Waking up to Wisdom
In Stillness and Community

Power of Blessing

--by Rachel Naomi Remen (Jan 21, 2008)

We bless the life around us far more than we realize. Many simple, ordinary things that we do can affect those around us in profound ways: the unexpected phone call, the brief touch, the willingness to listen generously, the warm smile or wink of recognition. We can even bless total strangers and be blessed by them. Big messages come in small packages. All it may take to restore someone's trust in life may be returning a lost earring or a dropped glove.

A woman once told me that she did not feel the need to reach out to those around her because she prayed every day. Surely, this was enough. But a prayer is about our relationship to God; a blessing is about our relationship to the spark of God in one another. God may not need our attention as badly as the person next to us on the bus or behind us on line in the supermarket. Everyone in the world matters, and so do their blessings. When we bless others, we offer them refuge from an indifferent world.

The capacity to bless life is in everybody. The power of our blessing is not diminished by illness or age. On the contrary, our blessings become even more powerful as we grow older. They have survived the buffeting of our experience. We may have traveled a long, hard road to the place where we can remember once again who we are. That we have traveled and remembered gives hope to those we bless. Perhaps in time they too can remember this place beyond competition and struggle, this place where we belong to one another... I first learned to do this from people who were dying, people who had moved into a more authentic relationship with those around them because only that which is genuine still had meaning for them. These people had let go of the ways in which they had changed themselves to win approval, and so they made it safe for others to remove their masks as well.

--Rachel Naomi Remen

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On Jan 21, 2008 david dunlop wrote:
Rachel once answered a phone call from me, and gave me a personal significant blessing in the form of a referral to a woman M.D. .. that she herself goes to to gain "clarity."

On Jan 22, 2008 sue wrote:
How true, doing little things for people is uplifting, being honest when you've been given too much change is uplifting, smiling at people and saying hello is uplifting.
These little things make everyone feel good.

On Jan 22, 2008 Timoteo wrote:

We should never curse;we should always bless.Bless God, bless yourself and bless your enemy.Who is your enemy?Is not blood and flesh but the Enemy of your soul and souls

On Jan 22, 2008 Norita wrote:
Rachel Remen is a great story teller, a spiritual teacher. I felt blessed to have met her and be inspired by her sense of gratitude, healing, living and loving.

On Jan 22, 2008 supun wrote:
at be the cause we share a document that has cool quotes and a small list of random acts of kinds people can do: (see link).

I don't believe in gods or really understand the concept of blessings, but I did enjoy the thought for this week. Doing small service projects is a good way to put yourself into this space so you can be like that more and more. I do have a rationale to why I smile and people: it makes me feel good when I get one returned my way. A smile from a pretty woman or anyone else can be the highlight of my whole boring month sometimes. It's a natural anti-depressant and cures dis-ease :-)

sending and receiving good vibes is self-perpetuating, that's probably what she means by "blessings"?

On Jan 22, 2008 brinda wrote:
How beautiful and true. We perform these small blessings every day and it makes the heart glad.

On Jan 22, 2008 Conrad wrote:
I love these letting go ideas. Letting go becomes more important to me as I age. Perhaps I have more to let go of. The last issue of Education Revolution has an excellent artivle by Charles Eisenstein on De-schooling Yourself. It is about letting go of the way schools conribute to acting out of habit rather than mindfully. Thanks much Nipun and Viral.Conrad

On Jan 22, 2008 conrad wrote:
Blessings and good vibes to all readers and everyone else. I was encouraged and blessed by what Supun wrote. I too have no god other than everyone and everything.

On Jan 24, 2008 pappu wrote:
So Beautiful, so true, we are blessed! One day i would like to meet Respected Rachel Reman (RRR). I love to read her articles. she is truly a spriitual teacher of so many.
God Bless Her.

On Jun 3, 2008 Kaye wrote:
My curiousity is a blessing.

On Jun 18, 2008 Shivaraj Parajuli wrote:
I want blessed all who are in misery,but don't afraid of misery, you will soon come out of it.Please take care of little silence.