What if we receive a comfortable, healthy life but no one to love us truly? Will we be happy will such a life?
Many rich people fall in this category and keep wanting more fame, name, stuff etc. wondering how to get real happiness. Greed, over-ambition are as much sign of missing love in life as depression or stress. 

Few centuries back, people were more content than today -- while they didnt have many of the technical progressive stuff and machines to comfort life. What was different ? They had each other; more often in deeper relations.

I feel loving others is the most beautiful, wonderful thing I can do. It creates a loving , nourishing space which has the capacity to heal others and me. 

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Few years back i was assigned under a manager who was dominating the team to the extent to take away their rights given by the company. He was also more bothered about self-centric benefits than what is good for overall team or company. I raised a concern with seniors and meetings were being held to look into the matter. 
Over a few days, I saw the manager extremely tense and worried. He was shouting at me at times. I was upset but in that moment, while responding to his email ; something else happened. 
I could look at him as a person who spent years making his career, creating a goodwill and reaching a certain position in career. Though, some of his ways were wrong; yet the way of handling was becoming harsh from human angle. Hence, this email I wrote with more understanding and softness; realizing that this will prevent the case/me to be taken seriously any longer. 
It happened and the manager got some levy, though i suffered from his behaviour itself. I am still content that in that one moment , I could let go of ego related victory and put humanity first.

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To practice gratitude, when I sit down to pray daily, i kneel on my knees and offer gratefulness for 3 things. It really helps to be consistent and feel grateful.

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This act of kindness, back from 2011 is appropriate on this topic, hence sharing:

There is a mentally retarded person who keeps standing near my office from 1-2 months. He is in rugged, torn clothes, v dirty. He has lost his mind and  hence i was a little scared to help him initially.

One day, I saw him searching dustbin and picking out a coke bottle, he was thirsty. I felt sad, disliked the scene and bought him a coke. He looked at me for a moment, a deep stare and then accepted it.

After that I noticed him many times. I realised that he has become childlike, doesnt know what to do, keeps standing here and there making movements or faces like a small kid. Sometimes i choose to ignore him, for several reasons as i visit the place almost every other day, and as he has lost his brain, i dont want any incidence to happen, neither do i want him to ask me for food everyday. There are few colleagues around too.

However, I did oserve him few days and I find him innocent and suffering, I felt one with him. If i dont have money tomorrow or lose my head, people would treat me similarly, how scary. It brings a tear in my eye. He needs someone to take him home, wash him, give him food and a lot of love. He should be fine may be or may be not but he needs someone to take care day on day.

So another day, when i felt bad, i purchased him another coke, he again observed me and accepted it. He acknowledged me by giving a short deep look. I felt so good by his reaction.

Today, when i went for tea my mad friend was roaming around. He has started recognising me and gives me a look as if saying 'this is someone nice' when i pass by him. He went past me 2-3 times and was just playing with his hands. It was little cold today and i thought he needed tea as well. While going back i couldnt stop myself from going and asking him for tea. I dont know which language he understands but surely the language of care, he does. He nodded. I called him and pointed to a spot and asked him to quietly stand there. Like an obeidient child he sat exactly at that point. How innocent and vulnerable. He kept waiting for 2-3 min without any fuss or moving around. I could see the trust he had how wonderful. I have been scared when i can protect myself, atleast try to. He trusts me blindly when he cannot even understand if i cheat or harm him.

I gave him tea and a small snack. He took it and started eating like a kid.

I had come to the tea stall a little disturbed due to some work related tension, i went back feeling calm and peaceful. He gave me respect and trust though he is totally vulnerable. He expressed gratitude in his own way though he cannot even express his own needs. I cry as I write this and think about him and his condition, yet that small moment was so powerful for both of us. He was accepted and cared for as a human being and I was treated like 'God' by this person who people call mad.

What a b'ful communication God has made beyond language, words and mind; just the ability to give and accept love and gratitude.

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I used to have arguments with peopl when I felt they were not following what is correct and value-oriented. This was a common ground for my being angry and expressing it too on few people. This was common at work or when I had to deal with people in society as nowadays people in a highly competitive India are ready to forego values and honesty for getting money or success.
I joined a company where the manager was speaking lies, playing politics and making wrong use of power to  get success and prevent me from establising myself.
I got angry and escalated. I was tense all the time to prevent any wrong from happenign against me and fighting , complaining in company.
One day, when senior manager listened to me, I just happened to realise that I am talking against a person who has taken pains and somehow made a career. I know he is using wrong means to be successful but somewhere I have lost love for him as a fellow human. I could see that in his struggle to save his position he was going against me all the more. In those moments I wrote an email where I accepted having made mistakes too. This gave him an upper hand in the case. He continued to go against me and I had to find another job for myself.
It was a tough time but I knew that I did it out of love for another being as a person inspite of all mistakes.
After that I have been able to see the human angle in others decisions and position, have been able to look at them with love and allow them to choose their values for their own life. I do still try to encourage people to follow good ethics but by setting an example and by love. It works in its own ways and sometimes much more than an aggressive attitude did. It leaves me and others at peace.
It happened because of that one moment when I realised that I cannot drive any wrong against another person and put him and his family in problems inspite of he not following the moral values I consider as correct. An eye-opener and a war-stopper :) 

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