller

FaceBook  On Oct 12, 2019 David Doane wrote:
Such a beautiful writing by Lisel Mueller. Anais Nin said "We don't see things as they are. We see things as we are." I agree with Nin. What I see through my eyes comes through what remains of the conditioning I received and the assumptions and expectations I developed. Some times I do a little more of simply seeing what is, seeing things as they are -- and a little more makes a big difference. A couple examples I see of the interconnectedness of life are: The planet suffers what we do to it, and we suffer what it does to us. The planet and we are thoroughly interconnected. Also, a wife is like a mother toward her husband who acts like a child, and the husband is like a child toward his wife who acts like a mother; their behaviors support each other, they are interconnected, a yin and yang, a bilateral arrangement. What helps me have a vision that dissolves distinctions is knowing that all creation is one, knowing that distinctions are differences that may appear separate but aren't really separate, and knowing that everything affects everything.

Zen Of Archery, by James Clear

FaceBook  On Oct 5, 2019 david doane wrote:
My mantra for a long time has been 'process, not outcome.' Focus on right action, as Buddhism advises, and leave outcome to forces outside your control. In interpersonal interactions, I revel in times I trust the process, that is, times that I stay present, go with what I am experiencing, and let outcome happen. What helps me trust and stay committed to process and not try to control outcome is the positive outcomes that occur when I do that. Also, I know that going with present process is within my power (I'm human) and outcome is outside my power (I'm not God). Also, I love the excitement and aliveness of commitment to the process, and don't like the dullness and deadness I feel in outcome focus. Also, I like the openness and freedom I feel in process focus and don't like being controlling and manipulative as I am when trying to control outcome.

My Neighbor's Corn, by Naren Kini

FaceBook  On Sep 28, 2019 david doane wrote:
I like Kini's story -- that doing for others is doing for self. I believe in sharing my best gifts with those around me. What I share with others affects and hopefully benefits them and every one and myself. I also know I have experienced sharing a gift being its own reward and have experienced receiving for myself in the process of giving and sharing with others. For example, I have shared an insight and felt satisfaction in my sharing and in the other benefiting from what I shared, and I have learned and received gratitude in sharing. What helps me stay rooted is knowing that we are one, thoroughly interconnected to a greater and deeper extent than we realize, knowing that what I share and do for anyone affects everyone, and knowing that I don't really own anything and whatever I have really belongs to everyone. It only makes sense that I share and be kind with others, and sometimes I do.

When Light Shines, Darkness Becomes The Light, by Thich Nhat Hanh

FaceBook  On Sep 20, 2019 david doane wrote:
When light shines, darkness lessens and goes away. I guess it's true that darkness becomes the light -- I hadn't thought of it that way -- since Thich Nhat Hanh says it, I will reflect on it further. I do believe everything becomes everything so it does make sense. I find it difficult to observe without judging or evaluating. I observe and drift in and out of judging and evaluating. I do more observing without judging and evaluating than I used to. For me to simply be present, be aware and observe without judging and evaluating, without a goal or agenda, is a joy and is enlightening. I have difficulty being gentle with myself. I become impatient and critical with myself. What helps me be gentle with myself is reminding myself that I am good, reminding myself that I have the right and responsibility and privilege to be me, knowing that I am learning and growing, paying attention, being gentle with others, seeing others being gentle, and reflection and meditation.

Song Of The Birds, by David G. Haskell

FaceBook  On Sep 14, 2019 david doane wrote:
I believe that all of creation, living and not living, is interconnected. I believe we don't create earth's universal grammar and don't create the connection or language between different species -- it's already there. Unfortunately we learned or regressed to stop listening, and it would benefit us to listen once again. And I believe it's much more than the minds of different species that connect -- it's the very being of different species that connect. Each being communicates wholistically, not just verbally. We raised sheep, and there were times I seemed to hear what the sheep were communicating to me. What helps me listen for wisdom in a language different from my own is knowing that there are as many different experiences of life as there are species, the human experience being one experience, and each experience has its own wisdom in its own unique language.

Hard Times Require Furious Dancing, by Alice Walker

FaceBook  On Sep 8, 2019 David Doane wrote:
The glass is always full of something, and the value of what's there is defined by the glass holder. Learning to dance means learning to be in the present, enjoy the process, be ongoingly responsive to what is happening, not be goal directed, and not worry about what others think. When a dear mentor died, I had a dream in which he gave me a master program -- in the dream someone tried to take it back and I held onto it. What I got from him was a master program, and much of what I learned from him about living has helped me hold the line of beauty, form and beat through the ups and downs of life. Factors that help me stay aware of my balance include knowing how good balance feels, knowing that balance is moment by moment, knowing how easily balance is lost, knowing that maintaining balance requires constant adjustment, knowing that I don't enjoy loss of balance.

Universal Humans In Training, by Gary Zukav

FaceBook  On Aug 31, 2019 david doane wrote:
Gary Zukav's description of the universal human is right on. The universal human is an adult citizen of the universe, beyond allegiance to merely a particular culture, nation, ethnic group, religion, or any narrowly defined exclusive category. He is way beyond constricted nationalistic identity and even beyond global identity. It would probably be even more accurate to think of this evolving human as cosmic human, but universal human will do for now. My belief for a long time was that I had a soul. My conviction at this point is that I am a soul and for now have a human body, which conviction gives me a deeper spirituality and sense that all is sacred, and my personality is increasingly aligned with this soul and with my conviction. I don't just have an immortal component -- the soul that is essential me is immortal and has a mortal component or form called my mind and body. I don't know what helps me know that. I guess it's my waking up by way of activities such as paying attention, being open, discussing, listening, reading, reflecting, meditating.

Abandon Only What Is Not Yours, by Shaila Catherine

FaceBook  On Aug 24, 2019 David Doane wrote:
Not only is it an illusion that I possess things, it is an illusion that there are things to possess. So, for me to relinquish what I really don't have and really doesn't exist is relinquishment that involves no loss. In the apparent world, I behave as though I possess things, but in reality I don't possess anything. I live in the apparent but am not of it. I don't know when I stopped being of the apparent, that is, let go of the leash -- I know it was a long time ago, and it's an awareness that has become more clear over the years. What helps me recognize the impermanence of things in my daily life is implied in the question itself, that is, "things in my daily life" are impermanent, as are all things, be they apparent for a moment, a day, a lifetime, or a millenium. Awareness of impermanence is deeply ingrained in me, and the awareness is comforting.

Does God Have A Form?, by Arthur Osborne

FaceBook  On Aug 17, 2019 David Doane wrote:
My belief is that my essential life, that is, my soul, is formless. My formless soul incarnates, that is, takes on form, called my body, for a period of time. As a child I learned that I have a soul. Slowly but surely, especially over the last 20 years, I've learned through reading, discussion, and reflection that the soul has me, incarnates as me, and when this experience in form, called my body, ends, formless me or the soul goes on. I believe my soul, which isn't really mine, is an expression of God, and like God the soul is eternal, always was and always will be. I don't experience what I am saying as pedantry -- it is what makes sense to me, it's the basis of my theology, theology is important, and I stay rooted in it through ongoing discussion, reading, study, and reflection.

Grateful For Nothing, by Gregg Krech

FaceBook  On Aug 11, 2019 David Doane wrote:
I see "nothing happened," which means nothing happened that is a problem, as being very worthy of celebration. It's a time without disruption, a time of peace and stability, a time to breathe deep, relax and enjoy. I've had many times of nothing happening, including right now, most of which I take for granted without feeling gratitude. And there are times mainly of reflection or meditation when I am aware that nothing is happening, I am free of big problems, life is good, and I experience deep gratitude. What helps me be grateful for my breath is knowing that life's a fiddler on the roof, precarious and fragile, always changing, with no guarantees. I know the bottom can fall out at any moment. What helps me be grateful for my breath is having had times when it was hard to breathe, when big problems did occur, and times of seeing big problems occur for others. It helps me to know that nothing is for sure, and no breath can occur any moment. It helps me to know that's life.

Pilgrim In The Open Shore, by Pancho Ramos Stierle

FaceBook  On Aug 3, 2019 David Doane wrote:
It's the other way around, that is, it's the discovery of diversity within unity. Once upon a time, we humans noticed differences while living in unity; then we translated different to mean separate and lost the sense of all being part of unity; now we are rediscovering unity differentiated into many expressions. I became seriously interested in Buddhism about 15 years ago, joined an ongoing study group, learned/read/listened/reflected/meditated Eastern/Vedantic/unitive wisdom, and grew in appreciation of unity and diversity in unity. Diversity means different. Uniformity means the same. Diversity is pervasive. Every one and every thing is a different expression of one Unity. There is no uniformity even if we think there is or try to impose it.

The Matrix, by The Wachowskis

FaceBook  On Jul 29, 2019 David Doane wrote:
Your question implies the dream world is not real. As I see it, the asleep world is as real as the awake world, dreams are just as real, and dreams are part of both worlds. My nighttime dreams tend to be less controlled and more vivid, while my daytime dreams tend to be more controlled and suppressed. We tend to forget all dreams or pretend they never happened. Daytime reality and night time reality are different realities. Dreams, be they at night or during the day, are dream reality, a different reality from nondream reality. At this level of awake and asleep, it's all illusion. We live in illusion -- we are all conditioned, programmed, and hypnotized by our culture as to what to see and what is real, and to a great extent we never get over it. Important factors in my becoming aware of living in an illusion were mentors who helped me wake up to some extent, break through illusion, and be present and see what is. Now that I have some freedom from illusion I recognize illusion and also see past it and see what is. I am in illusion but not of it.

Opening Thy Palm, by Rabindranath Tagore

FaceBook  On Jul 21, 2019 David Doane wrote:
It is in giving that we receive. What we receive in giving is personal satisfaction, peace, happiness. I had a nicely made copy of the Serenity Prayer on wood. A woman struggling painfully with co-dependency issues was admiring it. I gave it to her. I shifted from scarcity -- I had only the one copy of the prayer -- to abundance -- I was full in giving it to her. I am always able to shift from scarcity to abundance -- the issue is whether or not I do. What helps me deepen in abundance is those times when I give of what I have or am, and realize that I feel better and have more when I give. I think giving has always resulted in greater abundance for me.

Greatest Of All Religions, by Pir-o-Murshid Inayat Khan

FaceBook  On Jul 13, 2019 David Doane wrote:
Real religion awakens us to awareness that there is one creation of which every thing and every being is a part. It awakens us to awareness that all things and all beings including human beings are unique expressions of one creation, totally interconnected and interrelated, not separate. It awakens us to unitive awareness. The study of life reveals all this to us and therefore is the greatest of all religions. As I became aware that all that is is thoroughly interrelated and is one, I saw it in nature and awoke to the religion of nature. I remain a student of life because I want to deepen my unitive awareness that all that is is one, and that is what life teaches.

Not Loneliness, But Aloneness, by Craig Childs

FaceBook  On Jul 6, 2019 David Doane wrote:
Orson Welles said, "We're born alone, we live alone, we die alone." That's not sad, that's just how it is. And Lily Tomlin wisely said, "We're all in this together alone." Again, that's not sad, that's just how we are. Each wave in the ocean is differentiated and is part of one ocean. We can share and be intimately close with another, and are still essentially and ultimately alone. Tincture is an interesting word. It means a medicinal solution made of various ingredients. I sometimes experience the tincture of solitude when I make a decision, for a decision is comprised of more ingredients than I can imagine, is simultaneously mine alone, and is medicinal if it makes me more whole. I am aware of this especially when making a difficult decision and feeling particularly alone. I don't make time for aloneness. I make time to appreciate my aloneness. I'm always alone, and sometimes much more aware of it than at other times. I can be in the midst of people and activities that mask my aloneness, but I'm still alone. I often give myself alone time, such as first thing in the morning alone with my thoughts as is happening right now, or alone time reflecting in my office during the day between appointments with others, or evening alone time in my yard wondering and being grateful. What helps me make time to bask in my aloneness is experiencing that it is in my aloneness that I feel most part of all that is, most at peace and most fulfilled. These are times of not only the medicine of aloneness but the alchemy of aloneness.

Remember, by Joy Harjo

FaceBook  On Jun 28, 2019 David Doane wrote:
It sounds like that moment was very profound for all of you. Thank you for sharing.

Remember, by Joy Harjo

FaceBook  On Jun 28, 2019 David Doane wrote:
I very much like this essay. Joy Harjo exhorts us to remember our oneness with all that is, which we forgot. We are one with the sun and moon and stars, one with all who came before us and will come after us, one with earth, one with all plants and animals. All that is is one, as it has been since the beginning of time and will be until the end of time, and we are part of it. We once had that awareness, then we forgot and have lived as though separate, and we are beginning to bring back to mind or remember the fact of oneness, which is critically important for us to remember for our very survival. It's been over the past approximately 15 years that I have remembered more deeply that we are one, which I learned mainly from the Buddhist and Vedantic traditions, and I remind myself of it frequently.

Spiritual Life Begins Within The Heart, by Joan Chittister

FaceBook  On Jun 24, 2019 David Doane wrote:
The opposite of a truth is another truth. Death is the opposite of birth, not of life. Everything ends. We don't have to confront paradox -- we can deal with paradox by realizing that life is full of paradox and accepting paradox, which puts us at rest with paradox rather than put paradox to rest. The spiritual life begins within in that the spirit is our source and we are expressions of the spirit. The spirit is our essence and our Life behind life. The material world and its vicissitudes are impermanent. For me, this realization and living centered on the spirit help me live life fully.

Hiding A Penny, by Annie Dillard

FaceBook  On Jun 15, 2019 David Doane wrote:
I guess a healthy poverty and simplicity is having only as much of whatever as I need. Unhealthy wealth and complexity is having much more than I need. My daughter does a lot of business related traveling. She took me to India with her, much of the trip being not simple or anonymous, but it was a humble gift to a place I wanted to go and thought I never would go. We went to several ancient cities and places considered sacred and it was a remarkable experience. I still revel in gratitude for receiving the gift. What helps me cultivate a healthy poverty and simplicity is my goal of holding on to only what I need and giving away what I don't need. Detachment is a healthy poverty and simplicity that brings joy and I live that way a little more and more. Less is usually enough.

Causes Of Happiness, by Dalai Lama

FaceBook  On Jun 8, 2019 David Doane wrote:
I think the Dalai Lama is saying that the two causes of happiness are the brain functioning well and inner strength, and it's compassion that helps it function well and brings inner strength. So, compassion is very important. Compassion means to me to feel sympathy, that is, to be very much with the other in their suffering of their pain. For example, a man was sharing with me the grief he was suffering regarding the death of his wife. My sympathy or feeling with him helped me to see with clarity that his grief was very painful, heavy and difficult for him to suffer. I think my sympathy helped him in his suffering his grief. What helps me practice compassion is identifying with the other and what he or she is suffering, knowing that we are one, knowing that his or her pain is also my pain, and knowing that we are suffering for one another.

Unconditioned Stillness, by Rick Hanson

FaceBook  On Jun 2, 2019 David Doane wrote:
What is unchanging and constant is change, impermanence, uncertainty, oneness. Acceptance of those unchanging truths and abiding in them is an unchanging stillness that is a container that holds impermanence and the other truths about life. I certainly don't live in that container, but when I do enter it I am in unchanging stillness. I have had times of feeling this unchanging stillness when I abide in awareness that we are one and that change, impermanence, and uncertainty simply are, and such times occur during times of being immersed in the present and times that are meditative. What helps me delight in my stillness is knowing it's available for me to accept and knowing the delight and peace and fulfillment that it provides.

Stepping Over The Bag Of Gold, by Rachel Naomi Remen

FaceBook  On May 26, 2019 David Doane wrote:
I totally agree that there are many gifts of gold that life places in our path that we step over if we're not ready to receive them. Gifts are always there and we receive those that we are ready for. It's been said that when the student is ready the teacher will appear, and until then the student won't get it. Rumi said to welcome and be grateful for every experience because each one has been sent as a guide from beyond. I once worked for an employer who I didn't like and didn't respect, making it an unhappy experience, yet I learned some skills and gained some connections from him that have been very beneficial to me during the years since I left him. I don't see gold in every experience -- oftentimes I'm not ready and only see a problem rather than an opportunity. I see the gift of gold in an experience when I am ready, open to learn and grow. It has helped me to have seen gold in various experiences and to remind myself that the gold is there to be had.

Uncomfortable Place Of Uncertainty, by Margaret Wheatley

FaceBook  On May 21, 2019 David Doane wrote:
The Buddha supposedly said "Always have the beginner's mind." I appreciate that advice and often maintain that attitude. I accept uncertainty as a fact of life. I have become comfortable to a great extent in the place of uncertainty by living and seeing that there is no certainty, at least not in the present and future. There is only some certainty as to the past. My mantra in living is process, not product, meaning my effort is to focus on what is happening and on right action knowing that there is no certainty as to the outcome. I'm not certain what the right action is -- I like when I trust my feelings, my guts, my heart, my intuition, my thinking, and my learning and go with action that is in line with those. What helps me stay open to changing myself is knowing that change is always and change can be growthful, so as long as I'm changing I want for my change to be in a way that is growthful for myself.

Do You Direct Your Mind Or Does Your Mind Direct You?, by Yogi Bhajan

FaceBook  On May 12, 2019 David Doane wrote:
I interpret "penetration" to mean to move or enter into wisdom (in this context). The mind can be used to stay away from wisdom, particularly by being primarily left brain including logical, linear, and goal-focused, and it can be used to enter wisdom by utilizing right brain including open, creative, broad. As my spiritual discipline got away from dogmatic beliefs with which I was indoctrinated, I didn't allow my mind to direct me, and I allowed my developing spiritual discipline to direct my mind to be open to new ideas and to what appeared to me to be truth. What helps me control my mind is for me to hang loose, be open to my free and nonrational associations, value my fantasies, trust what I call my unconscious, and pay attention to my bodily responses. There is a saying that thinking makes a fine servant and a terrible master -- the same goes for the mind -- I've believed that for a long time and reminding myself of it helps me control my mind.

Everything Human Is Natural, by Alan Watts

FaceBook  On May 4, 2019 david Doane wrote:
I very much like this essay by Alan Watts. He was a wise man. By living in harmony with nature, we are in service to it and it serves us. We are in no way it's master. Imagine being in a stream -- there is perfect freedom in going with the flow. We are in the world and cosmic stream of nature, and there is perfect freedom in going with the flow, accepting that we are a part of it, not apart from it. We are composed of the same stuff of which it is composed, and affected by all the same forces that affect it. To attempt to isolate from it or fight it or try to control or exploit it is foolish. The fact is I am in union with nature, and to go against it or try to isolate from it is to be anti-nature, and the result of that for me as an individual or for us as a society is unhappiness, sickness, and death. I've grown over time in my sense of union with nature, and it has resulted in my being more compassionate and at peace.

The Poisoned Tree, by Jack Kornfield

FaceBook  On Apr 26, 2019 David Doane wrote:
We have too much of a get rid of difficulties mentality and would benefit from having more of an attitude of what's this difficult circumstance about and what can I learn from it. In our druggized society, we drug feelings we don't want out of existence rather than listen to them -- they are the result of a way of being and are signaling us to examine our way of being and be different. The times I have listened to my anxiety and depression rather than drugging them into oblivion, I've learned to increase accepting and being myself. What helps me learn from difficulties is knowing that difficulties are also lessons to learn from and problems are opportunities. Those are cliches that are true. Nietszche said that which doesn't kill us makes us stronger. It helps me to know that if difficulties don't kill me or I don't kill myself, I can learn and grow from them.

Feel Free To Set A Better Example, by Ryan Holiday

FaceBook  On Apr 21, 2019 David Doane wrote:
I very much support the notion of taking personal responsibility for being the change as opposed to critiquing others. Critiquing others, especially unasked for critiquing, doesn't help. Be the change you want to see in the world is Gandhi's message. It makes sense to me. So does the Golden Rule. Both seem to be very basic wisdom to live. I often live by the Golden Rule, being considerate, compassionate, and taking responsibility for my behavior, and usually don't censure those who aren't (except in my head, which is its own problem). What helps me stay rooted in setting a good example is knowing that I can only change me, knowing that how I am affects others, and knowing that my right action is its own reward no matter what happens.

A Key To End Sorrow, by J. Krishnamurti

FaceBook  On Apr 13, 2019 david Doane wrote:
The notion that when you love, there must be freedom from another and also from oneself is right on. It means when you love you still maintain your independence and freedom, you are still you, you are not dependent or manipulative, not goal directed, and are simply true to yourself. I have had periods of love without hate, jealousy, fear, anger, condemnation, comparison or wanting to interfere, and have had some periods of love when one of those feelings occurs and can be part of love if I own it and express it as what I am experiencing in that moment and continue to be me, not try to change or control or do anything to myself or the other. What helps me see what is called the ugliness inside is being open and true to myself, trusting my experience, trusting the process, trusting truth, not getting hooked on some agenda, and continuing to honestly be me. I do that at times -- practice helps,.

To Be In Satsang, by Adyashanti

FaceBook  On Apr 9, 2019 David Doane wrote:
Satsang means union with the truth. The truth is who I really am, not my roles and agendas. The truth is the essential me, out of which develops my ego which construct agendas. The fact is, I often care about agendas. Times I don't care about agendas are goalless and purposeless times, a break or vacation from agendas. Such are my happiest times. We're always in the unknown -- I'm usually aware of that -- we just fool ourselves into thinking we know. Only the past is known, and much of that we reconstruct. What keeps me knowing that we live in the unknown is the many times the "known" didn't happen. What helps me is to have learned to focus on process over outcome, right action over agendas.

No Longer Playing It Safe, by bell hooks

FaceBook  On Mar 30, 2019 David Doane wrote:
For me at this point, love means union. Once upon a time it was falling in love with and union with individuals that was transforming via excitement and losing myself and finding more of myself and expanding myself. Now that I am older, the practice of love is more general and spiritual. That is, I've come to feel union to some degree with all others and with all that is, which has been transforming and is my born again into being more kind, patient, understanding, compassionate. I have experienced such transformation being with my wife, being with my children, interacting with other people, and being with natural miracles such as looking out ito the Milky Way on a clear star filled night. I'm not feeling fear in loving these days -- I think what helps me to transcend fear is knowing how fulfilling loving is.

What Is Holding It Together?, by Nora Bateson

FaceBook  On Mar 24, 2019 David Doane wrote:
What is holding it all together is a force more than material reality, beyond time and space, beyond quantum reality. It is a force that is eternal and infinite, with no beginning and no end. It is a force called by many names including Consciousness, Eternal Source, Great Spirit, Being, Yahweh, Brahman, and God, each a word pointing at something that is undefinable and incomprehensible. All that is is a one piece delicate filigree, and the challenge for us is to see it as such and not disintegrate it by our words or action. Alan Watts said we divide in thought what is one in nature. It is we who fracture the delicate filigree. I have grown in my ability to at times look at fractured order through a lens of unity. I know that explanation accomplishes nothing and is frequently stultifying, so I'm seldom tempted to lock the delicate filigree of life in explanation. Rumi stated that silence is the language of God, and all else is a poor substitute. I prefer awe regarding the delicate filigree of life.

Why Busyness Is Actually Modern Laziness, by Rasmus Hougaard and Jacqueline Carter

FaceBook  On Mar 19, 2019 David Doane wrote:
Existentially lazy means avoiding the most important questions in life, for example: Who am I? What am I doing with my life? What contribution am I making to life? How is my relatedness with others? I became acutely aware of this laziness when I became aware that doing and busyness can be ways to avoid being, and it is being that is most important. Hougaard and Carter's line from Joseph Campbell about climbing the ladder of success only to find out the ladder is leaning against the wrong wall is a way of saying that our striving in busyness may be taking us away from being rather than toward being. When I am in activity without being busy, what helps me is having a sense of being in the world of busyness while not being of it, abiding in awareness of the ocean of eternal Being that we are all part of while I am simultaneously busy with some surface flotations that come and go. When I am in activity being without being busy, I enjoy what Buddhism refers to as equanimity.

Three Qualities Of Holiness, by Anthony De Mello

FaceBook  On Mar 12, 2019 David Doane wrote:
First, happiness isn't caused in a linear cause and effect way. Happiness is a byproduct of a way of being that is unselfconscious right action. Unselfconscious right action is action done because it is right, not for acclaim, not for secondary gain, but because it is right. When engaged in right action I am not self conscious, I am one with myself, I am whole. When I am whole, I am holy. Right action is its own reward, and the reward is happiness -- a reward that is enjoyed, not sought. Second, holiness is effortless in the sense that I am holy by nature, but that gets lost very early in life and then it takes effort to regain and maintain, which we do for moments at a time. Holiness, like happiness, is the byproduct of living unselfconscious right action which takes effort that feels effortless because it is coming from being whole and the effort flows smoothly. Third, holiness can be desired, it can't be directly created or controlled. It's a byproduct or outcome. My actions contribute to outcome, and I control my actions at least to some degree, but I don't control outcome. Understanding is overrated -- what makes a real difference is action, and right action increases the chance of whole and holy outcome. I observe the opposite of a virtue in myself when my action is self conscious and goal directed, done to gain for me some favor or outcome that I desire. What helps me go past the cunningness of my ego and toward the wisdom of nature is to remind myself that my responsibility is to engage in unselfconscious right action and leave outcome to forces much bigger than myself.

Clues On Higher Ground, by UB40

FaceBook  On Mar 9, 2019 David Doane wrote:
The present is. The past is memory and the future is anticipation. When in the present, I am with what is, whatever and whoever that may be, including stars and trees, birds and bees, fish and seas, others and me. When in the present, I want to know less about before, and less about next, and embrace more and more the intoxicating here and now. The present is my higher ground, and time in the present is a digging deep that motivates me to dig deeper into being in the present.

Clues On Higher Ground, by UB40

FaceBook  On Mar 2, 2019 David Doane wrote:
We can learn from the past and have plans for the future, but living is present. Being in the present, and learning in and from the present, helps me know more about the present, not about the past, and opens me to want to learn more in and of the present. Higher ground is the present -- it's what's happening, it's alive, and by attending to it and digging deep into it I discover clues and facts about it, and am alive here and now. Being present and attending to the present foster my curiosity and desire for more in the present. Knowing that the past and future are imagination, knowing that the past is memory and the future is anticipation, and knowing that it is only the present that is, fosters my curiosity to learn more and more in and of the present.

Kazoo Player And The Symphony, by Daniel Ingram

FaceBook  On Feb 24, 2019 David Doane wrote:
My first thought was that I don't relate to the metaphor, and I thought of Nietzsche's saying "And those who were dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music," which quote I can relate to and even like to relate to. My second thought was that I don't want to be one part of the grand sweep of the melody, largely lost among the grandeur of the hundreds of other players. My third thought is that I want it all, that is, I want to be my own unique individual kazoo player and be part of the grand sweep. Sometimes in a close present encounter with another, I hear the symphony beyond the kazoo player, and while connected to the kazoo player I also feel connected to the symphony with a sense that the symphony is larger than us, it takes priority, and we are part of the bigger majesty of the symphony, and it is very special.

It Doesn't Matter If You Believe In It, by Kazu Haga

FaceBook  On Feb 16, 2019 David Doane wrote:
Nonviolence isn't the science of understanding conflict. Nonviolence isn't a science any more than violence is a science. They are both ways of being. Playing on sports teams comes to mind as an experience in which I realized the effect of interdependence before having a real belief in it. Our interconnectedness and intereffectiveness were obvious on a team. The team is bigger than the individuals. Players sacrifice to the team and create the team, and the team carries the players. What helps me nurture beloved community is knowing that we are part of one entity, one action -- we are in this together, we sink or swim together -- what I do for the team I do for myself and what I do for myself I do for the team. It is best for me to nurture beloved community and it is best for the community for me to be loving. All this is true for every system, be it a friendship, a marriage, a family, a team, a nation or the world. If you believe it or not, it's the way if is.

What I Learned From Trees, by Herman Hesse

FaceBook  On Feb 9, 2019 David Doane wrote:
I look at trees and marvel at their majesty. As a child I climbed many trees and loved to be in them. They were my playground and my sanctuary. They held me. Today I appreciate the picture of the tree of life in my office. Even having a good relationship with trees, I haven't listened to trees in the way that Hesse describes. I am made of the same stuff as trees, so every tree is a path that leads homeward, leads me home from whence I come. I had a mentor whom I very much looked up to, and he always insisted that I follow my own nose and not imitate him, which supported and inspired me to be who I am. A tree is itself, not imitating any other tree, and listening to it could further inspire me to be all that I am. When I listen to trees, I hear rustling and creaking -- it's telling me much more -- I will listen more closely.

We Contain Multitudes, by Chad Dickerson

FaceBook  On Feb 3, 2019 David Doane wrote:
We do contain multitudes, in more ways than one. We are part of one another. We share our atoms, and the atoms that are part of my body have been part of the body of every other being. Further, whatever happens to me affects others, and what happens to others affects me. And there are many aspects to me. Given my inclinations historically to be guarded, the process of sharing my non linked in profile has often started with the other being open and real with me, which has resulted in my being more open and real in return. And when I have been open and real, as happens more and more over the years, the other is more that way with me. I've learned, sometimes painfuly, that if you want the other to be real and open, be real and open. I've learned that if you want to have a friend, be a friend. What helps me offer space to be complex people is my learning that we're all complex multitudes, and that the meeting of real complex me and real complex you is what is meaningful and fulfilling for me, so I do it, at least sometimes.

Generosity Helps Us Accept Change, by Sharon Salzberg

FaceBook  On Jan 26, 2019 David Doane wrote:
Only true generosity frees the mind Generosity that is goal-directed, such as generosity done in order to complete me or done to make me feel good about myself or done to please the other or get what I want, is not true generosity and is not freeing. Generosigy that is conditional, to use the author's word, such as generosity done to impose or try to control, is not true and is not freeing. Generosity that is freeing is pure and genuine, free of agendas, not outcome bound, not controlling or manipulative. Generosity that is freeing reflects and fosters ability to accept what happens. When my generosity is true, my heart is light, full, and free. True generosity is its own reward and helps me cultivate a generous heart.

Green Mountains Are Forever Walking, by Subhana Barzaghi

FaceBook  On Jan 20, 2019 David Doane wrote:
When the student is ready, the teacher appears. When the student is ready, one word can be the teacher that awakens the mind. Since I have become a little more awakened, I often am aware of and sometimes experience the impermanent nature of the elements that are not really within me but better described as me in form. My body and the elements that comprise it are impermanent. My essence or soul is permanent, free from birth and death. What helps me avoid stagnation in a realization of emptiness of impermanence is knowing and reminding myself that everything incuding myself is constantly changing. What helps me merge with the world in compassion is knowing or reminding myself that my form includig all the elements that comprise my form and the world are merged, are one action or process, which awareness facilitates and flows into compassion.

Signals Even GPS Cannot Detect, by Aylie Baker

FaceBook  On Jan 12, 2019 David Doane wrote:
We have moved away from trusting our experience. The forces that be, such as the medical/pharmaceutical industry, religion, science, technology companies, instruct us to not trust our experience and trust them instead. By experience, I mean what we are experiencing -- feeling, sensing, intuiting. Since we are part of nature and an extension of nature, what we are experiencing is nature. Trusting what I experience is trusting nature. Relying on outside factors, such as technologies, drugs, dogmas, and experts instead of internal experience separates us from our experience and from nature, separates us from our foundation, separates us from our self. Trusting my inner self, that is, trusting my experience, trusting my gut, my feelings, my heart, has many times guided me and brought me to a good outcome. What helps me step back from external forces and lean into what I am experiencing, lean into me, is that I am alive and me when I do that, and it is fulfilling. Technology can be of help as long as I keep it an adjunct to self and not let it take over. I prefer to trust me rather than what is not me.

Two Kinds Of Resistance, by Rhonda Fabian

FaceBook  On Jan 5, 2019 david doane wrote:

 What we call opposites like light and darkness, are different expressions of one whole.  I think the Buddha's teaching is not that light and darkness depend on each other for their existence, but that our awareness of light and darkness depends on their existence and their contrast.  I think what Thich Nhat Hanh is saying, and I hope he is saying, is it is for us to choose and perform right action, both inwardly and outwardly, because it is right, and not to oppose anything, not to impose our view, not to try to change the other, and not to accomplish any goal or agenda.  Views that are different than mine can expand my view and contribute to collective awakening.  There have been times that I have felt anger at what I saw as injustice,  and my willingness to be open helped me see positive and truth in what the other was doing which transformed my anger into compassion.  What helps me fous on my conscious choices is my knowing that the only thing I can control is my conscious choices, and knowing that my judgmentalness and trying to control outcome get in the way of my right conscious choices.


My Word Of The Year, by Nancy Gibbs

FaceBook  On Dec 29, 2018 david doane wrote:

 What I see as error, which is what someone holds that is different than what I believe, has truth in it, and what I consider truth, which is what I believe, contains error.  By being open and listening, I hear what is being said by the other and by myself instead of hearing my thinking, my preconceived notions and judgments, my assumptions and prejudices, my expectations and predictions, and I can learn, modify my position, and grow.  When I listened to my son-in-law's political viewpoint, which is different than my own, I heard information some of which was new and confusing, and it resulted in expanding my understanding.  What helps me invite surprise into my life is knowing that surprise can be a great teacher.  Surprise can catch me off guard, throw a wrench into my usual thinking, help me to see outside the box, knock me out of my lockstep, and trigger insight and learning, all of which is exciting and enliviening, so I invite surprise into my life. 


How Observation Changes Relationships, by Vimala Thakar

FaceBook  On Dec 26, 2018 david doane wrote:

 Hi Sidney -- Thank you for responding.  Perhaps you are right -- I wonder -- maybe only 99.001% of us carry some residue from one experience into the next, and .001% of us carry no residue at all.  I think -- I don't know but am thinking -- that every thing gets physically metabolized into our physical being and in some way never goes away, and that every experience gets experientially metabolized into our essential being and in some way never goes away, metabolized into Being that we are part of and then downloads into the being that I am, and in that way never goes away but is residue that stays accessible to me and is triggered and activated in a next experience.  Like I said, I wonder.  David


Who Is My Neighbor?, by Ivan Illich

FaceBook  On Dec 23, 2018 david doane wrote:

 'My neighbor is someone I decide' means to me that my neighbor is someone I decide to relate to with true care and in a way that helps him or her have what is needed to heal and/or grow.  There have been times that I have listened carefully, responded in a way that was respectful, responded in a way that the other felt safe, responded in a way that connected with the othier, provided what was needed, and the other benefitted.  Such times were sacred forms of relatedness with the other. What helps me create relatedness with another is to truly be present with the other and listen to and respond to what the other is presenting, not to my tlhinking, prejudices, expectations, agendas, or judgments, which allows intimate healing sacred relatedness.


How Observation Changes Relationships, by Vimala Thakar

FaceBook  On Dec 15, 2018 david doane wrote:

 It's not possible to not carry any residue over into the next experience.  Our experience becomes partof us and carries over.  We may resolve and/or become free of some or even a  great deal of residue, but not all.  We never become 100% clean of all residue.  The residue we're stuck with sneaks up on us and overlays a next experience.  My commitment to nonjudgmental observation always changes my relationship, helps it be present and honest, free of game playing.  You practice observation by practicing becoming aware of and letting go of interferences such as preconceived notions, efforts to control, judgments, predictions, goals, and practicing simply being in the present.


Three Stages Of Perceiving Impermanence, by Shinzen Young

FaceBook  On Dec 8, 2018 david doane wrote:

My reflection:  I am very aware that change is constant and nothing is permanent.  This life and every aspect of life is impermanent.  That's how life is.  We abide in impermanence, know it or not, and to a great degree I abide in awareness of the impermanence of life.  Awareness of impermanence makes acceptance of even harsher kinds of impermanence easier for me.  Harsher kinds of impermanence currently in the foreground of my life are my declinig abilities and to a greater degree serious illnesses and deaths of loved ones.  Awareness of and acceptance of impermanence are comforting for me, bring me peace, and in that sense are at least at times meditating me, eliminating unnecessary fretting, getting me to basic being.


The New And Ancient Story Of Interbeing, by Charles Eisenstein

FaceBook  On Dec 3, 2018 david doane wrote:

 The sun doesn't shine in order to give light to life, and rain doesn't fall to water life.  The sun and rain have no intention.  The sun lights, rain waters, and life benefits.  We attribute intention.  Intention is our construct.  Sun and rain and life simply interbe.  Interbeing means that all that is, living and not living, is interrelated, interconnected, and interdependent.  Everything affects and is affected by everylthing else.  Everything is part of everything.  And everything, including the sun and the rain, the world and everything in it, and ourselves, is a gift.  We didn't earn any of it.  We don't deserve it.  We don't have to pay for it.  We are part of the interbeing that is, and we are part of the evolution of interbeing.  What helps me live in gratitude, when I do, is simply being aware that the world and life are a gift. 


Preparing For The Extraordinary: An Essential Practice, by Alan Briskin

FaceBook  On Nov 24, 2018 david doane wrote:

 As for needing preparation, you never know.  It may help and it may not.  The challenge is knowing what is the preparation for the extraordinary to be received.  I have found that the main preparation is the doing.  I recall being in a group experience in which I was very involved and I was cocreating the experience while simultaneously being impacted by it.  My realizing this was minimal as it was happening and became clear afterwards.  What helps me remain aware that I am both a composer of the group field and part of the composition is knowing that all that is is inseparably interconnected and correlated.  How could being both composer and part of the composition be otherwise?


The Root Of The Root Of Your Self, by Rumi

FaceBook  On Nov 17, 2018 david doane wrote:

The root of the root of my self is my essence, my soul, the extension of God that is me.  I don't know when I became aware of the root of the root of my self.  I think I was honing in on it for a long time, and got there maybe a dozen years ago, I think by being dissatisfied with beliefs I had, questioning, seeking, being open, listening to me and to the wisdom of teachers like Rumi, and letting go of beliefs that didn't make sense.  A ruby embedded in granite means to me that I am an expression of God embodied in flesh and bone and material reality.  What helps me to realize that is being open, listening to the wisdom of teachers, letting go, waking up, seeing.


Uniform Corn-Rows In High-Tech Isolation, by Robin Wall Kimmerer

FaceBook  On Nov 9, 2018 david doane wrote:

 I love Kimmerer's account, even though I feel sad in reading it and thinking about the loss of humanity in our high tech ways.  There is a personal relationship between the human and the seed that is evident in the primitive ways and is lost and perhaps destroyed in high tech.  The human and the seed can see each other in the primitive way, where the identification between them is more obvious.  I see a deep synergy in the way people used to sit physically present to one another and talk in their personal lives and in business much more often years ago than in today's high tech society.  What helps me continue 'Three Sisters planting' is my continuing to value and engage in face to face personal non technologigized non computerized interaction -- I'm an anachronism and enjoying it, proud of it, and I see people appreciating it.  Holding onto humanity in high tech ways is a challenge that I pretty much ignore but younger people will face more and more.  I remember Erich Fromm saying the challenge of the future is to not become robots.


Attention Is Inseparable From Interrogation, by Michel de Salzmann

FaceBook  On Nov 3, 2018 david doane wrote:

We have the ability, not obligation, to respond to our being by inquiring into its meaning. Though I don't agree with Socrates that the unexamined life is not worth living, I definitely think it's worthwhile to inquire into the meaning of our being.  I usually feel free enough to question myself while answering.  I usually even enjoy it.  My most significant questions have only partial answers at best and trigger more questions, which I'm fine with.  My answers aren't complete but they become fuller over time.  Rilke said to love the questions, live the questions, and live into the answers, and I've become more that way over time.  Questioning has helped me in my life by feeding my hunger for knowing and providing meaning, fascination, satisfaction, and growth.


No Rush, No Dawdle: The Secret Of Proper Timing, by Tom Maxwell

FaceBook  On Oct 27, 2018 david doane wrote:

 Being fully unified with my experience means to me to be one with it, not distracted or attempting to multitask, but together with it, integrated, self-harmonious.  I've had the feeling of the eternal present in union with an other and in union with nature.  Moments of being fully in the present are glorious, sometimes ecstatic, and eternal.  When I avoid resisting the present, what helps me is knowing that the present is where the fullness of life is, and I want and hunger for that fullness of life, so I'm open to it.  I don't want constructs of life, I want life, and the present is where life is.


Love Is Not An Emotion, by Barbara Frederickson

FaceBook  On Oct 19, 2018 david doane wrote:

We don't become part of something larger than ourselves, we are always part of something larger than ourselves, and  the moments we become aware of that are special moments, typically aha moments, peak moments, love moments.  An important love is how we are when realizing and appreciating our union or oneness with all that is. It may be only a momentary phenomenon particularly if awareness of our being part of something larger than ourselves is a new awareness, and it may be an ongoing love if we abide in awareness that we are part of something larger than ourselves.  I think my first peak experiences were in looking into a star-filled sky and having an awareness of how big the unvierse is and my being part of something much larger than myself.  From there I have moved to a much more frequent awareness of our being part of something much bigger and greater than ourselves, and it's an awareness that fills me with awe and love and what Barbara Frederickson calls positivity resonance.


Intentions And Effects, by Gary Zukav

FaceBook  On Oct 15, 2018 david doane wrote:

 I think nonlocal correlation is a more accurate term than non physical law of cause and effect.  Intentions, if they are chosen consciously or unconsciously, are factors in non local correlation of energy and life, and there are many additional factors, conscious and unconscious, that contribute to outcome.  We don't operate by mechanical cause and effect at any level, even when we think we do.  We aren't "entirely free" to create what we want no matter what law we are aware of or believe in.  Moving forward, consciously choosing our causes or intentions means choosing them with awareness and intentionality.  My intentions have a limiting effect on my experience, so I'd better consciously choose intentions that open and not close my experience.  My primary intention is to grow and blossom, become all that I can, and that intention seems to leave me open to broad experience and not put blinders on my seeing.  What helps me be aware of the intentions I choose is remembering that my purpose is to grow and remembering that my intentions move me toward or away from fulfilling my purpose, so I better be aware of my intentions and choose intentions that move me toward fulfiing my purpose.


You Must Shout From The Heart, by Ken Wilber

FaceBook  On Oct 6, 2018 david doane wrote:

 I love this powerful and poetic shout from Ken Wilber.  It took me a long time to share my truth, initially timidly and then with less and less timidity, and eventually occasionally shouting.  And I have slowly developed a disciplined sharing grounded in compassion, and when I do such I feel full and happy.  I remind myself daily that I have the right, responsibility, and privilege to express my truth, and lately it's also become my pleasure.  I am part of this world, part of one whole, and how I am affects the whole and vice versa.  This is my truth, it has been transformative, and at times it expresses as a transformative shout roared from my heart.  What helps me proceed carefully is knowing that there are dangers in this beautiful world, and I want to proceed in a way that contributes to healing and transformation and not be reckless or stupid and cut my own throat or cause hurt to anyone.


​Perspective, by Aaron Zehah

FaceBook  On Sep 30, 2018 david doane wrote:

 I see the effects of our experience and perspective being circular, shaping one another, the circular process starting with experience which to me is basic and primary.  Oscar Wilde said, "Nothing worth knowing can be taught."  That is, it's learned by experience which shapes our perspective which shapes our experience.  That's what happened in Aaron Zehah's story.  Once the man experienced the increased crowding in his little home, his perspective changed.  And with a different perspective his experience in his home changed.  In all matters, my experiences have ongoingly shaped my perspective whch has shaped my experience.


The World Mirrors The Soul And The Soul Mirrors The World, by Alan Watts

FaceBook  On Sep 23, 2018 david doane wrote:

 I've come to know that I am in the world and the world is in me, the forces that operate in the world are the same as the forces that operate in me, and I and the world are made of the same stuff.  More than the world mirrors the soul and the soul mirrors the world, the soul and the world are one.  At this point, I know always that each of us has in us every aspect of human life, including the good, the bad, and the ugly.  I have it in me to be a saint and a sinner, a nurturer and a killer, a giver and a taker, a helper and an abuser, compassionate and hostile.  What I am has to do with my choices, and my choices have to do with a multitude of factors most of which are beyond my comprehension.  I've been fortunate -- I have enjoyed many positive circumstances.  As for any and every option, "there but for the grace of God go I."


The Work Of Love Is To Love, by Mark Nepo

FaceBook  On Sep 16, 2018 david doane wrote:

 I agree that the work of love is to love.  Love without action is theoretical and meaningless.  Love put into action enhances the other and the person expressing the love.  Love put into action grows and spreads.  In holding another and listening deeply, I wasn't conscious of hearing the mystery of all life and the ocean of my own blood, which phrases I love, but that is what happened.  I know that all that is is one and we are one, and holding and listening are a natural expression of that.  In the process of holding and listening to another, I am holding and listening to myself, I am being how I am meant to be and doing what I am meant to do.  When I do dare to hold close those forced to the ground, it's knowing all this that helps me dare.  I know that in such moments I am vulnerable, and the satisfaction of love in action is worth the risk.


The Question Of Being, by Adyashanti

FaceBook  On Sep 8, 2018 david doane wrote:

 We're all asleep and in denial in some ways and to some extent.  The essence of me is my soul, which isn't really mine and it's more accurate to say I belong to it rather than it belongs to me.  This soul that I call mine is the extension of Soul or Being and is the essence of me.  Busyness more than anything gets in my way of focusing more on my soul.  I'm too often busy doing instead of being.  A baby is simply and purely being.  Little children are good at being.  I believe that's why Jesus said unless you become like little children you won't enter heaven, which is here and now to the extent we are being.  Being is most important and whatever helps one awaken to Being is important to do.  I was in a state of unconscious sleep walking through my teens, unconsciously abiding by the rules and beliefs about life that I had learned, and in my early twenties I began to what I believe was to see what is, see beyond the shoulds and illusions, and begin to open my eyes to spiritual enlightenment.  It's been a slow and unsteady process since then.  Now I know, as wise others have said, I am a spiritual being having a human experience, not a human being having an occasional spiritual experience.  What helps me bring forth what is deepest in me is the process of doing it, with the help of tools like reading, reflection, meditation, discussion.  More leads to more.


Sense Of Self Is An Essential Skill Of Mind, by Paul Fleischman

FaceBook  On Sep 1, 2018 david doane wrote:

 My sense of self definitely is a creation -- however, it is a creation of much more than my mind -- it is a creation of consciousness of which I am a part.  And my mind is also a creation of that same consciousness.  I began becoming aware of myself as an "integrative psychological system," not that I ever knew or used that term, more than 40 years ago and have been developing as an "integrative psychological system" ever since, and probably long before.  I am a system that is part of larger and larger systems, and I am in the process, three steps forward and two steps backward, of becoming more and more whole with self, others, and all that is.  For me, that is what life is about.  Knowing that I am a unique expression of Creation, with the opportunity, responsibility and privilege to be that, helps me respect myself.  Of course I don't dismiss myself because I am a creation -- everything is a creation -- I value myself as a creation.  The thing to dismiss is the false or illusory self that thinks it is separate and all that is.


Bedrock On Which We All Stand, by J. Krishnamurti

FaceBook  On Sep 1, 2018 david doane wrote:

 Congratulations, Chris, on doing what you did.  Seems to me it took courage for you to get involved as you did, and apparently some good came from it.  Your story is inspiring for me.  Thanks for sharing.


Bedrock On Which We All Stand, by J. Krishnamurti

FaceBook  On Aug 25, 2018 David Doane wrote:

I love what Krisnamurti wrote in this essay.  Religion and politics have gotten very caught up in dualistic separatist thinking, so we need to get beyond where they are to get to unitive thinking, to realize that everything is related and we really are cocreators in our own conditioning, and until we realize that the best we’ll get to is to blame religion and politics and paint ourselves to be victims of them.  I was full of certitude and arrogance regarding the religion I was born into, and I guess I had enough open mindedness to I hope see what is.  Openness and good fortune help me see beyond.  Wholeness and truth are satisfying and are their own reward.


Fueled By Love, by Timber Hawkeye

FaceBook  On Aug 20, 2018 David Doane wrote:

Parents and anyone of us who resort to violence to protect their kids and loved ones are being violent.  There is no justified violence  — violence is unnecessary.  When I’m violent, I’m violent just like any other violent person.  A person’s violence may be partially fueled by love, but is likely primarily fueled primarily by ignorance and underlying violence.  People who are hateful, racist, homophobic or prejudiced aren’t simply defending what they hold dear, they are responding from underlying anger and violence and from their reptilian brain and choosing fight and violence instead of flight.  A person being violent may be seen as a freedom fighter, but he’ being a fighter of freedom and not a fighter for freedom.  Seeing violence through the eyes of love may decrease the violence but it doesn’t make the violence an act of love.  As Thich Naat Hahn said, when we hate the hater we become a hater.  Likewise, when we are violent to a violent person we are are violent ourselves.  Yes, it is possible to a person who is violent.  That shift in my heart isn’t subtle, it’s major.  What helps me make the shift is reminding myself that violence fosters violence and nonviolence reduces violence in the hater and in me.


The Practice Of Soft Eyes, by Parker Palmer

FaceBook  On Aug 11, 2018 david doane wrote:

 For me, having soft eyes means being open to hopefully see what is, not just see my thinking or prejudices or expectations or preconceived judgments.  Having soft eyes means being open and welcoming, not closed and defensive.  A personal example is that I went from narrow religous beliefs that I defended as a child to widening my spiritual periphery as I got older.  I think I became open to truth wherever it was to be found. I opened my eyes and learned from various traditions and disciplines.  What helps me develop soft eyes is openness to learn, having an attitude of searching, openness to my mind changing and evolving rather than being rigidly set, and valuing the truth.


Stopping The War, by Jack Kornfield

FaceBook  On Aug 5, 2018 david doane wrote:

 Jack Kornfield's words remind me of Gandhi's exhortation to be the change you want to see in the world, and  Buddhism's emphasis on detachment.  I hear Kornfield's exhortation as one to let go of our hectic runing, our addictions and our denial, and stop, look inward, listen, find our self, be open and real and vulnerable with ourself and with one another.  This is the way to stop the war within and without.  Running from self, anger and war are not necessary.  We can be the peace we want to see in the world, and being the peace is probably the only way to get to peace in the world.  My stepping out of the battle, at least somewhat and sometimes, has been a long process, and really a wonderful one that brings me increased peace and contentment.  I think the essential ingredient is looking inward and seeing that my primary war is within me, and accomplishing peace within is the most I can do for peace without.  What helps me look at  what's realy within me is honesty with myself, openness to input from others, and the growth and peace that result from it.


Live Like The Roar In A Lion's Throat, by Pavithra Mehta

FaceBook  On Jul 30, 2018 david doane wrote:

 When expressed, the lion's roar is powerful, heeded, respected, and even feared.  When held in the cave of the lion's throat, there is no roar to be heard.  I'm much more fulfilled when I live like the lion's roar, which means embracing and expressing my real self, rather than keeping me in my cave, unheard and unknown.  When I live like the lion's roar, I explode my flavor into everyting, and I make a difference.  I have done that many times, which is satisfying.  I have also imploded or held me in or toned me down many times which is frustrating and dissatisfying.  What helps me be like the wick in a candle, on fire and alive, is accepting and expressing my self, which sometimes takes courage and usually is rewarding..


Communication As Mutual Entrainment, by Ursula LeGuin

FaceBook  On Jul 23, 2018 david doane wrote:

What I say may be for the other a seed that blossoms into a breathtaking flower or it may reduce me in the other's mind to a withering weed.  I hope for the former, and know that I don't control how the other responds.  There is always unpredictability in communication.  What I do control and what is my resonsibility is to compassionately express my truth.  The control and choice we have is in what and how we communicate.  Hopefully we communicate in a way that is entrainment, which the author says physicists call mutual phase locking.  It's mutual heart to heart and even soul to soul interconnection, intervibration, synchrony.  I felt such entrainment recently as I was with a group of long time close friends.  It's entrainment being enlivening and fulfilling that helps me stay committed to it.  We are most healthy and happy when there is entrainment.  Like it or not, we are intersubjective, we do communicate, and with effort we can entrain. 


We Want Relief. Cure Is Painful, by Anthony de Mello

FaceBook  On Jul 14, 2018 david doane wrote:

 I don't agree with the aulthor that people don't want to be cured.  People do want to be cured.  Cure feels good.  And being cured is passive, and people do want to passively be cured and feel good.  What people don't want is to change, and cure requires change.  Cure can be painful, but not necessarily; temporary relief can be pain free, but not necessarily.  I've done some curing in speaking my truth, which has been change for me.  Relief would have been to keep my truth to myself, which I found out was not a relief at all.  Many times we want relief and cure without change.  In our culture, we often seek relief and cure through drugs, legal and illegal ones.  Drug use is usually an example of seeking relief and cure through an alternative to change.  Alternatives to change at best provide relief, not cure, and the relief is typically temporary and often make matters worse.  Learning such lessons helps me prefer change that cures to alternatives to change that at best provide temporary relief.


Perception Is A Mirror, by Edited by Frances Vaughan and Roger Walsh

FaceBook  On Jul 6, 2018 david doane wrote:

 I don't believe whatever I want -- I believe what I believe.  I don't directly or willfully change what I believe.  I can have new experiences and learn, and my beliefs change with new experiences and learning.  My beliefs definitely shape what I see, and what I see shapes my beliefs.  As my beliefs have changed over time, my perceptions of myself, of others, of the world, of life have changed.  What helps me be aware of the beliefs that are shaping my perception is taking my beliefs seriously, paying attention to my beliefs and to changes in my beliefs, thinking about what my beliefs are, questioning and examining my beliefs, and being open. 


Where's Your Umbrella?, by Nazeer Ahmed

FaceBook  On Jun 30, 2018 david doane wrote:

 I think the siblings' strong commitment was to their faith, not to the unknown.  Being present to the unknown is being present to not knowing.  The siblings were certain that their prayer would be answered and it would rain -- they were being present to their faith that it would rain.  My commitment to being present to the unknown has grown over the years.  We don't know.  There is no certainty.  An action that emerged from my commitment to being present to the unknown is simply speaking my truth, letting go of trying to make a certain outcome happen, and trusting the process.  What helps me develop that commitment is experiencing the spontaneous, alive, creative good that comes from it.


Action Without Desire Of Outcomes, by Vinoba Bhave

FaceBook  On Jun 25, 2018 david doane wrote:

 The desire to impress others is a problem and can be ugly because it's a desire to do something that I don't have the power to do.  I can't make anyone be impressed or unimpressed.  I can't make anyone do or feel anything.  I can perform right action, which is my responsibility.  Right action is constructive expression of my experience in the moment.  Right action does not involve trying to control outcome.  Right action is love.  Work is action, and work that is the right action is love made visible.  When I trust my truth and put it into right action without being goal directed and without trying to control outcome, I am trusting the process and I am loving and my love is made visible.  I can give up trying to control outcome without giving up right action, and knowing that helps me avoid attachment to outcome without giving up work. 


Don't Side With Yourself , by Joseph Goldstein

FaceBook  On Jun 17, 2018 david doane wrote:

 I think 'don't side with yourself' means to not cling to a judgment, and instead stay open to what is and side with truth.  As the Buddhists say, "Always have the beginner's mind."  The author says wisdom opens us to the experience of selflessness.  I put the emphasis the other way around, ie, selflessness opens us to wisdom.  An example of my seeing through my own conditioning is when I saw through my conditioned anger and realized that anger is not a necessary emotion.  I can disagree, object, assert, refuse without becoming angry.  My feelings of self-rightousness sneak up on me, and transcending such feelings is more difficult.  What helps me see my feelings with mindfulness is learning to be mindful, that is, learning to pay attention, be aware, be present, be open, not attach to any one feeling, and stay away from trying to control outcome.


Somehow I'm Always Held, by Jeff Foster

FaceBook  On Jun 9, 2018 david doane wrote:

 As I am part of life, I am held in life.  As the author says, there is no plan, there is only life, and when I cooperate with life rather than fight against it or try to manipulate it or try to make it fit my plan, I am held by it. When I engage in right action and right process, I am doing my part, and I am held in life, including under trying circumstances. The satisfaction and good outcome that come from engaging in right action and right process, rather than trying to control outcome, help me remember that I am held in life. 


Three Types Of Leadership, by Marty Krasney

FaceBook  On Jun 3, 2018 david doane wrote:

 I agree with the author's description of force leadership.  I see trade as trade, not as a form of leadership.  In love leadership, I see the leader being the union of the participants as they bilaterally establish a respectful, compassionate, loving cooperative effort.  My marriage is often love leadership as we have become a loving, respectful, working together team.  What helps me elevate leadership to love leadership is seeing us who are in some joint project as in it together, being respectful and kind to one another, expressing and valuing one another's contributions, and seeing us as peers.  A full love leadership necessitates peership.  In any hierarchical or older generation-younger generation situation (such as parent-child, boss-employee, teacher-student), love is important and makes the situation more enjoyable and perhaps more productive, but the parent or boss or teacher is the in charge leader so it's not a love leadership in the fullest sense. 


Keeping Quiet, by Pablo Neruda

FaceBook  On May 26, 2018 david doane wrote:

 In reading this passage, some of my favorite quotes come to mind.  Rumi said, "Silence is the language of God, all else is a poor translation."  According to Pascal, "All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone."  And Lin Yutang's "If you can spend a perfectly useless afternoon in a perfectly useless manner, you have learned how to live."  'Do nothing' means to me to do no thing, and simply be mindfully present.  I allowed life to interrupt sadness when I paused to sit in my back yard, took in the beauty of nature, settled into it, felt together with it, and felt soothed and nurtured by it.  Such moments are an example of 'keep on moving' by being goallessly present in the flow of life which is very different than keeping our lives moving by determined goal-direct effort.


Exhausting Quest For Perfection, by Brene Brown

FaceBook  On May 19, 2018 david doane wrote:

 The quest for perfection is exhausting because it's unnecessary goal-directed hard work.  Perfection has much more to do with allowing rather than seeking.  I haven't completely let go of what others think of me, but I have loosened my grip.  I have gotten positive feedback when I say what is true for me rather than hold back or be inauthentic out of concern about what they might think.  It helps me to remind myself that I have the right and responsibility to be me and express my truth.  It helps me to have felt more regret when I don't express my authentic self than when I do.  It helps me to get support and appreciation for what I have to say.  I like to be known, and it helps me to know that in being authentic I become known.


Death Connects Us To Life, by Somik Raha

FaceBook  On May 11, 2018 david doane wrote:

 Yes, the soul is eternal and continues to be present, and death of the body and loss of the physical presence is still a significant death and loss.  It is my experience that grieving creates a space for safely connecting to one's feelings.  When my father died, I sobbed like I hadn't sobbed since I was a child or maybe ever.  I was aware as I was sobbing that I was sobbing, that I was letting myself sob, that it was coming from a deep place within me, that it felt good, and that I was sobbing not ony about my father's death but also about a lot of things for which I had never let my self sob.  My sobbing was emptying and cleansing.  It was an expression of my grieving fully and authentically, and in it I did find wholeness and joy.  I didn't feel wrecked by my grief and sobbing but felt wide open and more together and whole as I was accepting and allowing and feeling my grief and sobbing.  My father died 23 years ago and the experience is still  clear and present in me. 


Who Do We Choose To Be?, by Margaret Wheatley

FaceBook  On May 5, 2018 david doane wrote:

 I don't agree with Ms. Wheatley that large-scale change is not possible.  Anything is possible, including large-scale change, and there have been many examples of large-scale change throughout history.  I've been with a few extraordinary people who were leaders by the power of their personhood and wisdom and created islands of sanity.  The group of us that were part of such an island were raised to a higher level of personal and interpersonal functioning by the presence of the leader, and it was a joy to be part of the experience.  What helps me commit to creating my own island of sanity is knowing it is possible, knowing I have the wisdom to do it whether it is an island of just me or of a group of people, and knowing that the primary ingredient is to be myself.


Dropping Out, Like The Buddha, by Jane Brunette

FaceBook  On Apr 28, 2018 david doane wrote:

 Martin Luther King advocated nonviolence.  Speaking truth doesn't mean violence or even anger.  We can object and speak truth nonviolently.  The Buddha didn't face the reality of suffering -- he faced the reality of pain.  The point isn't to end suffering; the point is to end suffering that is ineffective and creates unnecessary pain.  He learned, possibly precipitated by the milkmaid, how to suffer pain efficiently, in a way that is in harmony with life rather than fighting life.  We never know anything for sure.  We definitely can do the best with what we have --  we can do right action.  Dropping out is action, it's not doing nothing.  Dropping out can mean accepting one's truth, not accepting the given story.  I have dropped out of the company line and dropped into my line, and found my peace.  Life is made of opposites or dialectics, such as life and death, individuality and belonging, right brain and left brain, role and personhood, and an important part of my truth is finding balance in the dialectics, not by rule but by discovery.


Recycling Karmic Trash, by Shinzen Young

FaceBook  On Apr 23, 2018 david doane wrote:

 We are constantly interconnected with all that is, so we are constantly affected by and affecting all that is, living and not living, human and not human.  Life provides pain.  Pain is part of life, and we are constantly affecting and affected by pain.  We provide suffering.  Suffering is how we carry and deal with pain.  Experiencing the sensory arising can be suffering of pain, be it endogenous or exogenous, in a way that doesn't add to or create unnecessary pain.  We are individual and one -- not one, not two, one and two.  It is important to know what is my responsibility and what is not, as the serenity prayer points out so well.  Knowing that is a valuable part of my spirituality and doesn't detract from it. 


Seven Stages Of The Ego, by Rumi, as told by Elif Shafak

FaceBook  On Apr 15, 2018 david doane wrote:

 The seven stages of the self make sense to me.  I think I became aware of being in a stage when I was in stage 3, Inspired Nafs, as I felt some sense of surrender to life and some sense that further growth was to come.  In this stage, I was aware that new awareness was happening for me, and I was aware of many questions and had a sense that more understanding was coming.  I think I have had experience in stage 4, some brief experience in stage 5, and at least gotten my toe occasionally into stage 6.  What helps me remain aware of the stage I am experiencing and supports my journey of evolution is times that I become aware that my awareness has deepened which is accompanied by a sense of satisfaction and gratitude.  Based on my own experience, I agree with the author that the journey is definitely not linear, as I have had brief experiences in a stage that was mostly beyond me, then tumbled back, and then sometimes have experiences of longer duration in a more advanced stage. 


Everything Is Waiting For You, by David Whyte

FaceBook  On Apr 8, 2018 david doane wrote:

 Feeling alone is a mistake, and an illusion, because we're really not alone.  No one is an island.  I don't think everyone or everything is waiting for me, but they are with me as part of this world, and I can reach out and connect rather than be alone.  It's not necessary to be alone.  I've been in groups in which I felt close connection with the others, and felt listened to, cared about and known.  Such experiences are grand, loving, and intimate.  When my aloneness is lonely, heavy, miserable for me, I put down the weight of my aloneness and reach out, or at least I can, and make an effort to connect with another.  For me, it often hasn't been easing into connection and often has felt difficult but it is preferable and holds more possibility than remaining in an aloneness that is miserable.  Usually I know that my aloneness is my own creation, and I know that my ending my aloneness and reaching out is also up to me.


Listening As An Act Of Transformation, by Doug Lipman

FaceBook  On Apr 1, 2018 david doane wrote:

 This essay by Doug Lipman is for me a beautiful and powerful story.  It expresses a lesson that I am still learning.  I know that listening allows and facilitates transformation.  We heal and transform from inside out, and what we need is a chance to let our inside out, and someone listening nonjudgmentally makes that easier.  Feeling deeply listened to facilitated my opening up, expressing me, and learning more about myself.  Feeling deeply listened to I felt accepted which enhanced my self-acceptance and self-confidence and being myself, all of which were significant transformation in  my life.  What helps me have the patience and commitment to listen deeply is knowing the transformative power and satisfaction of deep listening both for the one being listened to and for me as the listener.


What Happens When We Wonder?, by Katie Steedly

FaceBook  On Mar 25, 2018 david doane wrote:

 For me, wonder is a sense of awe -- feeling washed over by and caught up in a wave of awe.  It's a peak experience.  It's a feeling of overwhelmed in a positive way by something much bigger than me.  Wonder is a positive and profound experience during which I feel very alive, aware, excited and peaceful all at once.  I felt wonder when I learned that my body is made up of a hundred trillion cells all working together while I am simultaneously a cell in a much larger body called the cosmos.  I felt wonder one night outside Zion National Park looking out at a huge and beautiful star filled sky.  I felt wonder in being present at birth.  What helps me stay in wonder is being in the here and now, seeing and appreciating what is rather than being preoccupied, and being aware that all that is, living and not living, is an awesome miracle that I am part of.


The Difficult People In Your Life, by Sally Kempton

FaceBook  On Mar 16, 2018 david doane wrote:

 There's something about that guy I just can't stand in myself.  I look across the room and see me.  Seeing what I don't like in the other as being in some way also part of me is an opening to my being more aware of self and improving self.  And as the author says, I can't change the other and I can do some changing of me, so I might as well focus on me, which will have ain impact on the other.  Becoming aware of self is becoming aware of one's own energy.  As I would jump in, rather than be a scared hiding spectator, I became aware of my energy.  Sometimes others liked what I said or did, which felt good.  Sometimes others didn't like what I said or did.  The important thing is that I became aware that I have energy, which is power, I have a right and responsibility to own my energy and power, my energy and power make a difference, and I want to use my energy and power to make a positive difference.  My being aware of all that does help me remain aware of my energy and how I use it.


What You Do Afterwards, by Keith Sawyer

FaceBook  On Mar 11, 2018 david doane wrote:

 There are times when my action is my right action, simply an expression of what feels right to me in that moment.  In so doing, my action is meaningful to me because I'm being true to myself.  I never know what my action means to the other.  I don't let go of my ownership of my action -- I do let go of its meaning to the other, which is outside my control.  What helps me stay mindful of how I can open up possibility with my action is to keep as my mantra 'process, not outcome,' which promotes a kind of improvising because I have no script or agenda in mind.  When my action is my truth and independent of what it means to the other, I'm integrated, free and creative, and possibilities for growth open.


Do A Nice Thing For Your Future Self, by Elizabeth Gilbert

FaceBook  On Mar 4, 2018 david doane wrote:

 I am the best friend my future self has.  To a great extent, I'm a present oriented person with the firm belief that taking good care of my self physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually in the present is also best for my future self.  For example, I eat healthily and exercise, I do some letting go of things which clutter my life, I continuing to learn, I have relationships and make an effort to relate well, I do some relaxing and meditating, and I enhance my spirituality, all of which are good for my present self and my future self.  I also make some financial savings for my future self.  My belief that a happy and healthy present self is best for my future self helps me stay rooted in affection for my future self.  Sympathy for my future self doesn't feel right to me, but my belief helps me stay rooted in care for my future self.


Wisdom Of Grieving, by Terry Patten

FaceBook  On Feb 25, 2018 david doane wrote:

 People arrive at maturity in all kinds of ways.  When dealing with a loss, passing through all 5 stages of grieving is a way to arrive at maturity, but it's not a have to.  Not everyone responds to loss by going through the stages.  Our response to grief depends on where we're at in life and in maturity.  Many people live in acceptance and respond with acceptance.  They're already mature in that way.  A significant loss for me that I'm thinking about resulted in deep sadness, internal anguish, grief, a lot of confusion, some bargaining, and acceptance, pretty much in that order; I don't think I was angry or depressed.  Knowing that change -- birth and death, beginning and ending, gains and losses -- is always happening, and growing in acceptance of that, helps me stay in motion and find some equanimity.


Living In The Freshest Chamber Of The Heart, by Mark Nepo

FaceBook  On Feb 17, 2018 david doane wrote:

 We each have many 'chambers' filled with experiences from over the years.  Sometimes I live in the freshest chamber and learn from the experience of past chambers, which helps me stay afloat.  Sometimes I hold onto the unhappy experiences of old chambers in a way that sinks me, such as when I become negative and self-torturing.  In any case, all the chambers are me -- what I've done and experienced stays part of me -- there is no delete button.  Time alone doesn't put anything in perspective -- my perspective changes with what I do and what happens in time regarding past experiences.  I can grow from past experience and use what I've gained as I live in the freshest chamber,and that may make the past feel lighter and help me live and love wiser and fuller.  Nothing helps me to love again for the first time -- I can love again and love better, but there is only one first time.


Deep Ecological Awareness Is Spiritual Awareness, by Fritjof Capra and Pier Luigi Luisi

FaceBook  On Feb 9, 2018 david doane wrote:

 Shallow ecological awareness is the dualistic view that sees us as separate from nature and supports exploiting nature.  It is shallow, and harmful.  Deep ecological awareness means to me that there is one
activity/process/network/web called the universe that we are inseparably part of, in which all that is including us humans is  fundamentally and totally interrelated and interconnected.  As Thich Nhat Hanh says, we are interbeings that interarise in interisness.  I have had this awareness for a long time, and it helps me see that all is one, which is the foundation of my spirituality.  It feels very right for me and I allow and nurture the ongoing growth and deepening of such ecological awareness.


What Breaks Your Heart?, by Maria Shriver

FaceBook  On Feb 3, 2018 david doane wrote:

 What breaks my heart is our lack of compassion and cooperation with one another and with our environment, which is the result of our lack of awareness that we are all one, we are part of one whole that we call the universe, and all that is is sacred.  Evidence of this lack of awareness is the disintegration of our society, the us vs them divisive attitude that is so prevalent, the anger and violence that erupt so easily, the lack of purpose and meaning that so many suffer, the emptiness with which so many live.  I feel sad about all that, even heart broken, which seems to fill me and fuel me to live more compassionately, and I feel pleased and grateful when I do.  Often I'm busy with whatever and don't notice my broken heart, but it's always there.  Paying attention to the state of our world and to my own feelings makes it easy for me to feel and acknowledge my broken heart -- it becomes unignorable.  Namaste


Spiritual Activism, by Michael Singer

FaceBook  On Jan 27, 2018 david doane wrote:

 Michael Singer sure likes talking in extremes.  In relation to his essay, spiritual activism means staying centered, knowing that I can control (at least to some degree) no one but myself.  As AA says, you can drive only one car.  Our President offers me plenty of opportunities to let go of the personal part of me that reacts to the personal part of him.  I have gotten angry at him, called him names, gotten myself all agitated, and then am upset at myself for indulging in all that.  What helps me stay connected to myself and not fall into destructive reactive patterns is to remind myself that anger is not a necessary emotion, remind myself that I am independent of how the other is, remind myself that how he is I've been or can be, remind myself that there's something about that guy I just can't stand in me, and remind myself that my responsibility is to be the way I believe and not get hung up on how he is.  When I do all that, I sleep well.


Does Life Have A Purpose?, by J. Krishnamurti

FaceBook  On Jan 19, 2018 david doane wrote:

 To fulfill oneself in perfection means to fulfill myself in being all of what I am, being total and whole, being all of me present and manifesting.  I think I never felt life in all things, unless it was somewhere between conception and about age two.  I have come to think that there is life in all things, and that awareness has been enlivening for me and has helped me feel more one with all resulting in increased compassion for and with all.  What helps me include the negative in my conception of the positive is considering and believing that there is no negative and positive in nature, they are only in my perception.  There is one nature/reality that I am part of -- some of it I like and some I don't, some I agree with and some I don't, some of which I embrace and some of which I fear, but I know I and it are really all part of the one.


You Are Saved By Your Love, by Michael Damian

FaceBook  On Jan 13, 2018 david doane wrote:

 Love is oneness.  In experiencing and realizing oneness with all that is, living and not living, I experience love.  In love I am saved from disconnection, isolation, and fear that accompany lack of love.  Each of us is a unique individual, which we begin to learn at a young age.  It is when we realize that we also are simultaneously part of every other and part of all that is that we experience the oneness that is love.  My love saved me since I came to realize this, and it is a realization and love that keeps deepening.  Becoming experientially married, which happened for me slowly and long after getting legally married, helped me realize oneness that includes individuality, which is love that saves me.  Love or oneness helps me shed surface layers like image, ego, and false self, and get to know my real self that has always been.


Becoming Master Artists, by Eknath Easwaran

FaceBook  On Jan 9, 2018 David Doane wrote:

 We do and can challenge our conditioning and affect what we become.  Conditioning influences us, it doesn’t determine us.  Each of us has the capacity to choose and grow and remake ourselves significantly, but not completely.  We can change within human limits.  We can’t do whatever we want or choose — we can only do what we can do, which is a great deal.  Trusting myself including to swim upstream helps me find joy and satisfaction in challenging my conditioning.


Universality Is Not An Idea, It Is Reality, by Sadhguru Jaggi Vasudev

FaceBook  On Jan 4, 2018 David Doane wrote:

 While universality as an experience is a tremendous and life changing  experience, universality as  an intellectual idea is no more damaging than any other intellectual idea.  An intellectual idea can be an alternative to experiential reality, and it can be an entry point.  You never know.  In those times that I experience universality as my reality, I feel the universality/oneness/union in my being, and I feel a harmony with all that is.  That experience and reminding myself of universality help me move toward and stay in the experience of universality.


Where We Are Is Our Temple, by Jack Kornfield

FaceBook  On Dec 22, 2017 david doane wrote:

Jack Kornfield's essay and Chief Seattle's statement are beautiful.  Wherever you are is your temple, out of which and with which you can express the love from which the temple arises.  The challenge is for us to do that.  At those times that I live with awareness that we are one, when I see the other as myself, I am compassionate rather than competitive, and I am living my practice.  At those times that I live with awareness that all that is is one, I am aware that what I do to this planet and universe I do to everyone and everything including myself, and I am living my practice.  What helps me have an undivided heart is reminding myself through thought, reading, discussion, reflection, meditation that I have an undivided heart that is part of an undivided universe.  Such awareness brings me peace, joy, and satisfaction.


The Gift Of Threshold Moments, by Sam Keen

FaceBook  On Dec 16, 2017 david doane wrote:

 I appreciate Sam Keen's essay.  A threshold moment is a crossover moment, a moment of transformation.  It's the point when the water reaches 212 degrees and transforms to steam, or when the caterpillar breaks through the cocoon and emerges a butterfly.  The threshold moment is the moment of entering a new reality.  Moving around during a group therapy, I was tiptoeing and someone asked me, "Do you tiptoe through all of life?"  That was a moment of awakening for me, an aha moment, a threshold moment.  My taking in a therapists's words that I have a right to be powerful was a threshold moment for me.  What helped me open up to the immense mystery was feeling safe, seen and encouraged, and once I had a personal threshold moment, I wanted more.  The first one was the critical one.  They're addicting.