Waking up to Wisdom
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Technique of the Dance

--by Anne Morrow Lindbergh (Dec 03, 2007)

Relationship is not strangled by claims. Intimacy is tempered by lightness of touch. We have moved through our day like dancers, not needing to touch more than lightly because we were instinctively moving to the same rhythm.

A good relationship has a pattern like a dance and is built on some of the same rules. The partners do not need to hold on tightly, because they move confidently in the same pattern, intricate but gay and swift and free, like a country dance of Mozart's. To touch heavily would be to arrest the pattern and freeze the movement, to check the endlessly changing beauty of its unfolding. There is no place here for the possessive clutch, the clinging arm, the heavy hand; only the barest touch in passing. Now arm in arm, now face to face, now back to back -- it does not matter which. Because they know they are partners moving to the same rhythm, creating a pattern together, and being invisibly nourished by it.

The joy of such a pattern is not only the joy of creation or the joy of participation, it is also the joy of living in the moment. Lightness of touch and living in the moment are intertwined.

But how does one learn this technique of the dance? Why is it so difficult? What makes us hesitate and stumble? It is fear, I think, that makes one cling nostalgically to the last moment or clutch greedily toward the next. But how to exorcise it? It can only be exorcised by its opposite, love. When the heart is flooded with love, there is no room in it for fear, for doubt, for hesitation. And it is this lack of fear that makes for the dance. When each partner loves completely then he has forgotten to ask himself whether or not he is loved in return; when he only knows that he loves and is moving to its music -- then, and then only, are two people able to dance perfectly in tune to the same rhythm.

--Anne Morrow Lindbergh

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On Dec 4, 2007 Abraham Owusu Agyei wrote:
I am really touched by such a wonderful words of inspiration. May you be blessed to continue sharing.

Once again thank you!

On Dec 4, 2007 Mak wrote:
This is really an outstanding audio. I am quite impressed with the effectiveness of Anne Lindbergh's passionate, inspirational commentary!! Mesmerizing and meditational..
Namaste, Love

On Dec 4, 2007 Anand wrote:
i am a collector of such inspirations and such words of wisdom, i guess i am like an inhouse soldier, fighting for people who cant fight back, such inspirations transform into my armoury, sometimes i dont really have the words to lift spirits during a loss or mishap, or when maybe someone's down..and sometimes just by telling things to people doesnt make a diference to their life, but the inspirational qoutes you have..touches people, and i am just happy that it makes people stronger and maybe make the faces twitch into a smile, i kind of break the words down, memorise it and dish it out to someone who really need it, i owe you guys heartful thanks.

On Dec 4, 2007 Conrad wrote:
Thank you Nipun.
I continue to be inspired by what you send. You have my gratitude.

On Dec 4, 2007 Tatiana wrote:
As if I had the right notion but not the right words. Every single word strikes just the right cord in the heart and sounds just right. Thank you!

On Dec 6, 2007 Brinda wrote:
This quote was first shared with me by a dear friend 20 years ago. It touched my heart today just as it did all those years ago. "Gift from the Sea" by Anne Morrow Lindbergh is a true treasure of a book.
Thank you for sharing this quote...especially this week. Somehow the right words always seem to find us at the right time.
With much gratitude,

On Dec 9, 2007 Janani Bala wrote:
Naanaati baduku naatakamu
Kaanaka kannadi kaivalyamu

Puttutayu nijamu povutayu nijamu
Nattanadimi pani naatakamu
Yetta neduta gala dee prapamchamu
Katta gadapatidi kaivalyamu

Kudichae dannamu koka chuttedidi
Nada mamtrapu pani naatakamu
Vodi gattukonina vubhaya karmamulu
Gadi daatinapude kaivalyamu

Tegadu paapamu teeradu punyamu
Nagi nagi kaalamu naatakamu
Yeguvane Sree vaemkataesvarudaelika
Gaganamu meedidi kaivalyamu

In this song,Annamayya points out the nature of the daily life. Every day life is a drama. Birth is also true so is the death. In between what we see is drama. Ultimate is Kaivalyamu. Time keeps reminding us of the ultimate goal, liberation to reach Lord Venkateshwara.

This day to day (nAnATi) life (batuku) is a drama (nATakamu) What is to not seen clearly (kAnaka kannadi exactly means something which is seen yet not seen; for instance an object at a far off distance) is liberation/salvation (kaivalyamu)

C1:To be born (puTTuTayu) is truth (nijamu), to die (pOvuTayu literal meaning is to go; to leave) is truth. All the work (pani) in between these two (naTTanaDimi) is a drama. That which is right in front (yeTTa neduTagaladI) is the world (prapaNcamu). That which is the ultimate last (kaTTakaDapaTidi) is liberation.

C2:To partake/relish (kuDicEdi) rice/food (annamu), to wrap around (cuTTeDidi) a cloth/saree (kOka), this conjured-in-the-middle (naDamantrapu) work (pani) is a drama. When one crosses beyond (gaDidATinapuDE) the above mentioned dual duties (vubhayakarmulu) only then there is liberation.

C3:There is no break (tegadu literally means it doesn't cut/snap like for instance to say a rope doesn't cut) to sin (pApamu). There is never completion (tIradu) to good/holiness (puNyamu). All this laughing (and also laughable) (nagi nagi) time (kAlamu) is a drama. Above (yeguvane literally means at a higher place) there is only ONE VenkaTEShvara. That which is even beyond (mIdidi means one which is above; here in percepetion) the sky (gaganamu) is liberation.

On Dec 21, 2007 Bobbi wrote:
These words came to me at a perfect time. I read them often when I am feeling jealous or insecure. Ultimately...I want to dance.

On Oct 1, 2008 raghu wrote:
hi janani bala, what an explaination u have given, hatsoff to you. u explained very well. thank you very much. its a gr8 keerthana by annamacharya. very spritual. real meaning of life.

On Mar 29, 2010 jananibala wrote:

The above  translation can be found online elsewhere as well, Don't have the original link handy- i merely posted it here, in context.

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